When you tell people you are getting a divorce, a look of remorse and pity instantly comes across their faces.  Of course, most of us instantly match their pained expressions with our own “woe is me” face complete with downcast eyes followed by “It’s hard but I’ll be okay.” Does this sound familiar?

Well damn it, stop it!  Next time someone asks how your ex spouse is doing you pipe up with “I’m divorcing the jerk, hallelujah!” Smile a happy smile, and start laughing.  You’re asking me, “Kim, what am I laughing about?” I’m glad you asked.

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I have great advice for everyone who needs to get control of their love life. Ready? You need to…forgive. That’s right, to have a successful love life after a break up or divorce, you must forgive your ex. Before you protest, read these 7 tips to help you forgive. Forgiveness will not only free you of your ex, but benefit you and your future relationships.

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There is no better way of maintaining a healthy and exciting sex life than by constantly reinventing yourself and spicing things up all the time.

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Going through a divorce is one of the most difficult things that you will have to encounter.  Acknowledging and accepting your feelings is the first step to healing.  Recovering emotionally is not an easy task, but one that can be done successfully to ensure a whole, happy life with proper time and healing.

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Everyone wants to love and be loved.  Just because you have suffered through the painful experience of divorce, does not mean your heart does not want to find love again.  It is not unusual to desire a relationship where you can have an emotional connection with another person.  Though this is natural and is to be expected, there are some things that must happen to make sure that finding love after your divorce is fulfilling and right for you.

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If you have experienced this trauma, you know how it feels. Like someone just kicked you really hard in the stomach. With pointy steel toe cowboy boots on…in the dark…because you never saw it coming. What trauma am I speaking of? When the person you divorced or just broke up with starts dating someone else.

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I was watching public television this morning.  I’m sure you’re assuming I’m one of those intellectual types that only watches public television, listens to public radio, and only buys organic free trade coffee which will make some little girl in a developing country have the means to go to school one day, and not have to marry her 45 year old cousin.  Stop assuming.  I wish I was that person.  I just can’t afford cable.

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