“My question is I love this woman but she attached and is very unhappy in her relationship. We dated for about a year but something happened to her after she told me she was filing so I did something very wrong and now regret this but asking will she try to connect with me in the future after we had shared some beautiful words and feelings together ? Even telling each other we had love for each other.”

- Beth (56, Nicholasville, KY)

“I have had these strong Intuitive thoughts for 3 years that I have known my husband. I am beginning to question his sexual preference. I met him while he was in the military and he had this friend that was very touchy towards him but he always said he didnt see it. One night particulary that I can’t get out of my head was when I was staying in the barracks with him and he left his room and went to his male buddies room. He left me and stayed gone for a total of about 2 hours. During that time I went to his buddies room and kept banging on the door and the door was locked and neither one would answer. We had not fought or anything previous. He later came back his buddy was carrying him and said he had passed out in his room. I totally didnt believe any of it but blocked it out of my mind. He continued to hang out with him, not to mention he worked with him and was in Iraq with him before I met him. I had asked him numerous times if my husband was gay or had ever done anything with him and he would always answer no. Which I truly know he wouldnt admit to it anyway giving the fact he is from a very christian home. We fought one time about it and I ended up leaving to stay with a friend and when we rode by my house I noticed this buddy was there. I never did go in, probably to scared to know if anything was happening. We later got married and he has been out of the service for 2 years now. His buddy still tries to contact him but to my knowledge they dont speak. Other friends of his that were in the military have seen the same things of how his buddy acts and believes he is gay also. Ever since he got out of the military he has not been the same. We do have an 18 month old son. I noticed after he got out, our sex life has not been the same and we are much more distant than ever. I will go some time without thinking about it but it continues to flare up in my thoughts. I can’t let it go mentally even though we have a life in a different state and have a child now. I still feel as if something is not right. His parents would die if they knew their son was gay and I feel as if im just a cover up. There are just so many little things that have happened on why I believe he is gay. Is my intuitive gut feeling right? I really need some advice on what you think. Thanks,”

- Amanda (24)

“My wife of 9 years and 3 children announced she is gay. In addition, shortly thereafter she had a meltdown and we found out she is severly bipolar. When she says she doesn’t want sex anymore but she still loves me, I’m her best friend and she still wants to remain married but no sex. she still want to kiss, snuggle, sleep in same bed, etc…. I feel we are disconnected now, no intimacy, a wedge between us. ‘we had issues in our marriage but nothing I thought we couldn’t work on for improvement. What does it mean to be gay. I’m having trouble with this. I’m not blaming her but she is setting conditions wihtout my input. Don’t I matter too? I don’t know how much is bipolar how much is gay. I’m very confused by all of this. If she isn’t wanting me sexually, does she really care about me and love me? I feel it means our relations has taken several steps back and we are not connected as we should be-we’re not giving ourselves fully and completely physically and emotionally. Any thoughts or suggestions?”

- Terry (43, Vienna)

“i really love this girl. We haven’t met very long and since im bisexual i rarely ever get a relationship that works out. She is my friend and she is awesome. She is nice, funny, just awesome. But she’s very popular and has a boyfriend. A lot of guys like her too. I don’t know what to do. She is very tlakative and i learned that she tells secrets without meaning to. So i haven’t told her about being bisexual. I don’t know what to do. I really love her and would hate to break their relationship. They had a relationship for 3 years and they truly love each other. I watched them kiss it was horrible and i dont know.

i would like to know:
1.should i tell her im bisexual
2.should i tell her i love her
3.should i ask for a relationship
idk anything else is great”

- jt1250champion (F, 11, NYC, NY)

“Hello, I was married and pregnant at a young age(18). Divorced two yrs later, single mother of two teenagers. Tried dating but had trust issues and compared them to my ex. I moved to Naples in 2003 and ever since I moved here have not been on a date, until Oct of 2010 where I stepped out of the box a started dating a woman. I was in a relationship for 5 months during those months there was ups and downs but she treated me great. But my self esteem, trust issues, not showing my emotion to her effected the relationship. She knew what I went through with my ex, he was verbally abusive. She didn’t care that I wasn’t really to let people know about us, especially my family and friends. She just wanted me to break down that wall. She was such a go positive person in my life. On 4/10/11 she broke it off. Two weeks later we talked about trying to work things out because we both had issues. So we needed to work on ourselves. She suggested for us to take it slow. But during that time she was hanging out with her “best friends”. I just found it strange since while we were together they hardly hanged out. I asked her if anything was going on and she old me no that her friend was not like that. During all this taking it slow. I keep asking her to come over or lets do something. Sometimes she did and sometimes we didn’t. One day I asked her to come over that I would like to talk to her. She did we talk and we were intimate with each other. Didn’t talk for a while, so again I asked her what is going on. Are we going to try to work this out or not. She said she does but she is scared because she doesn’t want to get hurt and she was tired of the break up and make up. A week later, she send me a text that she started dating someone and to please leave her alone. Maybe we can be friends again but she needs time and needs to process.

And who is she dating her “best friend”. They went away to PR for the summer, and what is shocking to me is that we were suppose to go to PR for our one year anniversary/bday in October. I have texted her, emailed her and written letters asking her to forgive me. Lets be friends since we were friends before getting involve. I knew her 2 yrs before we get involve. I continue to look at her FB page to see what they are up to. I do love her and miss her. But she never gave me the chance to change.
DON’T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!

l all this that is going on I just lost my job due to budget cuts. I want to change my life tired of always being DEPRESSED. Don’t want to live like this anymore. How much are your sessions? I cant go now due to not working but I really want to start seeing someone.
Thank you for reading my email and god blessed!”

- Jeannette (41, Naples, FL)

Now don’t worry all the stories still have the same thing in common… loving women…it’s all about finding that special someone in our lives. Whether it is destined to last forever and other’s lasting for what only seems like stolen moments. We might call them by different names but we all hope to find the yin to our yang. The counterpart that just fits and makes it seem like this is the person; I’ve been waiting for my whole life.

Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought of a romantic interest as a zebra, so let me explain my thought process to you dear reader. All my life I have searched for the elusive femme of my dreams, a strong, independent, sexy lady confident in who she is and who is ultimately searching for her butch counter-part. A lipstick femme who revels in who she is, loving her make-up, clothes, sexy heels and all the other accoutrements that bring butches like myself to our knees.

So hence reader’s, I’ve come to call these precious femmes, who wear and love their heels with total abandon…zebras. Well really not all women but just one very special lady who has marked my heart and soul so much that she epitomes the femme of my dreams and I began calling her the zebra in my heart.

I first met Elise more than 3 years ago, but I had just starting dating another lady all though it was a long distance relationship. So for several reasons though she and I clicked, I did not pursue my interest in Elise. I introduced her to a friend and lost track of her…lost but not forgotten. So here we fast forward to year ago when I finally caught sight of her again. I came into the neighborhood bar one night after work and had recently ended the 2 year long distance relationship that slowly deteriorated into a once a month booty call.
I sat at the bar and ordered a beer; it was karaoke night so there were quite a few people out, as I looked around the bar who do I spot but Elise sitting across the bar, it was as if lighting struck when she looked my way and waved hello. Such an incredibly beautiful sight that I felt as if I had been struck by one of cupid’s arrows as I fell in love with her at first sight. We talked across the bar saying how good it was to see each other again. I instantly went to her side taking up where we left off so many years ago. She looked amazing, flawless make-up, sexy low cut shirt and let’s not forget the delicious heels, the total package that made my heart skip a beat…the elusive femme.

But unfortunately she was not there alone, I thought to myself of all the luck. She introduced me to her friend and when I went to shake her hand she looks me up and down…”Oh I know who you are Gina” and left me hanging there with my hand outstretched. I quickly apologized for intruding and worked my way back to the other side of the bar to stare at Elise from a distance. I tried not to be so obvious and pretended to be watching the karaoke singers.

I could not keep my eyes off of her and watched her for the next hour, when suddenly I saw her friend go out the front door. I thought to myself here’s my chance, so I walked over to her with my phone number in hand asking her to call me. I asked about her friend and of course I asked Elise, if she was single? Her response was “Yes, I’m single, I just got out of a relationship and this lady is really just a friend.” As I stared into her eyes they sparkled as brilliantly as the night sky, with the promises of many more tomorrows. I found myself so drawn to her, that in another instant I would have kissed her. The return of her friend stopped what could have happened and I said my good-byes hoping she would call me soon. As I walked out the bar, I thought to myself “damn it”; I didn’t ask her for her number so I hoped beyond hope that she felt the same electricity as I had?

She was all I could think about and if I had another opportunity I surely would not have hesitated in kissing her. I kept going back to the bar every night in hopes of catching her again and making sure that next time, I would not leave without her number. A couple of months go by and I thought about what I could have I done to change things? When one day out of the blue I get a call from her, I was at work so she left me her name and number with a message to call her. You better believe that I returned her call in record time.
“Hi Gina, this is Elise, you remember me, you gave me your number at the bar about 2 months ago? I was there on karaoke night with my friend. Give me a call when you can maybe we can go out for drinks?” Hearing her silky voice, my heart skipped a beat.

I took a deep breath and called her back, she picked up after only a couple of rings…” Hi Elise, of course I remember you. I thought I’d never hear from you, especially since I left the bar without your number that night. Yes absolutely let’s go out for drinks, how about lunch? My brother’s coming into town maybe I could see you this evening.” I found myself hopelessly rambling…

“Well Gina I just found your number when I was organizing my files so I wanted to call and say Hi. Uh, I don’t know about meeting your family already, we haven’t even talked.”

I could just picture her holding the phone from her ear wondering why I was rambling the way I was. I could sense I was about to lose another opportunity and thought to myself, breathe Gina slow down.

“I’m sorry Elise; let’s meet for drinks tonight or tomorrow and we’ll go from there” as I held my heart stopped as I wait for her response.

“Ok Gina, we’ll meet at the bar tomorrow about 2pm for drinks.” My heart began to beat again.

“Sounds great I look forward to seeing you then” as I hung up the phone, I held my head in my hands wondering she must have thought I sounded crazy, going on and on the way I did. Luckily I would be seeing her in less than 24hrs, I was on cloud nine.

Stayed tuned for the next installment of “The Zebra in My Heart” Until then have faith, the next adventure is just around the corner. You can contact at HelloMsHeartbreak@yahoo.com

“I met this girl a little over a month ago, I left her my number and after about a week I heard from her. She made it quite clear that she is interested in me by saying so herself and just the little things that you say to someone you’re interested in. We went on our first date and she asked me to pick her up from her house. Fine! Our date went well, we talked a lot, played a few games of pool and we learned that we have a whole lot in common. After the date I told her that I had a great time and would like to see her again, she said she did too.
After this, I didnt hear from her for about 3-4 days (we usually text because neither of us like being on the phone) so I texted her one night and asked her if she is interested or not (maybe I shouldn’t have done that but hey, I was confused!) and she told me that she is interested but because she has a lot going on in her life, she doesn’t have time to date. Now I’m even more confused! My head says leave her alone but my heart says stay hopeful. I dont know which one to listen to.”

- Jane (24, Female)

“Why would my boyfriend rather masturbate to porn rather than have sex with me? He does it everyday and we haven’t been intimate in several weeks.”

- Jason (36, Green Bay, WI. USA)

This one is called “The Bet”

Girls, girls, girls…they can sure scramble ones’ libido. Women can be sexy, seductive, captivating, inspiring and it doesn’t matter if they are tall, short, thin, rubenesque, if you find one who catches your eye just right. If you don’t take a shot at a girl who scrambles your libido, you’re an idiot. You’ve got nothing to lose but the loss of not taking the shot. The key, be creative and get her attention.

It was a typical Sunday afternoon at one of my favorite L.A. hangouts, where there is no shortage of marguerites, good looking babes (men and women), rockers, porn stars and live music to keep you entertained. I arrived with a few friends and as usual found more friends to collaborate with and people watch, all while exciting my pallet with a frothy, salted, marguerita on the rocks. I am not sure who spotted her first, but it wasn’t long before the group of us were zeroed in on a very attractive girl, who sat at a table just five or six feet from where we were standing. The guys were all talking about making a play for her and before I knew it my friend Kristy threw out a bold statement. “I bet I can get that girl to kiss me”, she claims. The guys were giggling like school-girls as Kristy proudly exclaimed, “Yea, I will bet you 20.00 bucks that I can get that girl to kiss me”. I was astounded. Kristy was usually not so bold as to initiate such a play for a girl. She typically preferred someone to pursue her, not the other way around.

Well, as I wondered how on earth was Kristy going to get this girl to kiss her, she starts to make her way toward the girl’s table. I was thinking, “Wow, I don’t believe it, I don’t even know what I would say or do to get that girl to just come out and kiss me so quickly.” I moved closer so that I could maybe hear what Kristy was going to say to her; I didn’t want to miss what could be a new strategy that I never thought of. Kristy squats down in front of the girl and says, “Hi, I’m Kristy and you are really beautiful. I bet my friends over there, 20.00 dollars that I could get you to kiss me. If you do, I’ll split it with you”. Ok, not too creative but honest. The girl says, “sure” and Kristy leans in and the girl gives her a somewhat quick “peck” on the lips. The guys watching of course, yelled and fussed, and clapped and Kristy walks back and collects the 20.00. Everyone laughed and Kristy walks back, gives the girl a ten spot, chatted for about five minutes, and returned to the group.

“Hmmm, I thought, I can do better than that”. I walk over to the girl, squatted down in front of her and said, “Hi, my name is Robbie and I bet those same guys over there 100.00 dollars that I could get you to give me a better kiss than my friend and if you do it, I’ll give you half”. I stood up slightly to be at eye level with the girl as she leaned in and gave me a long, hard kiss, while pulling me closer to her. The noise from the guys was hard to ignore and we broke apart and smiled. I looked her right in the eyes and said, “I lied, there is no 100.00 dollars”. I wasn’t sure if she was going to slap me or what as I started to pull away but surprisingly she smiled and then laughed and said “That was good, why don’t you sit down and join me”.

Cheers,

Robbie Lee

www.Robbie411.com

“My fiance has had hand jobs from other men, done hand jobs on other men and also likes to use sex toys in his anus…he doesn’t keep an erection when we try to have sex and he only climaxes when he masturbates or uses the anal toys…he says our sex is amazing…but other signs point to him not enjoying it..he usually has to read gay porn to get and keep an erection during sex with me…could he be gay or am I just not sexually attractive to him? Or is it me?”

- Nicole (20)