I could have written about the top five or top ten problems couples face, but really, if you focus on not having one of the top three, you are doing great!!
Did someone say Sex?- Once you are well on your way to a long term relationship, sex or lack of it, may become an issue and cause you and your partner to have conflict. Whether it’s the where, how, or when, sex trouble will rear its little head. Inevitably the frequency will diminish. Sure, the first year was filled with sex-capades of varying places, times, and fantasies. Sure, she used to wear Vera Wang black lacy thongs and five inch “come fuck me heels”. Now, you have to look at Uggs, half of the time. Not that those can’t be sexy with the right skirt, but seriously, where are the heels? He used to bring you flowers or surprise you in the middle of the day with sexy texts and tell you how much he couldn’t wait to come home and ravish you. Now, your lucky if he puts down his blackberry long enough to even notice that you have been wearing Uggs every day. Regardless of why your sex life isn’t where you want it, revamping or recreating your sex life will benefit the overall quality of your relationship.
To determine which action would suit your life, perhaps defining each of these words for you would be a good place to start. Everyone uses these words and knows what they mean in general, but to really understand the words to apply them, requires a more in depth definition and review of them.
Whether you are married, living together, dating, etc. it is not uncommon for couples to experience elevated stress levels during the holidays. The key is to pay attention, communicate your needs, and incorporate strategies to keep stress low.
A friend of mine recently said she found “the one”. She thinks it’s silly of me that I don’t believe that there is one person for us that is in fact “the one” or the “perfect one”. If you too believe in the one, then who have all of the other people you have had relationships with? If you are 40, have been married once or twice, have had multiple boyfriends or girlfriends, but now you find someone you know for certain is “the one”, who were those people? Did you settle for someone less than the one because you were afraid to be alone or don’t like being alone?
Relationships are not easy; whether it’s with your parents, siblings, friends, spouse, or girl/boy friend. There are many key principles to maintaining a successful relationship with your significant other. Setting aside for the purposes of this article that no one can make you happy, as it must come from within, if you implement the following concepts, your chances of a successful relationship with your partner will significantly increase. 
There comes a time in a relationship when you get “comfortable” with your partner. That’s a good thing. You know what to expect from them in terms of their behavior, attitudes, and beliefs, how they treat you, what makes them happy, sad, or angry, etc. It is normal for relationships to evolve or morph into something else after a period of time. Maybe when you first started going out, i.e. the “honeymoon stage” you had sex everyday or 4 or 5 times a week, you wrote each other love notes regularly, or brought him/her flowers frequently; and now, not so much. It’s normal for a cooling down period where your love evolves into something way more than just the physical aspect of your relationship and you build and grow on trust, loyalty, compassion, procreation, and deeper connections. Living together creates a distinct closeness that most humans probably long for but sometimes causes the loss of what you had in the beginning. If your relationship initially was just based on companionship and friendship and not a physical intensity that a lot of couples experience, then this may not apply to you.
Summer is in full swing and if you are single, now is a great time to really take advantage of being single and meet someone new. Whether you are a guy or a girl, straight, gay, bi, you have the opportunity of taking advantage of what summer has to offer. Of course, it depends on where you live. If you live in a large city area, then you have a slough of planned events to look forward to. Even if you live in a more rural community, there are likely a few area planned outdoor events, but you will just have to be a little more creative or drive to your nearest large city!
