“My boyfriend watches ALOT of porn, which doesn’t bother me at all. My problem is that he is somewhat inexperienced and seems to think real sex should be like it is in porn movies…multiple and uncomfortable positions, lasting for hours, etc. How do I tell him that I don’t like this without damaging his ego? I’ve tried using guidance in the bedroom but he just goes back to what he thinks is good.”

- Alicia (31)

“i met an older guy (11 years older, i’m 20) at work 3 months ago and developed feelings for him, and he acted like he felt the same. i caught him staring/smiling at me, he was touchy feely, always coming to see/talk to me etc, but since i left a month ago, he’s not spoken to me an awful lot and i haven’t seen him. i told him i like him 5 days ago and he hasn’t responded. i don’t mind either way but the fact that he’s ignoring me is really bothering me, what should i do?”

- Sophie (20)

“So i met this girl. I saw her in passing a few times but I never had a real conversation just a few hi and passing. One day she asks for my number and from there we were off. She let me know she was unhappily married and had some other things going on and didnt want to involve anyone else in her problems. however we talked constantly, always flirting, she tells me I’m the first thing she thinks about and how she thinks im cute. Well we were suppose to go out for drinks on her day off and she waits until the last minute to tell me that she’s not putting drinking and spending time with me over skyoing her husband. Ok fine so I told her she should have let me know that earlier. So I stop by her room at like 1 in the morning just to make sure we were ok. She told me we was and then the next day messages me and tells me dont show up at her door anymore and basically to stop talking to her. What happened and what should I do from here?”

- Cassidy (21, Dover, DE)

“Im engaged to the love of my life. but she is attached to the hip to her mother and family.
She has always put her family before me, and until now im beggining to get tired of it.  She sometimes brings her cousins and mom to visit, and expects me to always pay, and the like to eat expensive.  I’ve brought it to her attention but says i make 4x as much as they do.  She comes from a family who was well off but now due to the reccession her mom lost her business.  I feel she expects me to provide her and her mother and 8 year boy with the lifestyle they once knew, but honestly i just cant, i have expenses and pay child support so i refuse to do it, and now she is contemplating ending our relationship.

What should i do or approach this?”

- Alex (39, El paso, Texas)

“Im caught in a intense love triangle with a girl ive been with for three years, and a girl i met years ago and we fell off,but just a few months got back in touch. The girl ive been with for three years i love to death but things have been rocky for the past couple months, from lies,and just pointles arguements. The other girl lives in another state now but ive see her a lot and she treats me so good,and i have caught so much feelings for her. My girl and i now just argue,and i mean i love her truly but i dont know what to do. I dont want to string either of them on..any helpful advice? Thank you”

- Leshawn (21, Bloomfield, CT)

“okay nd my bf now ex well he had been cheating on me and it was the whole relationship but he told me wen he goes to parties he gets drunk and ends up doing something stupid and well he cheated on me and brokeup with me cause he realized wat he did the next morning and the day after he wanted me back and i dont know whether i should give him a second chance or not and its been stressing me out cause i love him and i wanna be able to give me and him another shot.”

- Gabbie (17, Opelousas, Louisiana)

“My story is complicated. I currently have a boyfriend who I’ve been with for almost 2 years. There is this other boy I’ve know since a little girl but began to like each other and develop love 9 years ago. We never got to establish a real relationship due to distance. But we were madly in love. My problem is that right now I’m loving him and my boyfriend at the same time. I think of him every single day and we barely talk because now he has a child and girlfriend. I feel that he still has feelings whenever we chat to see how life is going and so on. I just don’t know what to do? Do I tell him I still love him? Do I just stay with my current boyfriend and continue being tormented by the thoughts of the other guy in my head every single day? HELP. I don’t want to wonder for the rest of my life what if’s.”

- Anon (20)

“This guy i met trough internet, and now we are having s long distance relationship. But nothing goes right… sometimes he is good to me sometimes he is not…he says he wants to be with me and he only wants me…but we keep fighting around little and stupid stuff…he keeps coming back and apologizing and i keep taking him back… ever time we talk on the phone he says that he is crazy about my voice and that he cant help his self and he masturbates everytime he hears me talking…i dont know what to do, how to handle this situation? sometimes i think he loves me but sometimes i feel like he is just using me?”

- She (21)

“My bf and I have been together 17yrs. The last 7have been great, we get along well and do love each other, we’ve been through a lot. The first 10 were not so great. My bf had upwards of 15 one night stands. Some he had sex with, others oral sex and some just making out with them. I found out about some of them and was mad and hurt and decided I wasn’t enough for him and inturn had 2 full blown affairs back in 2000, both lasted a few weeks. He only knew about one of them and was hurt and that was his reasoning for a few of the girls he was with…after 2001 I thought everything was fine between us and never thought he would cheat again…I was wrong, he had 2 other girls in 2004 and 2005…2005 I got pregnant with our son and my bf said something in him changed and he never again cheated…neither have I (I did however correspond via email in 2008 with one of my affairs, but strickly as a friend)…the past almost 7 years have been fine, we have 2 young kids and we both seemed content…

however last month for some reason we decided to air out any secrets we had…this is when he found out about the affair of mine he didn’t know about and I found out about a few girls, 3 from 2000 and one he slept with in 2004 and one he had oral sex with in 2005…the difference is now instead of us being mad at each other we’re both heartbroken…we’ve gone through so much together over the years and thought we knew everything from the past. So finding all this out has been horrible…the good thing is the last month we seem to be so much more in love with each and affectionate to each other because we both realize how much we truly do love each other…we both don’t ever want to hurt the other again which is a great thing. We’re planning on going to Vegas in March just the two of us and quietly getting married. I have wanted to marry him since we were young foolish kids so I can’t wait…however I’m worried about a few things…and oddly none of them are if he is going to cheat again!…I’m worried this “honeymoon phase” we’re in right now might end and he may feel he’s made a mistake. Secondly I’m worried about the girl he had sex with in 2004. She is a friend of his sister and was introduced to him back in 2000, he spent the night at his sisters and they all lied to me about it, he says nothing happened that night but I’m not sure, she then ran into him in 2004 and that was when they had sex. We ran into her again in 2005 (me having no idea they had sex), last weekend I was talking to his sister about this and she was concerned…it seems this girl is clinically depressed among other issues, my sister in law isn’t great friends with her anymore but still chats via Facebook…we went through all the emails between this girl and my sister in law and there are about 30, all initiated by this girl, only 10 responses from my sister in law, every single email in a round about way is asking about her “family” and personal information about her nieces and nephews. She asks in every single one if she can go over to my sister in laws house…we moved to the other end of the city and through the emails found out that she too now lives literally minutes away from us…I’m affraid this girl has never gotten over my bf and I’m not sure if she’s going to try cause problems…the last issue I have is I can’t get the images of my bf and all these girls out of my head…its eatting me alive and I don’t know what to do.”

- Sue (35, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada)

“ok, so my slightly older sister has a friend thats at my house a lot, she took my breath away the first time i saw her. but i didnt do anything because she was just “my sisters friend” but then the other day they invited me to go bowling with them, so i did. Now that night at bowling my sisters friend was talking and joking with me, giving each other “crap”, she seemed to pay more attention to me then my sister (her bestfriend) she kept jokingly hitting me and really seemed interested. we talked about a lot of serious things that have happened in our lives and told each other a lot, it seemed like it was love at first sight… so i got her number, and that night right after i dropped her off she called me and talked for an hour.. then the night was over, and the last few days ive been trying to figure this out… she wont text me first, but yet she does reply when i text her. but it seems like its just friendly talk…when she comes over, she doesnt really say anything to me unless i say something to her. i dont know what to do now! should i wait and see or should i talk to her and see how it goes, i dont wanna annoy her because i dont wanna mess anything up. ive never felt this way for a girl..”

- Ben (18, Shakopee, MN)