“This guy i met trough internet, and now we are having s long distance relationship. But nothing goes right… sometimes he is good to me sometimes he is not…he says he wants to be with me and he only wants me…but we keep fighting around little and stupid stuff…he keeps coming back and apologizing and i keep taking him back… ever time we talk on the phone he says that he is crazy about my voice and that he cant help his self and he masturbates everytime he hears me talking…i dont know what to do, how to handle this situation? sometimes i think he loves me but sometimes i feel like he is just using me?”

- She (21)

“I met my bf on net and he’s from florida and i live in philipines, we are 2 far from eachother, i really want to see him and he told me that he loves me, we both believe in our relationshp.
But were 2 far and everythngs complicated, he’s older than me he’s 17 and iam 13. I get scared that one day he may nut love me anymore cause he mght find other girls. I’m scared to loose him. Cause ilove him, i can feel it and i want to hold his hands and hug him, i dont knw what to do to my life. What am i going to do?”

- Sofia (13, Phillipines)

“I was having an internet relationship right now, me and my bf are almost 8 months now talking everyday and sharing all of things even if we dont meet in person,only at camera,one day I feel he hide something on me then, I ask how many times then finally he told me that he love someone, so I try to let him go but he doesnt want cos he still love me and he was still waiting for the girl to love him cos the girl loves her bf very much,but her bf is a stupid ,and thats what my bf wants to see that the girl will loved him too.its hurt but its true I really want to get out of this but I loved him, and he feel same way too ,what will I do ? Will I get over him even he dont like? I look like hanging but I accept I am really hurt but I have to decide please help me?”

- Jasmine (33, Philippines)

“I got a friend on online….we both studying same are of engineering….she is living in another city,theres 4hours journey,,.we daily do chating…after she gaved me her mobile number,we daily chated night 10 to morning 4 o clock….but she never talked with me, just only chatting,,,once i proposed her, but she said no to me..i will talk with her openly,just like i will kiss your lips, hug you and many more….some time she got angry and talk again..some times she said you are my brother..then i scold her she will stop after i proposed aslo she talked with me whole nights….after few days she stopped talking with me….she said if you talk with me i will thow the sim,but i still send msgs to her..once i got a reply from a girl that she got the sim somewhere…..but i know that is my lover……she stopped talking with me….i love her very much….she doent like me because she doesnt like intercast marriage…I really loving her,,,i cant study my exams are near….i know i had lost many things, i just dnt getting mind to study but i want her….what i have to do….please help.”

- Jayakumar (19, Andhra Pradesh, India)

“My girlfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months. We are in a long distance relationship, she lives in Washington I live In NY. We met online on a blog site..instantly connected and had so many things in common and fell madly in love. We met each other in person over a month ago and things went great. She stayed for about two weeks..but after I saw her leave for home I just got so depressed and everything and now it just seems going back to Skype and the telephone its harder. We have been fighting a lot lately and I have been having these doubts that it won’t be the same as we first saw each other a month ago. I plan on going up there at the end of the month I just don’t want to keep arguing..and we usually make up in the same day but its just taking a toll on both of us emotionally. I love her so much and I want to be with her I just want some advice on how to keep a distance relationship going and how I can get rid of these doubts I am having? Also how to deal with jealousy, I have real bad jealousy issues and its not like I don’t trust her..I just don’t trust other people plus they get to see her all the time. Please I want to keep this going. Thank you!”

- Dee (18, NY)

“Lately I have been thinking that there probably is something I do wrong when communicating with men. And I have not really figured out what is it.

I am 33 year old woman and now single again after 4 year relationship. I have had couple of relationships before. Now I am trying to meet new men, although I am not desperate about finding someone. But for some reason even dating does not go the way I was hoping.

I live alone and since last autumn I’ve had several potential dates. All the men I met happened to be 24 years old, except one who was 30, there have been 5 of them altogether, mostly not at the same time. With 3 of them I went out couple of times, with one guy I felt we had a great attraction to each other, but with the others nothing romantic happened. With other 2 guys we were not officially dating, just doing things together, we met through our mutual hobbies and we have had long talks just the 2 of us. Soon they all lost interest in communicating. I know that at least couple of them do not have a long list of girls to communicate with. I understand that at age 24 guys may not always be ready for serious relationships but they also made no attempt for getting something else from me, except one. I have tried to find someone via internet, but after some time most people I actually find interesting, also disappear. Some of them have told my letters and thoughts are interesting and they seem to like me.

I have my doubts what can cause the problems but I cannot be sure. I know I tend to get emotionally involved quickly when I find a man attractive. Probably it shows some way, although I do not talk about it but guys probably can read body language well. But there must be something else – I have not all the times been romantically interested, certainly not with strangers I write to in dating portal and my body language does not show in internet. I suspect there must be something wrong then about what I say or write… I understand that not all the people like me as I am. Also I do not take interest in anyone.

I want to know how to get the feedback what I may do wrong in communicating with men and how to be better in this communication. I have read some self-help books about what men value in women but reading has not given me these answers. Can you help by suggesting me something?”

- Liia (33, Estonia)

“i use a lot of run on sentences i think

she is 6 years younger than me and attending college 2nd yr and i am finally starting classes next semester which is something i should have done a long time ago. and she has a medically diagnosed mental problem that she is supposed to take medication for but is not taking it right now and i don’t know what the disorder is or the medicine because the doctors that she saw are in her home country which is not in the usa where we currently reside and i havent gotten the chance to find her pill bottle to attempt to translate it so i can find out how to cope with her problem. I know they have support groups for people with mental disorders like bi polar or adhd. her problem involves her “temper” i think she might have occasional severe anxiety attacks. whenever she gets really upset she starts hyperventilating and passes out but anything could set her off the first time it happened was when we had a marker fight she after we finished the marker fight and she saw the marks on her self and she started freaking out and i tried to calm her down but she just kept breathing harder and crying and then passed out.. the second time we were arguing and it happened again they have seemed to have tapered off substantialy as she has been taking her medication however she states as of recently she is no longer taking it. my 20 yr old gf says she doesnt love me anymore but think she does because we have been through the breakup phase a few times in the past and dealt with claims by her of infidelity on her part. once she told me that she cheated on me but she wants to still be with me and she still loves me and so i stayed with her. before this happened she said that she was with a guy she liked and i went to her and saw that she was lying to me. i knew she was mad so i thought she was just trying to make me mad but this time i know she really is talking to a guy becasue i heard her on the phone with him. and when she gets angry about the smallest things that i try my hardest to do and to remember and i do as much as i can i would say 99.8 percent of the time like accidentally barely kicking the outside of the bottom of her car door floor plastic panel when i enter the vehicle or the most recent event is when i try to apoligize for tapping her too hard when we play a game with each other called Hit hit hit in which we tap each other on any body part and say you’re bad.. No You’re bad!! she says that i am trying to control the way she feels and i am trying to force her to be happy when i make her angry whether it is my fault or not i dont want to dp anything to make her mad i treat her as best as can i only want the best for her i want to take care of her and make sure she is safe and feels good and is happy as much as possible. AI know she is happy with me i can see it in her smiles and hear it in her laughter and see it in her eyes when she looks at me and when we talk to each other. i feel like we really have a lot of fun when we are together most of the time.. when she is not angry we really do enjoy being around each other and doing everything that we do together it seems like she is really busy with school right now though as exams are coming up and she going to go back to her home country in two weeks for 3 months until hopeful return to the usa. Now i know that i am not a perfect person.. i know i have faults like everyone does. But all in all I want everyone in the world to be happy and not to have strife i want everyone to be nice to each other and help one another when in need. i dont like to see people being taken advantage of and i dont have any ill will or hateful feelings towards anyone in the world generally speaking. i have been wronged in the past but i have learned there is nothing that can be done except but to learn from situations and to learn from my own and other peoples mistakes. since we have been together i have quit smoking i have had steady work and i have learned progesivley to more often have un selfish feelings within myself and towards people in general.

we met on an online dating site we talked for two months everyday and she started saying she loved me.. so i went to be her 2 states away. I really liked her because i thought she was really sweet and she seemed like a really good kind person that cared about me and thought i was a special person and a good person.LOVE is something that i want to give and to recieve. i think that love is when two people care about each other and want to make one another happy exclusively and who enjoy each others company and would do anything in thier capability to make each other happy And healthy. I had and still do have confidence that our relationship is good and that we are happy with each other. i thought i could fall in love with this girl when i got to know her better and i did. i thought our relationship would work out to be with her because she said she apparently and most assureredly hopefully did fall in love with me in such a short amount of time and i had doubts at first as to if she really loved me but i think she really did. i feel like i want to marry her now i never want to leave her. two days ago she said she wanted to break up and in not so kind words when she gets angry she can say some hurtful things. in one of the past few times when she said she was talking to another guy she was quickly hurt by him and came back to me. another time she just stopped talking about and we just kind of forgot about it. the first time she said she was cheating she often used the guy as way to make me mad when she herself was upset for whatever given reason at the time. this was the time when i caught her lying to me about being with the guy while on the phone with me. i thought she was making the whole thing up but as it progressed she seemed to lose intrest in the guy and i began to think she wasnt making it up at all. after this she told me she cheated on me but then said she was lying just to make me mad because i made her mad by doing something wrong when we first started dating.. not as bad as cheating on someone but is was wrong i had a lot of pictures on my computer i had some pornography that i saved and pictures of old friends and myself she i never really looked at these i just never deleted them. i do realize that looking at this type of material is negative and that is why i understand her anger in that situation.. not only the fact that i only want to be with her sexually. in this sexually driven culture that we live in today i try my hardest to resist temptations to look at other women in that way.. even though i am attracted to my gf emotionally, mentally and physically attracted to her it’s not fair to her or to myself if i were to look at other women that way. i think i do a pretty good job of not being a sexually immoral person escpecially when it comes to infidelity or even flirting with other girls. i just dont do it. i know i really love her.

she met a guy a month ago and now says as of a week ago she is dating him. she says she doesn’t love me anymore. she says there is a 90 percent chance that the new guy and her will not have a romantic relationship and she and him will be just friends. but she says she likes him and wants him to be her boyfriend and she doesnt want a serious relationship during the same call she told me those two things. she wants to kiss him. and she said they talked about having sex and decided they are going to wait. i still love her because i still think she is a good person and i still know we have been and can continue to make each other happy or have the chemical oxytocin (the love chemical) pass through our brains. am I being controlling to not want her to see other guys? when she is not angry she appears to be and says she is happy with me and when i tell her i love her sometimes she says it back. recently thing have been really good between us we don’t argue or fight at all until last week it seems like when she gets angry she thinks everything in our relationship is bad but i know it’s not. and how do i get her back and stop the breakup? would it be okay to use any immature behaviours or any ploys to get her back? and if so please inform me of them. she won’t tell me the guys name or let me confront him. Should i just let her go and be with some other guy she just met.. or should i fight to keep our love alive and not let some kid try to come along and mess up our relationship? is love merely a chemical that passes through our brains? what is the meaning of life if not to love? i need long and detailed answers.”

- GSP (25)

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“I need help coming up with ideas for my long distance relationship. My current problem is figuring out what to do in an all day Skype video call.

My boyfriend and I have never met in person, He lives in Canada while I’m in the U.S. We’ve known one another for almost 6 years, and started ‘dating’ 2 and a half years ago. I can’t say I trust anyone more than I trust him. We’re the same age, both just turning 17 within the past few months, but we’ve never tried to… “sext” or “cyber.”

I know this is something I need to discuss with him, but I feel like we can spice the relationship up now with becoming more intimate with each other, I just don’t know how to go about doing that. With this all day Skype call coming up, I know there’s plenty of time for something to occur.

What I’m really asking is if I could get some advice on several things I could do for this call? The plan is not to embarrass myself or him.

Thank you!”

- Kylie (17, U.S)

Online pleasures

The great side of online relationships can be the utterly unexpected people you meet. Friends can be made all over the world. There’s no lack of these good quality relationships, whatever else may be said about the perils of online romance. These are the healthy online relationships, and, not at all coincidentally, they’re also the ones most likely to lead to productive results.

There’s one caveat- These are real relationships, with no strings attached. There’s nothing forced or fake about them. They can go on for years until both parties are prepared to take further steps. Ironically, they’re also often more honest relationships than the standard “social norms” of people in constant contact in daily life. There are no peer group issues, usually, which also helps produce a much less stressed relationship.

Online pressures

There’s another side, and it’s not too pleasant. Some online relationships are a bit too public or too much within a group to have a chance to flourish. Online bullying can create issues where a person is more likely to back off than get into a serious relationship. Some online environments are too “social”. They’re more like a nightclub where you can’t even hear each other speak most of the
time. Relationships of this kind can be mirages.

Then there’s the absolute nadir of online relationships- The manipulative, too-enthusiastic approach from a total stranger. Few people fall for this these days, but it still happens, mainly to the people deliberately looking for someone online. These relationships are fake from the start. Some are deliberate set-ups, others are simply created by malicious people.

It’s understandable that people looking for relationships would naturally encounter the negative side of online relationships more often. After all, that’s what usually happens when people go looking for relationships in traditional social venues. It’s a way of setting yourself up for disappointment.

The pitfalls

The risks are real enough. People in online relationships which have gone sour have got into practically every known possible sort of trouble.

The usual results are pretty grim:

• Terrible disappointment

• Loss of money

• Fraud

• Fake marriages, annulled almost instantly

• Sexual assault

• In some cases, injury and death

Not very encouraging, is it? These things do happen. They’re real risks. However, in all fairness, these are also the minority of cases. The most likely result of any online relationship is just that- A relationship.

Now the good news

All relationships have ups and downs. That’s actually one of the great advantages of online relationships. People can get to know each other on a level which they might never have in “real life” relationships.

Living with someone is done by the clock. An online relationship is based on directly interacting with that person, not a domestic situation or outside work hours dating basis. You can spend more time with someone online than in person, in many cases.

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