Summer is in full swing and if you are single, now is a great time to really take advantage of being single and meet someone new. Whether you are a guy or a girl, straight, gay, bi, you have the opportunity of taking advantage of what summer has to offer. Of course, it depends on where you live. If you live in a large city area, then you have a slough of planned events to look forward to. Even if you live in a more rural community, there are likely a few area planned outdoor events, but you will just have to be a little more creative or drive to your nearest large city!

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Ok, so you’ve been single for a while, but do you know what?  Those in relationships wish they were in your shoes (some of them anyway).  Your time will come when you meet the right girl or guy, so until then, enjoy yourself!!!

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There are key points in life that can bring happiness into your life.  The following are what I would call the “key three”.

I often ask myself this when I hear the ridiculous question or statements that people say to each other; whether it be your spouse, fiancée, mother, sister, brother, friend, etc.  You know what I am talking about too.  You just wake up, you feel horrible; perhaps coming down with the flu, you didn’t sleep well and as you walk into the kitchen to make a cup of coffee, your husband says, “Good morning. Oh, honey, you look sick”.  Hmmm, just what you wanted to hear, right???  Why couldn’t he have just said “good morning” and leave it at that??

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I recently did an interview with Sunny Wang and Kim Hess (The Divorce Guru) from Advice.Lovedetour.com, as part of their Energytalkradio.com show where Kim pointed out how much she loved one of my favorite rules from my book, The Straight Man’s Pocket Guide To Picking Up a Hottie-Written by a Woman Who Loves Women; Never be common, boring, or ordinary. Summer is just a few weeks away, so I thought I would diverge from my normal writings and share something more personal to the readers to drive this rule home!!  It doesn’t matter if your gay, straight, or bi, if you want to meet someone, you should follow this rule!!

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Hmmm. There’s a question I want you to ask yourself even though you may not like the answer. I personally have done a lot of dating in my life and I eventually realized that I would have to answer “yes” to the very question I am asking you to ask yourself.

Sometimes it is not easy to recognize that this is occurring, so sit and take sometime to document some general attributes of your last five partners or people you have chosen to date, regardless of the length of the time you spent together. You may just realize that you are dating or choosing relations with someone who has negative and destructive behaviors or attitudes or seemingly, they are perfect.

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Although gay people were denied the right to legally marry in California, it shouldn’t stop you from wanting to participate in the ideal of marriage and all that it means for the commitment aspect. Asking your partner to marry you can still be a momentous occasion for you both. If you are straight, it should not matter whether the girl or guy pops the question, but if you are traditional and you know your loved one expects the male to ask, then gentlemen, you are on deck! In my book, The Straight Man’s Pocket Guide To Picking Up a Hottie-Written by a Woman Who Loves Women, there are plenty of ideas to get someone and although I include a chapter on how to keep her, forgot to include tips on how to propose.

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You made it through your divorce, you’ve settled the custody issues, finally moved into a descent place, and the dust is settling. All of that took a long, hard nine months. Emotionally, it ended during the last year of your marriage. It wasn’t working for either of you but you tried to stay together for the kids, the convenience, and a few other reasons. Now what?

Focus on you – Take care of you and give yourself a little TLC;  it doesn’t mean you don’t care about your children, your parents/family, or friends. Men and women pamper themselves differently and whatever feels good to you, do it. Ladies, if you haven’t had a manicure, pedicure, or spa-treatment in awhile, treat yourself. Even if money is a little tight, stop spending four dollars a day on that super tall skinny latte you buy each morning on your way to work. Or what about that yoga you used to do before you got pregnant? And guys, how about getting back to pumping that iron you love to do or swinging that club out on the back nine? Do it. Find a way to get back a little of you that used to mean so much to you. Sometimes it is easy to forget about the “me factor” with the distractions and stresses we are all exposed to on a daily level and getting in some “me” time may just keep you a little more sane. Relieving some stress will help you have better relations with those around you and help get your head on right to re-enter the dating world.

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The time comes when you realize that no mater what, you really need to end your relationship. You’ve done it all; communicated the issues, took a break from each other, had a ménage a trios, broke up a few times and got back together, and even did the counseling thing. There is nothing left. You decide to officially break up with your partner; but when?

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According to dictionary.com a report is defined as an account or statement describing in detail an event, situation, or the like, usually as the result of observation or inquiry. Reports are used in most sectors of business, but why not our relationships? During the course of dating someone, we do make mental notes, identify red flags, and observe countless behaviors and attitudes that we may or may not like; but we never write a Quarterly Dating Report.

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This has been written about many times and it isn’t rocket science. You don’t have to be a genius. You don’t have to over think it. The reasons, or answers, whatever you want to call it, are as plain as the nose on your face. You broke up for a million reasons and sometimes it was long over due but you finally break up.

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