To put it simply, divorce is never easy. Whatever the cause, if you choose to get out of the relationship or it came as a surprise, the end to a significant committed relationship can be a jarring experience that creates all kinds of negative emotions. However, there are ways to get through such a painful part of life. Even in this period of mourning and stress, it is an opportunity to learn and grow and to become stronger and wiser.

The Pain of Divorce

Divorce can be a painful process because it creates a sense of loss, either in the sense of losing a relationship, commitment or dreams. Even if it was a bad relationship, a marriage is founded on romantic love and hope for the future. The loss of such an ideal can create feelings of disappointment, guilt, and grief.

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Buying great gifts for your special someone while you are far away can sometimes be very difficult. It is important that you remember, however, that the sentiment of sending anything at all is more important than the gift itself as your loved one will know that you were thinking about them while you were gone. Whether you are in a long-distance relationship, are away during an important event or you are away on business a lot, then you might want to consider some of these ideas to help keep the flame going when you can’t be there.

Love Letters

It’s true that we live in a modern world where quick forms of communication are the norm, but no email, tweet or poke on facebook could ever come close to the romance of alove letter. A timely classic for a reason, a love letter shows that you care enough for the person to sit down and personally write out your feelings on a piece of paper. They will be touched that you put in the effort, and there is nothing more exciting than receiving a letter in the mail!

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Falling in love is the greatest experience a person can ever have, though it’s not always easy to tell if your man feels the same way about you. Most men aren’t very good at talking about their feelings, though there is more than one way to tell if the man you love feels the same way about you. If your man does any of the following five things, you can rest assured that he loves you too. Some people look into becoming a communication major in college when they want to learn more about the communication of love and relationships.

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So the intimacy of the relationship has faded, and once your hormones settled you realized your partner is not really what you want. Maybe they have some annoying habits you didn’t realize at first, or maybe you desire more in common than just the bedroom escapades that were originally the foundation of your relationship. Or have you been in a long term relationship and it has finally run its course? Either way, for some reason you really cared about this person, and although it’s over you still agree to be friends….

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It’s no secret that men and women are very different when it comes to sex and what it takes to become aroused. Women often need to feel an emotional connection, or at least a sense of romance before they are interested in pursuing physical intimacy with a man. Then there is the cuddling, kissing, and tickling of foreplay to get things “warmed up.”

For a guy it is more like a light switch, you just give them a bit of attention and they are ready to go. Often times a man doesn’t really care for the foreplay, and in a marriage it can even become aggravating if he always has to put a lot of effort into something he could take care of himself in a few minutes. Yes, by take care of it, I mean masturbation,which is completely healthy until it is replacing sex in your marriage.

When one partner is no longer being satisfied, it begins a very dangerous spiral. If a man is not being satisfied physically, he will not feel obligated to satisfy his partner. When neither partner is being satisfied, it inevitably causes wandering eyes in a search for someone new who can provide this pleasure.

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Online relationships have got a pretty mixed reputation, with good reason. Some online relationships are absolute disasters, others are triumphs of communication and love. It’s important to take a realistic view of any online relationship before you start shopping for travel insurance.

Online pleasures

The great side of online relationships can be the utterly unexpected people you meet. Friends can be made all over the world. There’s no lack of these good quality relationships, whatever else may be said about the perils of online romance. These are the healthy online relationships, and, not at all coincidentally, they’re also the ones most likely to lead to productive results.

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By Keith Makenas

Compromise is a huge part of a successful relationship, but there’s another thing that is even bigger and that’s tolerance. In the beginning of relationships there’s usually “cute quirks” but those “cute quirks” quickly turn into, “what is wrong with you” quirks. Once it gets to that point, you may think, what the heck am I doing with this crazy person? You need to accept it and don’t expect your partner to stop those quirks. They won’t stop chewing loud, clearing their throat with a nasty forced hack, picking their nose and putting the snots on the bottom of the couch.

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By Keith Makenas

The odds are stacked against a guy to find a woman that cheers on all his favorite sports teams including college.  If you have found that woman, congratulations!  Do not expect the high fiving, chest bumping, head butting to continue forever. However, I’m not trying to sound like a chauvinistic pig, but typically women lose the passion of sports as time goes on and especially after marriage.  I do not mean she won’t want to cheer her teams on, but the half time keg stands, beer bongs and endless hot wings will decline significantly because after a certain time in relationships have passed, Lifetime will be more important than you.

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By Keith Makenas

One thing a guy will never say on purpose to his girl is “you look fat in that dress.”  Occasionally he will let her know unintentionally by saying things like, “When did you get that miniskirt? It looks like that dress you used to wear?” or “Oh honey, I think the shoulder pads on your dress accidentally slipped down to your butt” or “Nice cameltoe…wait are those my sweatpants?”

Guys and girls have no way to tell their partner that they’ve gained weight without receiving some aggressive repercussions, if not lethal.  The best approach is to try subtle hints.  Everyone has different size jeans in their closet. Switch tags so they think the larger jeans are too tight, but make sure to hide the larger jeans.  Sit on their side of the couch when they’re not around and put tons of heavy items on your lap so they’ll notice the large impression on their side. Finally, you have the more dangerous method of slightly sawing the chair legs so when they sit the chair will collapse.  As long as they don’t injure themselves and you don’t point and laugh at them hysterically, this method is very effective.

If you happen to be the one who has porked out a bit and your partner tells you, then calmly tell them they look fat too and that both of you should do something about it.  Most of the time gaining weight is a mutual thing.  When you notice you’re heading down the wrong path, do something about it right away.  Do not do the typical, “I’ll start tomorrow, next week, next week, next month, this summer, or it’ll be my new year’s resolution,” and finally, “I’m fat, this is who I am. Deal with it! “

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If you and your partner are careful with your finances and you don’t have kids yet, you better relax and enjoy yourselves while you can.  I know my wife and I went down the path of turning things down or not purchasing things we wanted, claiming we didn’t have money.  Five years later and two daughters we wish we had a fraction of the cash we did back then.  The only time we get out to dinner is when a family member can watch our kids for free and I find a decent place on restaurant.com to get a twenty five dollar certificate for four dollars.

Experts will tell you that money is the root of most couples’s problems.  Since I’m not an expert, I didn’t say that.  Bills pile up when you get married, and when you have kids, the bills octopuple, or however you say that, eight times more.  If you have friends inviting you to a Caribbean all-inclusive trip and you already told them you can’t afford it, call them back up and tell them you’re going.  You can find decent deals, including airfare, which will be cheaper than the hospital bills for delivering a baby.  Once you have a baby you ain’t going anywhere for a long time anyway.  Ha ha ha ha! Sorry, I can laugh because I’ve already been through the sleepless nights and currently in the lack of communication phase, which I’ve realized is very similar to talking to my spouse, “I don’t understand you, what the hell do you want?!”  Just kidding honey, I love you!  For the record, I don’t say “hell” in that quote to my child, I say “F__K” instead.

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