Now, this by ITSELF is nothing new. We ALL know women do this. Heck, you might be a woman reading this NOW who does this. Again, it’s nothing new. However, what IS new, is the information I’m going to share with you in this article. Not only is it TOTALLY DIFFERENT from everything you’ve ever thought BEFORE, but it ALSO raises some brand new QUESTIONS. So read on.

You see, even if you DO make a guy wait 2 or 3 months to have sex with you, he can EASILY be having sex with OTHER girls until YOU decide to do it, AND still DUMP you once he DOES have sex with you — IF he’s that type of GUY. (But you won’t KNOW until you TEST him…)

Consider the following…

Scenario 1: You meet a guy, and you make him wait 90 days. You develop really strong feelings for this guy by the time 90 days is up, so you’re HAPPY to finally give him your body now that he’s waited. The connection is strong, the mood is right, and the sex is fantastic. But then, he dumps you on the 91stday. How are you going to feel? Played, hurt, confused, angry, sad, and bitter. All because he USED you. Now you’ve put a HUGE WALL up for all the DECENT guys to have to break down, all due to ONE man (HIM) and a poor decision, made by YOU.

The Truth: If a guy is a user, he will BE a user no matter WHEN you give it up. Today, tomorrow, three months or ten YEARS from now. If he really wants sex that bad, he will play your waiting game, only to BEAT you at it once it’s over, and leave you looking stupid. So DON’T LET him! Instead, play it smart. Have sex when YOU’RE ready.

If you want sex with this guy after a week, HAVE IT! If you don’t, FINE! If you want to wait 3 months, WAIT! However, if you DO want sex with him, and you DELAY it to live out some silly fantasy that he’ll RESPECT you more, you’re only hurting YOURSELF in the end.

You see, if you have sex with a man too early, and he stops talking to you, you’ll be mad at yourself, saying “Ugh! I should have made him WAIT!” But in REALITY, that’s not true. Because if he’s the type of man to STOP TALKING to a girl over something as SMALL as acting on her sexual DESIRES (the same way HE did, I might add) is he REALLY the type of man you want to deal with ANYWAY? Probably not. So why deprive YOURSELF of what you want, because you’re worried about what HE’S thinking? You’re letting HIM control your ACTIONS without even REALIZING it!

Scenario 2: You make a guy wait 90 days. You want to seem respectable, and you don’t want him to leave after “getting what he wants.” So you keep him on a string so that he’ll STAY until it’s time for sex, as if that’s the ultimate prize.

(The ultimate prize SHOULD be your HEART, dear…NOT your vagina. But we’ll get to that a little later.)

In any event, the time finally comes for you to have some real good lovin’ with this man, and…he’s TERRIBLE in bed. That’s right, his stick isn’t magic, and he doesn’t know how to wave it. So NOW you’re stuck wondering IF it’ll get better, how long you’ll be able to deal with his horrible sex if it DOESN’T get better, whether you should cheat or stay faithful, whether you want to stay with the guy at ALL, and HATING the predicament you’ve now found yourself in. ALL BECAUSE, you just HAD TO WAIT, thinking it was “the best decision.” Well, maybe you should’ve taken this car out for a TEST run first…

The Truth: If you’re worried about a guy not sticking around anymore after he has sex with you, that tells me that SEX is all YOU think you have to OFFER a man. Otherwise, why would you think he’d LEAVE you AFTER sex? Don’t you have OTHER things worth staying for? Such as your MIND, or your HEART? Shouldn’t THOSE things be valued a lot more than SEX is? And if you’re saying “Yes, but men don’t CARE about those other things”, then you’re messing with the WRONG MEN. Because a REAL man will stick around even AFTER you give him sex. Why? Because he LIKES you, and is in it for MORE

Now, am I suggesting you have sex with every man you meet on the first day? Of course not!

But ask yourself this question: If your HEART is truly more precious and VALUABLE to you than a “good time in the sack”, why is SEX the thing that you WITHHOLD from men, while giving him your HEART so EASILY? Think about it…

This issue is just ONE of the many issues covered in Jason’s Love’s “Rulebook” (which can be purchased for only $5). Other issues include, how to spot a liar or a cheater before he manipulates you, how to tell the difference between a man and a boy, how to stand up to a guy who treats you badly, in a way that makes HIM feel stupid, and much more.

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I’m sure everything feels perfect. You’re happily in love, planning a future with her, she thinks you’re her dream man, you’ve been together for a couple of years, and everything seems to be going in the right direction. Things couldn’t be better. Then: disaster strikes. Let me explain. It’s NOT in the way you THINK it will. Well, not at FIRST, anyway. Because it’s not DIRECT. This disaster will happen over TIME.

The problem occurs when the woman, nearing the end of her teenage years, begins to wonder what else is out there. She’s been with you, but she hasn’t REALLY had a chance to experience LIFE yet. She wants to go out, she wants to party, she wants to drink, meet guys, go to the club, have sex, etc. No longer is she so sure that she wants to be tied down to you so young. It’s NOT that she doesn’t LOVE you, but the LURE of EXCITEMENT is just so TEMPTING, that it’s pulling her AWAY from you. Only SLOWLY at first, though. She wants to spread her wings and experience things that most young women her age eventually want to experience.

The BAD part is, YOU ARE sure of what you want. YOU don’t NEED to “see what else is out there”, because your GIRL is all that MATTERS to you. You two are in love, talking about your future together, maybe even getting engaged, so you’re not even THINKING about ending things due to some crazy desire to be single out of nowhere. YOU’RE thinking that all will go according to PLAN.

Unfortunately, that’s not normally the case. The sweet young girl you’ve been with since she was 15 or 16, is now on her way to college, being tempted by all kinds of wild things and people she’s being INTRODUCED to while THERE. She’s being influenced by everything and everyone. From her ‘slutty friends’, to the lure of frat parties and ‘sexy guys’ she’ll encounter there. Combine that with alcohol, and the situation doesn’t look good for you.

It starts off with your girlfriend trying to balance both. She probably feels that she can have fun with her friends, WITHOUT affecting the relationship. After all, she’s young, she’s in college, and she wants to enjoy her freedom during this time away from home. She’s not doing anything wrong (at least not YET). She’s just going OUT a little more. She’s MEETING people. Nothing wrong with that.

As time goes on, however, she’ll slip up. She’ll end up sleeping with a guy at a frat party, or she MIGHT even start LIKING some guy on CAMPUS. Then she’ll think “Uh oh. I made a mistake. What about my bf?” So, she’ll talk to you like things are normal, but the guilt will make her not want to talk to you as much. She won’t be available as much anymore, because she doesn’t know how to FACE you now, after the ONE slip up, OR, even WORSE, the NEW guy she’s met, and has recently become INTERESTED in.

And with YOU not BEING there, it’s the PERFECT EXCUSE for her lack of fidelity, and loss of interest. She’ll apologize, of course, but the damage is still done. You’re hurt, you’re shocked, you’re devastated. Not expecting this recent turn of events to occur AT ALL. You’re in disbelief. After all, YOU two were supposed to be building a lifetime of loving memories, not pain & hurt. How could she DO this to you? How could it HAPPEN? How could she LET it happen? How could some “new guy” just come in between you guys, when your love was so strong? Well that’s just IT. Your love WASN’T so strong. Because when it was TESTED, it BROKE.

You two were on your way to having a LIFE together. And instead, a little distance, along with a woman’s curiosity, has led to a SPLIT between you two, that, at THIS point, your girl doesn’t even WANNA repair.

So now, your whole LIFE has been turned upside down. Meanwhile, your (now EX) girl is moving on with her young life, and will eventually be hurt by one of the guys she dumped you for. It’s a continuous cycle of vicious karma that will never end.

So in the end, be careful. Because sometimes, love is just not enough, and LUST often PREVAILS.

Look at what you’re putting into a relationship. Then look at what your partner puts in. Is it equal? Is it even CLOSE to being equal? If it’s not, you need to evaluate your relationship and decide whether or not it’s worth it. Why are you staying faithful to a man who’s cheating on you? Why are you supporting a man (AND YOURSELF, which is ALREADY hard) when he’s not helping you at ALL? Why is he taking your car and dropping you off at work, just to go joyriding? Sounds more like a BOY than a boyFRIEND. And it sounds like you’re being USED more than you’re being LOVED. Is that what you want? You may love HIM, but it’s obviously not mutual if he’s cheating on you or beating you. And all the love in the world isn’t an excuse to be stupid. You have to respect YOURSELF before you can respect a man, OR expect HIM to respect you. And if he can walk all over you without any consequences, why would he respect you?

Now, I am by NO MEANS suggesting you not to be a good WOMAN. What I AM suggesting is to make sure the guy is WORTH it first. If he’s a good man, be a great woman. If he’s a lousy man, you shouldn’t be his woman at all. A lot of women work SO hard to please a man who barely gives them any attention or appreciation. They figure that if they just do enough, or love him enough, he’ll begin to see what he has and start to change into a better person. He WON’T. One thing you have to realize: YOU CAN’T CHANGE A MAN. So don’t try. And don’t allow him to play with your emotions just to get what he wants, either. It’s called manipulation. And why would a man who truly loves you need, or even WANT to manipulate you? The longer you accept this bad behavior, the harder it’ll be to realize that you SHOULDN’T. And next thing you know, you’ll be the girl crying that you “put up with it for three years” and regret every second of it.

The HARD part is, how to STOP this behavior. You’re in love, you’ve been together for a while, and you’re used to the relationship, so you deal. That’s not the way to go. Nothing will change, if YOU don’t change. But again, HOW? That’s the question. Well, first off, it requires determination, and inner strength. How sick ARE you of this no good man and your shitty relationship? Are you sick enough to put a stop to it, by any means necessary? If you’re NOT, I can’t help you. If you ARE, read on…

1: Set some ground rules.

If your man is used to getting away with murder, he will likely laugh at you for suddenly growing a backbone. And he WILL TEST you. The key is, not to fail the test. If you say he will NO longer walk all over you, you must stick to it. Which brings me to point #2.

2: Let there be consequences for his actions.

If he takes your car, and doesn’t bring it back by a certain time (specified by you) he won’t borrow it again. Period. If he can’t remember that that is YOUR property, you REMIND him of it by forbidding him to take it again, until he can prove to you that he can respect your generosity.

If hits you, call the police. I know, I know, you may not WANT to call the police. But you should, and here’s why: Horrible actions that go unpunished will always get worse. So yea, call the cops. The first time this happens, the man will likely do one of two things. Threaten you, or apologize, because he doesn’t want to stay in jail. If you choose to drop the charges, you let it be KNOWN that if he touches you again, for ANY reason, you will send him STRAIGHT to prison, with NO remorse. No apologies, no sweet talking you into dropping the charges. You did that once, and he was spared. If he appreciates his freedom, he needs to keep his hands to himself. If not, he’s done. Period.

If you catch him cheating, end the relationship, and kick him out of the house if he lives with you. (Don’t say he won’t leave, because there are police escorts for this sort of thing.) If he wants you back, he needs to EARN your trust again (assuming you even WANT him back.) This means NO sex. That’s the first step to letting your guard down and letting him back in. DON’T DO IT.

If he disrespects your parents/family, don’t allow it. Assuming you have a good family who’s always there for you, don’t risk losing them by defending your loser boyfriend. Because at this point, your family and friends are probably the only people keeping you SANE while you deal with the headache and heartache of your tumultuous relationship. Don’t let a man ruin that, especially if he’s not worth the fall out.

3: Stick to your decisions.

If a man does something wrong, and you only stay mad for two days before all is forgiven, he knows he can do it again. People don’t realize what they have until it’s gone. Therefore, if he does something bad enough to be dumped or kicked out, don’t forgive him after a few days or a week. He hasn’t learned his lesson.

**VERY IMPORTANT**

If your asshole BF starts apologizing and swearing he’ll change once you break up with him, it’s not true. THIS IS NORMAL, and should be EXPECTED. He’s saying this because he can’t believe you actually ended the relationship. He now realizes how good he had it with you and wants it back. However, within a week or two of him GETTING you back, he will once again revert back to his old ways. Why? Because he’s comfortable again. It’s a pattern that will continue, for as long as you allow it.

About the Author: Jason Love, a Michigan native, has been giving relationship advice for several years. After dating women of all ages, and from all different areas, he has garnered enough experience to put some of his knowledge to good use for the rest of the world. His practicality, and logical perspective on the different issues has made this an enjoyable pastime for him. He loves being able to help both men and women, and perhaps even be able to bring some of them with common goals together.