To determine which action would suit your life, perhaps defining each of these words for you would be a good place to start.  Everyone uses these words and knows what they mean in general, but to really understand the words to apply them, requires a more in depth definition and review of them.

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Whether you are married, living together, dating, etc. it is not uncommon for couples to experience elevated stress levels during the holidays.  The key is to pay attention, communicate your needs, and incorporate strategies to keep stress low.

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A friend of mine recently said she found “the one”.  She thinks it’s silly of me that I don’t believe that there is one person for us that is in fact “the one” or the “perfect one”.  If you too believe in the one, then who have all of the other people you have had relationships with?  If you are 40, have been married once or twice, have had multiple boyfriends or girlfriends, but now you find someone you know for certain is “the one”, who were those people?  Did you settle for someone less than the one because you were afraid to be alone or don’t like being alone?

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Relationships are not easy; whether it’s with your parents, siblings, friends, spouse, or girl/boy friend.  There are many key principles to maintaining a successful relationship with your significant other. Setting aside for the purposes of this article that no one can make you happy, as it must come from within, if you implement the following concepts, your chances of a successful relationship with your partner will significantly increase.  

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There comes a time in a relationship when you get “comfortable” with your partner. That’s a good thing. You know what to expect from them in terms of their behavior, attitudes, and beliefs, how they treat you, what makes them happy, sad, or angry, etc. It is normal for relationships to evolve or morph into something else after a period of time. Maybe when you first started going out, i.e. the “honeymoon stage” you had sex everyday or 4 or 5 times a week, you wrote each other love notes regularly, or brought him/her flowers frequently; and now, not so much. It’s normal for a cooling down period where your love evolves into something way more than just the physical aspect of your relationship and you build and grow on trust, loyalty, compassion, procreation, and deeper connections. Living together creates a distinct closeness that most humans probably long for but sometimes causes the loss of what you had in the beginning. If your relationship initially was just based on companionship and friendship and not a physical intensity that a lot of couples experience, then this may not apply to you.

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Summer is in full swing and if you are single, now is a great time to really take advantage of being single and meet someone new. Whether you are a guy or a girl, straight, gay, bi, you have the opportunity of taking advantage of what summer has to offer. Of course, it depends on where you live. If you live in a large city area, then you have a slough of planned events to look forward to. Even if you live in a more rural community, there are likely a few area planned outdoor events, but you will just have to be a little more creative or drive to your nearest large city!

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Ok, so you’ve been single for a while, but do you know what?  Those in relationships wish they were in your shoes (some of them anyway).  Your time will come when you meet the right girl or guy, so until then, enjoy yourself!!!

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There are key points in life that can bring happiness into your life.  The following are what I would call the “key three”.

I often ask myself this when I hear the ridiculous question or statements that people say to each other; whether it be your spouse, fiancée, mother, sister, brother, friend, etc.  You know what I am talking about too.  You just wake up, you feel horrible; perhaps coming down with the flu, you didn’t sleep well and as you walk into the kitchen to make a cup of coffee, your husband says, “Good morning. Oh, honey, you look sick”.  Hmmm, just what you wanted to hear, right???  Why couldn’t he have just said “good morning” and leave it at that??

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I recently did an interview with Sunny Wang and Kim Hess (The Divorce Guru) from Advice.Lovedetour.com, as part of their Energytalkradio.com show where Kim pointed out how much she loved one of my favorite rules from my book, The Straight Man’s Pocket Guide To Picking Up a Hottie-Written by a Woman Who Loves Women; Never be common, boring, or ordinary. Summer is just a few weeks away, so I thought I would diverge from my normal writings and share something more personal to the readers to drive this rule home!!  It doesn’t matter if your gay, straight, or bi, if you want to meet someone, you should follow this rule!!

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Hmmm. There’s a question I want you to ask yourself even though you may not like the answer. I personally have done a lot of dating in my life and I eventually realized that I would have to answer “yes” to the very question I am asking you to ask yourself.

Sometimes it is not easy to recognize that this is occurring, so sit and take sometime to document some general attributes of your last five partners or people you have chosen to date, regardless of the length of the time you spent together. You may just realize that you are dating or choosing relations with someone who has negative and destructive behaviors or attitudes or seemingly, they are perfect.

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