Trying to talk to your partner sometimes feels like a bad golf swing. You have the finest intentions, give it your best shot, and somehow end up in the rough, usually having no idea how you got so off course. Most of our failures to connect with our partner have nothing to do with the relationship itself. We come into partnership with a complicated history, habits we’ve picked up along the way and preconceived notions. Assumptions, old beliefs, outdated attitudes are the driving force behind many-a-missed opportunity for fostering intimacy. If underlying beliefs control our actions and reactions, we will most likely fail to get the outcome we really want. Here’s an example: …read more
