So you finally do it. You commit to one person. Congratulations. Let the honeymoon begin!! When I say commitment, it can be anything from marriage, to exclusive, to moving in, etc.; it’s whatever you and your partner decides is a “commitment” and how you define it. Regardless of how you define your commitment, it still affects you in a way that would not have, had you not committed. It requires so much more than the non-committed. Do not kid yourself nor become overly full of dreamy thoughts like the relationships depicted on the big screen. You may experience a bit of that during the “honeymoon” stage, but other than that, it requires attention and care that you would give any other aspect of your life. If you want to be a great mechanic or a great doctor, it takes time, attention, practice, and skill. So does being a good boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife or partner.

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Think about it. I am sure someone immediately sprouts to mind when you think of the word “high maintenance”. I personally can name at least five women, without breaking a sweat. Perhaps some of you ladies reading this can think of some men that are “high maintenance” as well; however, I am going to focus this article on the “high maintenance” female.

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There comes a time in a relationship when you get “comfortable” with your partner. That’s a good thing. You know what to expect from them in terms of their behavior, attitudes, and beliefs, how they treat you, what makes them happy, sad, or angry, etc. It is normal for relationships to evolve or morph into something else after a period of time. Maybe when you first started going out, i.e. the “honeymoon stage” you had sex everyday or 4 or 5 times a week, you wrote each other love notes regularly, or brought him/her flowers frequently; and now, not so much. Its normal for a cooling down period where your love evolves into something way more than just the physical aspect of your relationship and you build and grow on trust, loyalty, compassion, procreation, and deeper connections. Living together creates a distinct closeness that most humans probably long for but sometimes causes the loss of what you had in the beginning. If your relationship initially was just based on companionship and friendship and not a physical intensity that a lot of couples experience, then this may not apply to you.

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Definition of “Nuts and Bolts” from Answers.com: Slang, meaning the basic working components or practical aspects

You finally asked her out. Yes gentlemen, most women want you to take that initiative and ask her out on the first date. I understand about the women’s movement, the feminist movement, equal rights, or whatever you want to call it. But when push comes to shove, women want you to ask her out. Just like women have no interest in taking out the trash; you should take out the trash for her. There are men roles and there are women roles and roles that are interchangeable. I am not saying that after the first date, she can not, will not, or should not ask you out. I am strictly talking “the first date”. Ladies, I think it’s great if you ask a man out on the first date, kudos to you!

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Do you know the difference?

Making love is the act of having sex that involves a certain level of intimacy and emotion. Raw sex is the act of having wild, passionate, uninhibited, animalistic sex, while not introducing a lot of “heart” emotion or emotions triggered by thought. Raw sex can be really hot. Although once the act of raw sex is over, emotions may sweep in and take you over. If you are in a committed relationship or exclusively dating, having both at different times is a great way to keep your sex life interesting.

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