Crista Asked:

“I am currently separated from my husband. He is from Ohio and he moved to Illinois to be with me. He has a 10 year old son that visits us during the summer. He also goes back often to Ohio to be with his son or his family will visit and bring his son with them. We have been married one year so I have spent 2 summers with his son. I have a nine year old daughter and a six year old daughter. His son is emotionally abusive to my girls, lies constantly, and is unable to accept any responsibility for his actions. He is also sexually inappropriate with his comments and with my oldest daughter. I talked to four child experts that all said he displays disturbing behavior and potential personalily pathologies. My husband won’t hear of it. He says his son is wonderful with everyone but me. His dad is working and never around except for part of Friday and Saturdays. The rest of the time his son is with me and my girls. My husband displays some of the same characteristics as his son. Unable to accept responsibility (always makes enemies at jobs but its always the other persons fault, even the supervisors), he is irresponsible (Didn’t do his ’08 and ’09 taxes. Won’t give me a straight answer why not and then lied saying he thought they were taken care of. I’ve been asking him to do them for a year and a half). He has made enemies with my friends who don’t like or trust him. My mom says there is something about him she has never trusted. I still love him so much but my girl’s safety is more important. Writing this my situation sounds like I have only one answer…divorce. I just can’t seem to bring myself to file. I’m so confused. I forgot to mention he gambles. He took money from our account and lied about it. He doesn’t think he has a problem and hasn’t gambled in 6 months that I know of.”

- Crista (37, O’Fallon, Illinois)

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Kapoor Asked:

“I love my wife very much. As far as love is concerned I don’t have any IFs or BUTs for her. But, when it comes to behavioral sense and adjustment with family and friends she hurts me a lot. She don’t like my parents/her in laws and nags always. She had shown some abrupt behave also to me as to scrach me in anger without any cause. He is leaving apart from me since last four months and we talk very less…whenever she talks also on phone she starts nagging…I am fed up with her this behave and wants her to be cured and think for me and her..our future and love. We have many fond loving moments together but she rarely reminds those…I feel very sad and missing her…I was under depression for almost 6 months because of this heart break also… what should I do?”

Regards,
- Kapoor (27)

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Scarlette Asked:

“I am 17 years old, I live with my family and am one of six children. I have three older siblings who are married and live a few hours away. Each of the siblings and in-laws come to stay every weekend and it is really hard on my two younger brothers and myself. We only have four bedrooms so my brothers and I are left sleeping on the floor in the living room, the basement, etc. My older siblings treat us unkindly and often have my younger brothers in tears because they tease and torment them. They leave our rooms and entire house a huge mess and it is hard to get everything organized and ready to go for school the next week. All my parents tell myself and my younger brothers is that we don’t have any money so anything we want/need, besides food, we have to pay for (which I realize may happen in some other homes) but when the older siblings come my parents take them out and buy them items for their homes, clothing, electronics.. Every weekend. They say they don’t want their married children to feel cut off. Whenever my brothers and I talk to my parents about the situation it turns into a humongous fight where my parents are screaming at us and tell us if we don’t like it then we can move out. What can I do to improve this situation? Am I just being a brat? I hate seeing my younger brothers so upset. Everyone thinks we are the perfect family. Please help.”

- Scarlette (17, Las Vegas, NV)

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Michael Asked:

“Theres a girl I met a couple of months back, through a mutual best friend, whom I started to get quite friendly with, nothin serious, just typical sweetheart stuff. Weve had continual conversations for the past 6 weeks and are both seeming remarkably ‘loved up’. This all sounds fine and everything, except for her family problems…Shes not the biggest ‘sharer’, so its not crystal clear what the problem is, but suffice it to say that our mutual best friend has our best intentions at heart and has simply explained it to me that her family are extremely over protective and untill her family situation cools down and gets better, bieng in a official relationship would cause her extreme amounts of grief with what would be an even more vexed family. No matter how hard Ive looked, I cant seem to find anything wrong with this girl and would be happy to wait for her because I want to be with her that much, but theres no telling how long itll take for her family situation to cool down, if it ever will and I just dont know what to do…any help will be much appreciated, thanks.”

- Michael (18, Derbyshire, England)

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Kime Asked:

“Im in relationship with my boyfriend from 5 years ..we were thinking about the marriage .. my boyfriend approached his parents ..they are not agreeing for our marriage.. my boyfriends father is not keeping well, my boyfriend want to go with his parents.. he is feeling very guilty for that.. we still talk to each other & he still helping me out in each step ..I want him for my rest of the live .. im not ready to leave him .. im trying to convince him a lot but he is worried abt his fathers health .. i don’t know what to do now ..Plz help me out in what way i can make him understand..”

- Kime (26)

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Germaine Asked:

“since my son married his wife treats me very badly and tells blatant lies about me to my son and prevents me as much as she can spending time with my son – i live in paris and they live in USA – i am usually the one to travel to see them – since my last visit my son is very angry mainly because of stupid lies (eg.’your mother gets up late everymorning and just does her nails’) she overloads him with complaints about me and he finally explodes yelling at me accusingly – that’s how i know she lies – so back in paris i hardly hear from him and although i have written to her she never acknowledges my letters/emails – so what should i do? please help as your site seems the only one that can – with THANKS Germaine.”

- Germaine (66, Paris)

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KC Asked:

“My story is that i have had this arranged marriage, which i never liked, and i was forced into, my wife and her parents also lied everything. I choose to sacrifice, even if she was not good looking because she was a doctor, anyway that is all past. I still tried to be nice, and it has been 7 years in our marriage, we argue all the time, verbal arguments, may be we had sex three to four times in this seven years, and in that three to four times only, we also have a kid. She doesnt like me, i dont like her, i want to move on, but i was patient all these years, because my kid will be impacted because she wont have one parent. I am originally from India, day in and day out i cry to myself, how did i end up like this? Why did not i make a correct choice of choosing the right girl.
I am ashamed of my situation, and i sincerely wish no one in this world should face the situation i am in. I tell her to go, enough is enough, because she also doesnt like me and i hate her, she says she is going, but she doesnt. Now i am ready to divorce her, i cant take it anymoe. But my sister and brother from India and my friends tell that if i do that my daughter’s life will be spoiled, because people wont respect her, she cannot be brought up nicely because her parents are divorced.

Any ideas will surely help me. Thanks so much for your help.”

- KC (37, US)

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Kunju Asked:

“There is a marriage proposal for my eldest daughter with an an eldest boy from other family. They said that it is not possible because both of them are eldest in the respective families. Is that correct?”

- Kunju (52, Kochi, Kerala, India)

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Angie Asked:

“My husband admits to being a sex addict and I have found out what he does many times, he always promises to change but I simply cant trust him and he is very angry with me because of this. I have had similar destructive relationships before and I had a very bad upbringing with an alcoholic father no mum and my brother abused me so my self esteem is rock bottom most of the time, I dont know how or If I should trust him or indeed anybody as I feel very vunerable if I do! I am 15 years older than him and I am obese and have a lot of health problems too and also have 28 year old autistic son who I care for!

I just want to throw the towel in and give up on him. I cant leave as I have no money all my money went into buying the house we live in now! I am disabled and have my son to think of too, he would not cope with moving as I moved 250 miles away from all my family and friends to be with him, I dont have a sole too talk to here. I dont know what to do, I feel I am totally trapped and I am desperate for help and support from somebody.
What should I do ? “

- Angie (50, U.K)

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