“I’ve been dating this woman for 18 months. On Sunday i got mad at her because i felt she was criticizing me about my clothes so I went to bed and didn’t tell her why I was mad until the next day. Anyway, after I told her that she hurt my feelings she said that she doesn’t sugar coat things and everything she said was fact. She also said my attitude was funky all day Sunday. So I let it go. However, she’s been acting strange all week. When i text her she gives me one word answers. And I’ve call her twice but she didn’t return my calls. She texted me at 2 in the morning last night saying that she was away from her phone which I don’t buy that she was away from her phone for 5 hours. I asked why shes ignoring me and if she was mad and alright. She said that she hasn’t been ignoring me and that she was fine. I asked her to go out tomorrow night and she didn’t respond. … read more
“i have a relationship with a boy.i havent had any relationship with any guy before. we have been talking to each other from 7 months now. but we both have been meet in tution clases 3 or 4 years ago. he is good at sometimes but he doesnt like to meet me or tell his or my friends about our relationship. he says , after the marriage i can tell anyone about him. he usually wants to make me jealous by saying about other girls n stuff and also irritating me by saying about a crush that i used to have years ago. i’m having a doubt that weather he really wants me or not. by the way he dsn’t hav ny intrest of meeting me yet.but we used to talk thru phone and he asks me to turn on sexualy through phone at times. thoz times he treats me good. i really love him. but when i ask him, he answrs that he dont know.and now he says he wants to live alone.and to be alone.what should i do?”
- HS (24)
“My boyfreind refuses to talk about his past with me (not just ex girlfreinds, but his past in general, at all). I have been patient and understanding; I understand a difficult past/traums being hard to discuss. But it’s been 4 years now and finally I am begining to get a little pushy with asking questions; it’s like pulling teeth to get him to open up to me. Is it worth it? Why won’t he open up? I have explained to him it bothers me but in respose he shows me only frustration. “I’ll try and change” he’ll say but still he dosn’t seem to grasp the concept and wants me to maintain distance (he tells me that he “likes having his privacy respected” or misses it when I didn’t care or ask about anything). He does not seem to empathize with me or understand my point of view either; he seems to display sociopathic qualities. It all makes me anxious. Is there any explination for this? -I am interested on a psychological level why a person might be like this. Any advice you can give me from your expereince with dealing with people? And is it wrong of me to end it? Thanks!”
- Jane (29) … read more
“I have been married for 5 years and with my husband for a total of 6 years. Before marriage he was incredibly attentive and very romantic. Thats basically why I fell in love with him. From the start of the marriage there were problems, he has a bad temper and our rows were pretty bad but very passionate, and we would soon make up. For the past 2 years things have gradually gotten worse. My husband up until a year ago, used to spend most of his free time with me. Nowadays, he wants to be alone often, is uninterested in me. Takes mini guy trips and basically doesnt notice me or seem to care. I havent heard him tell me he loves me in a long time. He actually is always putting me down. 2 weeks ago I asked for a divorce and living in Cairo, Egypt, families got involved and diffused the situation. He promised to try, but hasnt really made any effort. We have a 3 year old daughter and for her sake id like for things to work out. I no longer have strong feelings towards my husband, but am sure that they could come back. I am 3 years older than my husband, but i look young for my age, so there is definitely no obvious difference. I am what most people consider very attractive and i havent gained any weight since I met him, I take good care of my appearance But my husband mocks me and says im aging, and hes younger than me etc etc. He isnt the most attractive man, and he struggles a little at maintaining his weight I never put him down. I fell in love with the person, but my feelings are fast disappearing, He loves to put me down and my confidence is slipping. He doesnt wanna try, but doesnt want a divorce either. He says I caused for our marriage to be like this, by my nagging all the time. The thing is I really dont feel as though i’m a nag. Friends and family dont think I am either. He says im no fun, but that definitely isn’t true. He just doesn’t give me the chance. He has also tried to make me jealous on a number of occasions but I know he isn’t cheating, or at least im pretty sure he isn’t. I would really like to know what and how I can make things better between us.
Thanks so much for your time, help would very much be appreciated.”
- Sammy (33, Cairo, Egypt) … read more
“My boyfriend and i have been together for almost a year and he still constantly accusing me of having other guys on the side. I have never cheated on him and will never but he says since his exes have all cheated on him that i will too. He recently got a new job over nights and he thinks i have guys over all night or stay up all night talking to guys. Theres no trust and it hurts me when he accuses me. Ive talked to him about it and he says he will change but he never does. Should i leave and cut ties or is there a way i can show him that he is my one an only??”
- Jewels (29, Littleton, CO) … read more
“My name is Omar. I have gotten your email from the ask relationship experts website. I would send you a message to ask a few things if you dont mind.
Basically I am in a long distance relationship for about a year now. We are both 24 and love each other so much that our parents met up in her city to talk seriously. We are from the same culture and traditionally we want to get married after a few years. I treated her like a Queen and more. I am her first ever relationship and she is mine too. We both always wanted to wait for the perfect person for us. Her family loves me and mine loves her. Everyone got along and there was a lot of love and happiness. Since we are long distance, I would do really nice surprises like send her a box of thoughtful gifts and gestures for her birthday and Valentines day, as well as send her a random thinking of you card in the mail with some thoughful gesture like gifts.I even am encouraging her to pursue school in interior design that I randomly sent her a whole art supplies package in the mail to get her motivated. … read more
“It’s about a boy that came to my school this year. I liked him from the first time i saw him. I was too shy to talk to him. After 5 months i had the opportunity to talk to him.(All this time we was just looking at each other) I had to give him an address.
So after that we started to talk on FB.
He always compliments me… so i do the same. He asked me if he can have my phone and i gave it to. Now we just greet at school. One day he uploaded some photos on FB and i saw in all his photos he was with a girl.(His GF). I was disappointed. What i can do? I’m sure he knows i like him. So maybe he just wants to give me attention just because he don’t want me to feel bad or i don’t know. He is sometimes asking for my opinion, he is flirting with me. I’m confused now.
Can you help me? PLease!
- Natalia (16, Athens, Greece) … read more
“There is this guy i really like….we met online and coincidentally i worked with him in the same firm for a month and a half. We were close friends then i even went for sleepovers two nights. Nothing happenes then.
Last week, since I got back to school he texted me and asked me to pay him a visit. I went and we had a good time together…we became intimate too.
well…my problem is, i now like him too much and i want to be with him. He has a girlfriend who is far away. The whole week we havent talked much…and i miss him. I dont know how to tell him how i feel. Should I give it a try or should I just surpress my feelings?”
- Mlosh (22, Nairobi, Kenya) … read more
“I had a really great and flirty friendship with a woman for about a year while I was with someone else. We were very good friends, but it was really clear that we had feelings for each other, but we never acted upon them until I split up with my ex.
We are in university together in a creative field and have many of the same classes, and we also work very well together and have great chemistry in that aspect.
Our relationship with each other seems very strong, We spend nearly every day together. I feel great when I’m with her and vice versa. It feels as though we are both in love with each other. We are always laughing and having a great time, even when we are being productive and getting things done. She looks at me as a person in love would look at someone (the eyes, you know the look!). We have great sex, although her sex drive is slightly less active than mine, and we are very sexually compatible.
“I am a 26 year old woman. I have a very difficult relationship with my father which seems to go back and forth and is upsetting my life during important periods that matter most. I am really sick and tired of this vicious circle and its draining my energy when I need it most which leads to depression.
My father was abusive physically with my mother and emotionally with me and my brother. I am the older daughter and being a girl I feel the abuse was more directed towards me. My brother has cut off all contact with my father for some years now after my mother’s death. I am still in touch but I find myself very agitated after every conversation. But I still don’t feel like completely losing touch with him at the same time I feel that I should for many things. Although my father is abusive and inconsistent. He seems to care about what happens to his children and offers to help which he does inconsistently and conditionally. I feel that he is insecure about us leaving him and severing all ties which my brother did successfully, but it is this insecurity that makes him treat us badly by pulling the rug from underneath our feet when we need it most.
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