Leo Asked:

“hello! I (age 30) broke up with my ex girlfriend (age 30) almost 2 moths ago. we were together for a year. She really loves me and she wanted to marry me. I just wasn’t that warm because of some personal things. When she asked me to break up i agreed but we still had contact. She broke up with me because I was not as warm as she was. I was wrong not to ask her to wait and open up and tell her i’m just not myself now because of some problems. very fast she got involved with a new guy (maybe a rebound?) and made it clear to me it’s over. Anyway, i told her how i feel about her and showed her my love, told her im ok now (she sees that also) and we can be everything we wanted to be. I even showed her the ring I bought her and was planning to give to her. And that was all. I didnt persue her at all. We met a few days ago and spent 5 hours together doing silly things and having fun. We spoke a bit about us but she says she is now somewhere else and the usual that she loves me and all. I encouraged her relationship telling her i want her to be happy. We met again today for an hour and i flirted a tiny little bit with her and she did seem open to it. I can tell she loves me and still is attracted to me. She even tells me I look hansom. She now thinks I am getting into something new and i can tell she is a bit jealous. I love this girl and I am ready to give her what she wants. I just dont know how to act now. We do have fun together a lot but should I keep meeting with her and flirt with her or shall I maybe go no contact for a bit and make her miss “us”? I do make her laugh a lot and that makes me happy! Thanks a lot!”

- Leo (30, Greece)

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Robert Asked:

“My girlfriend and I have a serious relationship together. She thinks I’m cheating on her even though I am not cheating on her. She also have been trying to find ways to track my cell phone or track my text messages. She’s now questioning if I am bi or not. She did all this without talking to me as I found this out. What do I do and why is she doing this? I am not cheating on her, nor am I bi and I have nothing to hide. I love her very much.”

- Robert (30, Lakewood, CO USA)

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Axel Asked:

“I have difficulty in maintaining relationships. After certain time i feel like changing my girlfriend. Is it normal or I expect Something from my relationship which i havent discovered yet??

After getting into relationship i start feeling pressure. at the same time when i am not in a relationship i am desperate for a company. what is the meaning of this psychology and why is this happening?”

- Axel (22, Pune)

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Adam Asked:

“My girlfriend and I have been dating on and off for 2 1/2 years. She is 29 and I am 30. The relationship she was in before lasted 6 years and was the only one she had been in prior to ours. He was 27 and she was 20 when they met. They broke up many times as well as walked away from an engagement. She was not completely honest about her feelings for him when we began dating and because of that She has never let go of him and vice versa. Although he does not live near us and I am sure she has not physically cheated on me she continues to keep an open dialog with him that pushes the boundaries of platonic friendship. When confronted about this she has lied about their communicating on more than one occation. I think that they use each other as an emotional fallback when they are in need of attention. It has become such a problem that by not ending the communication I doubt she truly respects me and my position on the subject. She has tried to stop texting and emailing him but eventually it starts up again. He is also in a new relationship and is not honest with his partner either. I am starting to doubt her morals and feel truly disrespected.”

- Adam (30, Kansas City, MO)

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Axel Asked:

“I met a woman in college and i like her on the first meeting. when i asked about her phone number she said that she doesnt have a mobile phone. later on I discovered that she has one. she does properly treat me and talks to me. What can be the possibilities from her lying to me about phone??”

- Axel (22, Pune, India)

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Donald Asked:

“So I work with this girl that I can’t take my mind off of. I don’t really work closely with her on a daily basis, but we work in the same building. I did some work for her the other day, and when she asked me how much she owed me for my time, I said I’d like to take her out to dinner. To which she replied “dinners not a problem, but the “what if” could be a problem”. I interjected that her boyfriend might not approve, to test the waters and see how she responded to try and determine if she indeed does have a boyfriend and she basically just repeated what she said before. At this time I more or less changed the subject because I didn’t know what to say. I’m really interested in this girl. This girl has a small child from another relationship, which I feel she may be concerned with picking the right person to let into their lives and maybe that’s why she sort of rejected me. I try to talk to her almost daily and I often can’t concentrate on my own job because I know she’s in the building and maybe if I have a chance to see her I might be able to say the right thing and strike up her interest in me. I really would like to find a way to resolve this by either asking her again or just plain out asking if she is interested in me at all, so If not I can move on and focus on my job the way I’m accustomed to . I need some good advice, from the females probably. I probably sound like a weirdo with this long post but I am lost and have not been on the dating scene for a number of years. Should I be persistent and pursue her further or does her “half” rejection really mean “no” and I can get on with my life?”

- Donald (28, Winnipeg)

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Mike Asked:

“My girlfriend and I were going out for 2 months. I have a very awkward personality and humor about me. Everything was going great for the first couple of weeks until I got kicked out of my parents house and she let me move into her studio apartment with her. Everything went great for a while. I became too sappy, clingy, trying too hard. We always did everything together and never gave us time to ourselves. She broke up with me after she said we’d work things out. I’ve become very needy in wanting the relationship to work out and get back together with her and it’s annoyed her. So we’ve decided to live separate lives and I’ve slowly taken the steps to stop nagging her on getting back together. How can I fix things with her to try to make things work? I feel i’d be smothered if i moved back home and everything that happened there will only go back to the same. We want to work on being friends and i’ve only made her more mad at me by wanting to stay together. She just recently told me after being despised at me that we’d be fine we just need some space to not be so sick of each other. I don’t know what to do? any ideas or suggestions?”

- Mike (24)

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Carlos Asked:

“My girlfriend has been a gold digger since i met with her three years back since her parents don’t like her and her ex just dumped her and she had no one to support her in the past when she went to college and i ignored this behavior because of her past situation. it seems like she played a love game with me to get my money.She some times shows me so much love and then she acts like a slut.

By the time i put all the puzzles together and realized that she is using me for money we were in love with each other.she showed me so much love in the beginning that i was thinking to marry this girl but later in second year of our relationship i found her profile on the net and she was sleeping around with other guys whenever we broke up.We kept going back to each other and she told me she did it because of the money these guys spent on her and she was mad with me because i won’t marry her but she truly loves me.i never cheated on her even i knew she is going out with other guys whenever we broke up for a few days.I became so weak and kept going back to her and i’m in love with her and my heart is set on her even i know she is a user. Last Christmas she bought me a cheap gift and this Valentine i did not get any thing.I always spend lots of money in buying her gifts and i feel that she is over with me.My question is how to forget her and what can i do to test her if she really loves me or my money.”

- Carlos (28, Virginia Beach)

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Summary:

So you’re in the doghouse because you took her out to KFC for V-Day? If you want a chance at showing her you’re worthy, do as many of these five things as you can.

by Al Natanagara

What Were You Thinking?

Did you listen to your friend who annually proclaims “Valentines Day was made up by greeting card companies,” as a way to hide the pain of being single?  Did you give her a Whitman’s Sampler instead of the Godivas? For God’s sake, man, did you take her out for a romantic dinner at the sports pub and not even sit near the screen that was showing pairs figure skating??!!??

Well, you blew it, and it’s going to take some hard work to get your sorry butt out of the doghouse. Roll up your sleeves, put on a pot of strong coffee, and let’s get cracking. This is a list of five suggestions–do not choose just one. In fact, the more you do, the better your chances of salvaging your relationship.

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Before we begin creating our romantic Valentine’s Day bedroom ambiance, we need a really quick review. Do you remember what your five senses are? Sight, Sound, Touch, Smell and Taste. Okay, now that we have that out of the way I am going to show you how to use these five senses to put an exclamation point ending on your romantic Valentine’s Day.

Let’s start with your sense of smell since this is usually the first thing we are aware of when we enter a room (or even prior to entering a room). It is really easy to create a romantic aroma in our bedroom because there are an endless array of aromatherapy candles and incense. So pick your favorite scented candle(s) and light it up! We are, after all, still mammals and our sense of smell triggers all sorts of chemical reactions in the brain that arouse our sensuality.

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