“I am a 26 year old woman. I have a very difficult relationship with my father which seems to go back and forth and is upsetting my life during important periods that matter most. I am really sick and tired of this vicious circle and its draining my energy when I need it most which leads to depression.
My father was abusive physically with my mother and emotionally with me and my brother. I am the older daughter and being a girl I feel the abuse was more directed towards me. My brother has cut off all contact with my father for some years now after my mother’s death. I am still in touch but I find myself very agitated after every conversation. But I still don’t feel like completely losing touch with him at the same time I feel that I should for many things. Although my father is abusive and inconsistent. He seems to care about what happens to his children and offers to help which he does inconsistently and conditionally. I feel that he is insecure about us leaving him and severing all ties which my brother did successfully, but it is this insecurity that makes him treat us badly by pulling the rug from underneath our feet when we need it most.