My good friend Lacy is so cool. She has her shit together in so many ways. She is a single mother raising a sweet little two year old daughter. Unfortunately Lacy has a problem, she is upside down, in other words her money in does not equal money out. Lacy feels trapped in her situation, she feels that she can not jeopardize her current income because she has a daughter relying on her. She also believes she cannot lower her expenses because she has a daughter relying on her! She is in a downward financial spiral and like so many other women she toys with the idea of meeting a rich man to pull her out of her financial nightmare. I know Lacy can change her situation on her own but that is for a self help blog! So Lacy asked me just the other day. “Mike, if you are so good at the guy and relationship stuff. Teach me how to meet a rich guy!” “hmmm…” said I raising one concerned eyebrow.

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So you finally do it. You commit to one person. Congratulations. Let the honeymoon begin!! When I say commitment, it can be anything from marriage, to exclusive, to moving in, etc.; it’s whatever you and your partner decides is a “commitment” and how you define it. Regardless of how you define your commitment, it still affects you in a way that would not have, had you not committed. It requires so much more than the non-committed. Do not kid yourself nor become overly full of dreamy thoughts like the relationships depicted on the big screen. You may experience a bit of that during the “honeymoon” stage, but other than that, it requires attention and care that you would give any other aspect of your life. If you want to be a great mechanic or a great doctor, it takes time, attention, practice, and skill. So does being a good boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife or partner.

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After reading parts 1 and 2 of this series, you are aware that it’s important to build sexual tension with women, and I discussed how to do that. Now, I want to give you some pointers on what to do when you actually are ready to make the move. Let’s get right to it.

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Dan Asked:

“So I’ve met this wonderful girl online last week, and starting on Monday have been talking to her everyday online since then. I’ve even managed to meet her in person, take her out over the weekend on a couple dates, and brought her over to my dorm for a make out session, but here’s the kicker….

We met on campus and now it’s winter break and she went home which is over 2 hours away from me. I’ve been talking to her over the net since being home but she has told me she hasn’t been out yet cuz her friends aren’t back, making me think when her friends are back she might not talk to me anymore. Plus she hasn’t mentioned anything about starting a relationship with me.

I really like her a lot and I wanna be her boyfriend but I’m not sure if I should ask now. I’m afraid she might meet someone back home, so I’ve even thought about driving out to meet her, and would ask her then to be my girlfriend. I’ve read that I should wait for her to ask me? I don’t know what to do and time is slipping away, any advice would be greatly appreciated.”

- Dan

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Think about it. I am sure someone immediately sprouts to mind when you think of the word “high maintenance”. I personally can name at least five women, without breaking a sweat. Perhaps some of you ladies reading this can think of some men that are “high maintenance” as well; however, I am going to focus this article on the “high maintenance” female.

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Britney Spears once sang “Boys, sometimes a girl just needs one,” and how wholeheartedly I agree. But what if boys didn’t exist, better yet, what if we, as in, us girls, flipped the script on guys. Meaning, the roles were reversed. Now there have many songs sang, such as Beyonce’s “If I were a Boy” and Ciara’s “Like a Boy.” Sure these women spoke about switching the roles, but what if we actually did it. You know, approached the guy, hit on him with some corny line. Then take the guy out, pay for the meal, and tell him you will call him later; which means in two to three days. The thought processed in my mind because, guys may not know it, but they play games. In fact, once they see a girl they are attracted to and want to approach, the games have already began without her recognition. I want to play the game too!

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What the hell is going on? You ask yourself as your boyfriend other gets wishy washy around your plans for Christmas. “You told me that you were able to go with me to my parents house?” he responds lamely about his dog needing to get spayed that day. You hang up the phone pissed and confused, wanting to go over to his work and embarrass his spineless ass in front of his coworkers, Jerk…

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If you feel like your relationship is in trouble and would like some help then read on – I’m going to take some time to help a few of you to get where you want to be!

This is a chance for a few readers to fix the problems they’re having but it is NOT a chance for a few readers to vent about their problems.  I don’t even care what your problems are (not even a little bit), I only care if you’re interested in fixing them.  So even though I need to hear each of your specifics I’m going to take a whack at what your problems are…

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There comes a time in a relationship when you get “comfortable” with your partner. That’s a good thing. You know what to expect from them in terms of their behavior, attitudes, and beliefs, how they treat you, what makes them happy, sad, or angry, etc. It is normal for relationships to evolve or morph into something else after a period of time. Maybe when you first started going out, i.e. the “honeymoon stage” you had sex everyday or 4 or 5 times a week, you wrote each other love notes regularly, or brought him/her flowers frequently; and now, not so much. Its normal for a cooling down period where your love evolves into something way more than just the physical aspect of your relationship and you build and grow on trust, loyalty, compassion, procreation, and deeper connections. Living together creates a distinct closeness that most humans probably long for but sometimes causes the loss of what you had in the beginning. If your relationship initially was just based on companionship and friendship and not a physical intensity that a lot of couples experience, then this may not apply to you.

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Alright. So you’ve been on a few dates with her, and you haven’t made a move yet. That is good. Let the sexual tension build. If you read part 1 of this series, Making The First Move With Women - Build Sexual Tension, then you know that it’s very important. Creating high levels of sexual tension is going to make that first time hooking up so much more powerful, exciting, and passionate. As Napoleon Dynamite says, “That will be awwwwsome.” Well, that first time hooking up will be awwwwsome as well.

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