Kavya Asked:

“I am a 26 year old woman. I have a very difficult relationship with my father which seems to go back and forth and is upsetting my life during important periods that matter most. I am really sick and tired of this vicious circle and its draining my energy when I need it most which leads to depression.
My father was abusive physically with my mother and emotionally with me and my brother. I am the older daughter and being a girl I feel the abuse was more directed towards me.  My brother has cut off all contact with my father for some years now after my mother’s death. I am still in touch but I find myself very agitated after every conversation. But I still don’t feel like completely losing touch with him at the same time I feel that I should for many things.  Although my father is abusive and inconsistent. He seems to care about what happens to his children and offers to help which he does inconsistently and conditionally. I feel that he is insecure about us leaving him and severing all ties which my brother did successfully, but it is this insecurity that makes him treat us badly by pulling the rug from underneath our feet when we need it most.

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Prem Asked:

“i loved a girl and we had sex for many times and that girl too loved me deeply now she is avoiding and not talking to me and she is saying that their parents are not accepting our love. earlier she said she will register marry me if their parents not accept our love. now she is saying they are not interested and you also please leave me. what shall i do now i want her to be in my life.”

- Prem (24, Hyderabad)

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Shannon Asked:

“I have been with my boyfriend for almost 5 years, he’s 26 and I’m 25. We have been living together for almost 4 years. We have had ups and downs in the past like any other relationship. But his mother doesn’t seem to like me. She doesn’t make it extremely obvious in front of my boyfriend, but when she gets the chance to she makes digs at me. The latest example was when she said to me ” When are you moving to America to give him a break” My boyfriend and I are trying to move away together but i’m not sure if shes aware of this. But when i mention the digs his mother shoots at me, his response is always “Oh, she didn’t mean it like that”
Also about two years ago my boyfriend went out one early evening and never returned home. So I went to his mothers house to see if he was there. It was around 5am. She said he wasn’t and up to this day he says he was there but told her not to tell me. His mother could see i was worried and she knew that i had done a 45min walk at 5am to her house. could she be that mean or is he lying and was somewhere else? Hes also been secretive when he speaks to his family members on the phone and i’m not sure why. I do get on well with his sister, she is 45.I have no idea if he cheated on me two years ago, when I ask he says “no, i would never do that to you.” But i’m not sure. We have had a good relationiship other than the little incidents two years ago. He does look after me well, we are like bestfriends and I know two years have passed and they say that there’s no point in bringing up the past but im not sure what to think about that. Or how to handle his mother when she starts to make her little digs. I have to stand up for myself and put her in her place but i’m not sure how.
PLEASE HELP”

- Shannon (25, Liverpool, England)

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Sneha Asked:

“hi, my husband is very nice, he is so polite and calm and i love him a lot. My marriage is an arrange marriage and we both of us are happy. I become sad when it comes the matter of my in-laws. Actually i like my in-laws but sometime they talk rudly to me. Franckly speaking i dont like my sister-in-law(my husbands elder brother wife). I dont like that women she is dual with her character but cant understand why in my in-laws family they like her alot. Actually there is a reason, she is very clever. she only talk nice or is helpful in the matter of her in-laws only. but i cant understand that why she dont like me. she want me to be in her under. she always try to make me in her hand. See i know that its not a big thing and i want to get out of this or i can say these things. just tell me how can i make me myself happy. i just want to ignore all these things.”

- Sneha (23, India)

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Roderick Asked:

“Dear Ms/sir,
I am a 34 year old man an I have been with my ex gf of 30yrs for the last 2 years, we had our ups and downs (like most people I guess) but on the whole I was very happy in the relation, I love her and I liked almost everything about her.

The main issue that I was not comfortable with was that I felt like second to her family, that is if her mother (her father passed away)wishes to goes out its the priority, Ill have to skip. To make things worse (from my perspective) her mother is the possesive type, she wants to keep all her children around her, even when her younger brother is going out she try to persuade him not to and to stay with her inside.I also got to know from her that her mother did not approve of our relationship.

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Jessica Asked:

This person needs help from someone who has earned an online psychology
degree.

“um a teenage recently married* (secretly) but now my family members knows they support my decision but thts not the problem the problem is that my hubby comes from a conservative family and i come from an free style family so there r simple differences like um an friendly person so i mix with everyone quite well and he hates that so i left all my friends but there are certain times when i really wanna talk to him bout my feelings but he is not that of a hearing person so if i call any of my male friends he yells at me and i love him beyond the limits and am afraid to lose him so i keep quite and accept my faults…. help me plz getting rid of his doubts…..”

- Jessica (1 6, Topkhana, Dhaka, Bangladesh)

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Sneha Asked:

“hi, earlier i have asked question on my relationship with my husband. thanks for your suggestion. but still i have something to share and ask. from my in-law family my sister-in-law(i.e is my husband’s brother’s wife) does not talk nicely to me but in front of my husband she shows that she likes me very much. i dont like this dual face. earlier i have tried from myself to end this insecurity of my sister-in-law but now i got fade up of this. she did not like me and never try be a friend with me. now i think that i am having problems in between me and my husband just because of her. i know i have seen her dude behaviouer but my husband always like her. please help me to get rid of this problem. i want to live life with my husband happily forever.”

- Sneha (23, India)

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Sneha Asked:

“hi, i am in a problem with my relationship with my husband. actually in my in-law family my husband talks very happily with my brother-in-law wife that i dont like. i get irritated of it, i feel jealous. i have tried to get rid of this problem but i could not. i have said about my problem to my husband but he said that i am thinking in a wrong way since he know her before my coming to his family so they talk like this. i know that my husband is not wrong but still i feel jealous and because of that sometime i get angry on him that i dont want to be. please help me how to control my jealous.”

- Sneha (23, India)

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Alex Asked:

“Im engaged to the love of my life. but she is attached to the hip to her mother and family.
She has always put her family before me, and until now im beggining to get tired of it.  She sometimes brings her cousins and mom to visit, and expects me to always pay, and the like to eat expensive.  I’ve brought it to her attention but says i make 4x as much as they do.  She comes from a family who was well off but now due to the reccession her mom lost her business.  I feel she expects me to provide her and her mother and 8 year boy with the lifestyle they once knew, but honestly i just cant, i have expenses and pay child support so i refuse to do it, and now she is contemplating ending our relationship.

What should i do or approach this?”

- Alex (39, El paso, Texas)

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Art Asked:

“my wife hates her new daughter in law and her family. my wife thinks her sons wife is just a user and want him to work while she stays at home. my wifes son moved to iowa and her family lives about 4 hours away from them so they spend all the holidays and visit her family atleast once a month but my wife only gets to see her son about once a year if they come visit. before he got married my wife and her son did everything together and after he moved (for a job) he called her everyday but that has stopped since he got married and when my wife calls her son all he talks about is his wife and now shes going to have a baby and my wife is very upset because she never gets any time with just her son and she will be luck if she gets to see her soon to be grandchild once a year and she knows that the other grandparents will get to see the grandchild atleast once a month and plan on selling their house so they can move in with their daughter and son in law. last week my wife told her son she never wants to see or speak to him again that she no longer knows who her son is etc. my wife is depressed and very sad cuz she loves her son she just hates his wife and his inlaws cuz they are a big part of her sons family and we have very little contact with them. Every time my wife would see her daughter in law post somthing on facebook it would just make her mad so she has since deleted them from her facebook account. I tried to explain to my wife that her son is now married and needs to live his life with his new wife and if he wants to let her stay home while he works that is his choice and it’s none of our business. it’s been a week since she told her son not to speak to her ever again and i don’t know what to do so my wife can have a relationship with her son and not hate her daughter in law.”

- Art (53, Las Vegas, NV)

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