Axel Asked:

“I have difficulty in maintaining relationships. After certain time i feel like changing my girlfriend. Is it normal or I expect Something from my relationship which i havent discovered yet??

After getting into relationship i start feeling pressure. at the same time when i am not in a relationship i am desperate for a company. what is the meaning of this psychology and why is this happening?”

- Axel (22, Pune)

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Adam Asked:

“My girlfriend and I have been dating on and off for 2 1/2 years. She is 29 and I am 30. The relationship she was in before lasted 6 years and was the only one she had been in prior to ours. He was 27 and she was 20 when they met. They broke up many times as well as walked away from an engagement. She was not completely honest about her feelings for him when we began dating and because of that She has never let go of him and vice versa. Although he does not live near us and I am sure she has not physically cheated on me she continues to keep an open dialog with him that pushes the boundaries of platonic friendship. When confronted about this she has lied about their communicating on more than one occation. I think that they use each other as an emotional fallback when they are in need of attention. It has become such a problem that by not ending the communication I doubt she truly respects me and my position on the subject. She has tried to stop texting and emailing him but eventually it starts up again. He is also in a new relationship and is not honest with his partner either. I am starting to doubt her morals and feel truly disrespected.”

- Adam (30, Kansas City, MO)

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Axel Asked:

“I met a woman in college and i like her on the first meeting. when i asked about her phone number she said that she doesnt have a mobile phone. later on I discovered that she has one. she does properly treat me and talks to me. What can be the possibilities from her lying to me about phone??”

- Axel (22, Pune, India)

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Donald Asked:

“So I work with this girl that I can’t take my mind off of. I don’t really work closely with her on a daily basis, but we work in the same building. I did some work for her the other day, and when she asked me how much she owed me for my time, I said I’d like to take her out to dinner. To which she replied “dinners not a problem, but the “what if” could be a problem”. I interjected that her boyfriend might not approve, to test the waters and see how she responded to try and determine if she indeed does have a boyfriend and she basically just repeated what she said before. At this time I more or less changed the subject because I didn’t know what to say. I’m really interested in this girl. This girl has a small child from another relationship, which I feel she may be concerned with picking the right person to let into their lives and maybe that’s why she sort of rejected me. I try to talk to her almost daily and I often can’t concentrate on my own job because I know she’s in the building and maybe if I have a chance to see her I might be able to say the right thing and strike up her interest in me. I really would like to find a way to resolve this by either asking her again or just plain out asking if she is interested in me at all, so If not I can move on and focus on my job the way I’m accustomed to . I need some good advice, from the females probably. I probably sound like a weirdo with this long post but I am lost and have not been on the dating scene for a number of years. Should I be persistent and pursue her further or does her “half” rejection really mean “no” and I can get on with my life?”

- Donald (28, Winnipeg)

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Mike Asked:

“My girlfriend and I were going out for 2 months. I have a very awkward personality and humor about me. Everything was going great for the first couple of weeks until I got kicked out of my parents house and she let me move into her studio apartment with her. Everything went great for a while. I became too sappy, clingy, trying too hard. We always did everything together and never gave us time to ourselves. She broke up with me after she said we’d work things out. I’ve become very needy in wanting the relationship to work out and get back together with her and it’s annoyed her. So we’ve decided to live separate lives and I’ve slowly taken the steps to stop nagging her on getting back together. How can I fix things with her to try to make things work? I feel i’d be smothered if i moved back home and everything that happened there will only go back to the same. We want to work on being friends and i’ve only made her more mad at me by wanting to stay together. She just recently told me after being despised at me that we’d be fine we just need some space to not be so sick of each other. I don’t know what to do? any ideas or suggestions?”

- Mike (24)

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Carlos Asked:

“My girlfriend has been a gold digger since i met with her three years back since her parents don’t like her and her ex just dumped her and she had no one to support her in the past when she went to college and i ignored this behavior because of her past situation. it seems like she played a love game with me to get my money.She some times shows me so much love and then she acts like a slut.

By the time i put all the puzzles together and realized that she is using me for money we were in love with each other.she showed me so much love in the beginning that i was thinking to marry this girl but later in second year of our relationship i found her profile on the net and she was sleeping around with other guys whenever we broke up.We kept going back to each other and she told me she did it because of the money these guys spent on her and she was mad with me because i won’t marry her but she truly loves me.i never cheated on her even i knew she is going out with other guys whenever we broke up for a few days.I became so weak and kept going back to her and i’m in love with her and my heart is set on her even i know she is a user. Last Christmas she bought me a cheap gift and this Valentine i did not get any thing.I always spend lots of money in buying her gifts and i feel that she is over with me.My question is how to forget her and what can i do to test her if she really loves me or my money.”

- Carlos (28, Virginia Beach)

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Summary:

So you’re in the doghouse because you took her out to KFC for V-Day? If you want a chance at showing her you’re worthy, do as many of these five things as you can.

by Al Natanagara

What Were You Thinking?

Did you listen to your friend who annually proclaims “Valentines Day was made up by greeting card companies,” as a way to hide the pain of being single?  Did you give her a Whitman’s Sampler instead of the Godivas? For God’s sake, man, did you take her out for a romantic dinner at the sports pub and not even sit near the screen that was showing pairs figure skating??!!??

Well, you blew it, and it’s going to take some hard work to get your sorry butt out of the doghouse. Roll up your sleeves, put on a pot of strong coffee, and let’s get cracking. This is a list of five suggestions–do not choose just one. In fact, the more you do, the better your chances of salvaging your relationship.

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Before we begin creating our romantic Valentine’s Day bedroom ambiance, we need a really quick review. Do you remember what your five senses are? Sight, Sound, Touch, Smell and Taste. Okay, now that we have that out of the way I am going to show you how to use these five senses to put an exclamation point ending on your romantic Valentine’s Day.

Let’s start with your sense of smell since this is usually the first thing we are aware of when we enter a room (or even prior to entering a room). It is really easy to create a romantic aroma in our bedroom because there are an endless array of aromatherapy candles and incense. So pick your favorite scented candle(s) and light it up! We are, after all, still mammals and our sense of smell triggers all sorts of chemical reactions in the brain that arouse our sensuality.

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Salvador Asked:

“I’ve been in a realtiosnhip with my girlfriend for a little more than a month. Before when she’d flirt with me. she’d want to hang out and like be with me. now that we are going out, we haven’t had time for ourselves, besides a simple 5 min long walk to her house. My problem is that, i feel like i’m being rejected because last time i walked her home we were holding hands, but as soon as she saw her friend, she immediately let go, and i felt rejected and that she is ashamed of me. also like everytime i ask her if she wants to hang out, i get an excuse or she just wants to be home and not go anywhere, but then she goes with her best friend places. Then her ex still claims to be going out with her because on his myspace he has pics of her and that he loves her. I dont know what to think anymore. I feel like since we’re going out we want to be with eachother more but i guess its not like that with her, i’ve told her i love her, but i don’t get much of a response.”

-  Salvador (17, Buena Park)

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Alex Asked:

“My ex girlfriend and me went through many difficulties to the point that we both physically assaulted each other, I am ashamed of my reaction and I am currently working with professional help so I may never again do this to anyone. After a while she broke up with me and two weeks after she left with a guy. we had alot of arguments when we were together. 2 weeks into her new relationship she sleeps with me, still in relationship with the new guy, comes to my house and tells me she loves me. I leave for 2 weeks and when I come back she changed her phone, blocked my emails, so I decided to move on. Two weeks after this she calls me telling me she loves me and that she hates how much she loves me. That lets her get married and have kids, she even ended the relationship with the guy…that’s what she said, so i am giving her the benefit of the doubt, and in less than 10 days she tells me she can’t be with me, that she doesn’t love me, and that she’s angry for how I reacted when she assualted me. (Which no matter if she forgives me or not, i can’t forgive myself and like i said I am ashamed) My question is, what should I do? What does this all means, how can I fix this? I know you don’t know the whole situation but please someone help, Thank you”

- Alex (22, Miami)

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