Sean Asked:

“my fiance of 3 years and i recently had a falling out, she was txting this guy she had recently met up with and they started txting. we got into a huge fight and she left to stay at her mothers for a few days. when she finally came home she revealed to me that while we were “split up” she had planned on sleeping with this friend. she did not however she admitted that they were “dirty talking”. even though she didnt sleep with him i feel like the simple fact that she offered herself to him was bad enough, and i feel cheated on. i love her but im angry about it. and have even contemplated getting her back in some way. help me please what do i do.”

- Sean (20)

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Issac Asked:

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“Girlfriend and I just broke up out of the blue. She is telling people its because I couldn’t communitcate. I’ve always been shy and quiet and she has known me for many years. We have dated twice now and she says she’s ended it both times because of communication. We were looking at houses together and planning our future together then two days later broke up. She tells people that she loves me, misses me and is sad after we broke up. Its confusing. Now she tells people that she needs time. Im lost. I love this girl with all my heart. She has two kids who have never met their dads. I’ve been around them since birth so they know me as dad. She said she caught me doing something that her ex husband did before he started cheating on her. I never did what she was accusing me of. I’ve never and would never lie to this girl. Could her past make her scared to have a future with me. Do I give it time or look for something else. Any advice is appreciated.”

- Issac (26, U.S)

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Tayla Asked:

“Hi, I’ve been with my boyfriend 2 year’s, I love him lot’s but I’ve started to become really obsessed, when I’m not with him I’m worried if his getting into trouble with his friend’s, doing something he shouldn’t be. I’m constantly on his case ringing or texting him making sure his okay etc I don’t no what to do, I cry every night I don’t see him. I just love him and enjoy his company, theirfore I want to be with him 24 /7, but I can’t have that .”

- Tayla (18, Kent)

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Mitch Asked:

“I saw you reply to somebody with relationship troubles on an internet site, and just wondered if you could give me any help at all as I don’t know what to do.
A few months ago I am very ashamed to admit I took a video of my girlfriend of 3 months while she was getting ready. Whilst snooping on my laptop she found this video (which was in my recycle bin as I thought I had deleted it) and another of me and a friend watching a female dancer. She indirectly confronted me about videoing her and I lied saying I would never do something like that. (big mistake I know, but I didn’t want to lose her).
Since then she has directly confronted me and I told the truth, however she is naturally very hurt and finding it hard to trust me. She has very little confidence in herself and I want nothing more than for her to trust me so I can try and make her happy like we were before this.
I really love this girl with all my heart, I cry nearly every day knowing she doesn’t trust me any more, and I really don’t want to lose what we have got.
Can you offer any advice at all? It would be very much appreciated.

Thanks”

- Mitch (20, England)

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Cody Asked:

“My girl and I get along great and we have a lot in common. We have been together for a year and I am madly in love with her but I have a problem. She is a little too much tomboy. Sometimes Id like it if she would call me baby or say she likes the things I do or act like she appreciates me instead of just expecting me to already know that. What do i do to encourage the girly side of her.”

- Cody (23, Wisconsin)

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Shadez Asked:

“I loved a guy since my childhood, i’m 21 now and its almost 11 yrs from when i’ve fallen for him. but from the last few days i’m confused. my best friend says he loves me even i have something for him but i’m not sure its love because every time i get closer to him my childhood love pulls me back. i’ve never dated anyone because i just loved 1 guy in my life..but now..i don’t know what’s happening to me..what should i do? whom should i choose my childhood love or my best friend?? one more thing, the guy i loved never loved me but i still couldn’t give up my love for him…”

- Shadez (21, Delhi, India)

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David Asked:

“I broke up with my G/F about 8 weeks ago. she said she need a bit of space. and just wanted to be friends, I took it and tried playing it slow for about 4 weeks 1 letter a few text, then I phoned her. I started to grovel even cry, she just got angrier then I said i would wait even if she went out with other. she hang up and said to friend Im not a whore” In panic tried about 23 times to text and ring her shit nothing but friend text me hey stop now. So i did have spoken to friend twice since but she advised me to move on. I even tried a fake date text to her eg (Sent to her phone) Yes dinner at 7pm sounds nice (another girls name but starting with same letter) Nothihng HELP I REALLY LOVE THIS LADY AND WANT HER BACK
Thanks David”

- David (46, Longreach, QLD, Australia)

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Willow Asked:

“I met this woman at work about 2 years ago. We get along really well and have alot in common. We started to spend more and more time together. I was aware that she was in a committed relationship with her girlfriend and all was okay.
The relationship started to deepen into friendship and as we both have very flirtatious personalities this increased also. As this never felt right to me I made a point of not seeing her out of work, etc.
About 9 months ago her and her girlfriend broke up. She didn’t tell me straight away, but started flirting with me both in and out of work. One night a group of us went to dinner and I drove all home as they had all consumed much alcohol. When I dropped her off things got fairly heated. Out of respect for her I put her to bed by herself, not wanting her to do something she would later regret.
She wouldn’t talk about it for months and when she finally did, told me she wasn’t ready for a relationship and that it only happened because she was drunk. Her whole behavior to me has changed. She stopped all private contact and only sees me at work when she has too.
In the past month she has increased the contact again, flirts then seems to pull back. She refuses any offer to catch up out of work, but is now making excuses to see me at work.
Really confused as to what she wants from me.”

- Willow (38, F)

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Zach Asked:

“I’ve been seeing a girl for over a year, almost a year and a half on and off. I havn’t been the best boyfriend to her, one time I left her for another girl because I didn’t know what I wanted, but after a month I came back and worked things out. I really want to be with her, shes been very important and a big influence in my life. We almost had a kid about a 7 months ago, it ended in a miscarriage. After that she got fat and I would sometimes tease her about it. Once again, wrong of me. Very wrong. I just wanted to motivate her to loose wait. After we broke up this time I ended up meeting another girl. Multiple girls. And after about a week I relized that I wasn’t happy, I was just happy with her. So I spill my heart out to her, tell her I’m sorry for everything that I’ve done and I just want to fix everything and treat her like I should’ve the whole time and that I love her very much. She wants to take a break because she’s mad at me and she doesn’t know if she even wants to be with me. There are other guys involved with her at this point too. The werid thing is…. I call her up and we meet so that way maybe I can change things, maybe I can talk her into giving me another chance, make things right how they should be. And the last 3 times… In the end. She wanted no strings attached sex. She wanted me to have sex with her and know that she still wasn’t going to get back together with me. I’m not sure exactly how to take this or if theres really any hope in us getting back together. Aside from how mean I was sometimes.. I was also very sweet and made her smile. Made her feel like I loved her. Cause I do. Even til this day when I talk.. And I say something from the heart, her face melts and she smiles. Is there any hope for us?  Why does she want this? Why does she want casual sex and nothing else with me?”

- Zach (18, California)

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Pete Asked:

“i have become involved with a much older woman over the course of the last 15 months. i am 37 years old and have never had any problems attracting women my own age. she, is 64, is attractive and has very healthy sexual needs. problem is we have fallen deeply in love and we both want to be together. making love is an almost ‘spiritual experience ‘ for us both. do we risk telling family and friends about our relationship or keep quite? we are sick of the ‘conspiracy’ as it were!”

- Pete (37, Perth, Western Australia, Australia)

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