Dashara Asked:

“Me and my bf have been going together for a yr and sometime now. he recently broke up with me because he said he doesnt trust me. im at the lowest of the lowest right now. he is in the military and is leaving for the uk next month. i want to win his trust back. i love this guy with all my heart. i want to gain his trust back. idk if he is doing that because he’s leaving for the uk. but i feel so hurt right now. i am studying to go to the military i feel thats my only option for him to trust me again….. is there still a little hope?”

- Dashara (19, Belleville, IL)

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Beckie Asked:

“My friend got advice that helped her on here and told me to try.

My boyfriend ignored me and thought i was uncool at school and now he says he loves me, i said yes but i think its only a joke?’

- Beckie (14)

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Ria Asked:

“I Broke off with my boyfriend an year back as he moved abroad for his studies and moreover he said he was getting very serious for me but was sure that we cannot have a future as our families would never approve our relationship. Just after our break up he nearly begged to be friends with him. We decided to be friends. After two months he himself told me that he was in a relationship with some other girl and that was also a long distance relationship.

We were in continuous contact after that. We even met once after that and we kind got intimate in that meeting(intimacy of not a very high degree). I told him that I was not over him. He said he was thinking about me but he also accepted the fact that he was in a relationship with some other girl and called it a “sin” to think about me.

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Anonymous Asked:

“I have been dating a girl for almost two years she says she is not an affectionate person. She will never hold my hand or even look at me in public. But when another guy comes around is perky and will talk to them about anything. Do you think she is embarrassed by me?”

- Anonymous (20)

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Jim Asked:

“For the past two years I have been in love with a 34 year old woman in my office I am 47 but the age thing is unimportant to her. She has been living for the past five years with her boyfriend who seems abusive to her. On several occasions she has said to me that she would love to move out but due to her salary she can’t. She basically told me one day that she falls in love with the wrong kind of guy like the “bad boy” type. She is divorced because her ex cheated on her. I too am going through a divorce and she was my moral support. As of yet it has not been finalized.

We started out like anyone else communicating. We seem to hit it off right away. We must have spent our entire days together. I would ask her if she would join me for coffee and we would spend an hour together just talking about the days events. She even asked me for my cell number. On special days like her birthday I would take her out to dinner. Last year I literally fell in love with her on her birthday. It struck me like a ton of bricks. I began to e-mail back and forth. First it was general e-mails then they grew more intense and more personal. She would share personal stories about herself as far as her visits to the gyno are concerned and when she felt bad on her time of the month. I would write to her love poetry and the like. Last Valentine’s Day I went overboard by writing a beautiful love poem with a red rose. She freaked out and didn’t know what to do so she called me on the cell phone and said to me we are only co-workers right? I said yes.

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Rose Asked:

“PLEASE HELP!My husband freaks out at me for no reason, if I ask about porn, or masturbation. Just so you know, I love both. No issues here. He’s denied both, over and over, even calling me crazy, and telling me I’m calling him a pervert to think something like that about him! (What does that make me?) He makes me feel small for even thinking he would do those things. I later found out he enjoys them both. A lot. Then comes the sex hookup sites, which he blames on a friend, using his email account. His friend is married and uses them all the time. My husband has been friends with him since 5 years before he met me. It’s been a year, and he still starts arguments about the stuff on the comp even tho I tried to move past it. Once he told me that he cheated and it was a one time thing, in which case right away, I jumped up and grabbed him you know where. (This was all going on when I was pregnant and we were arguing about this for months) Afterwards, he denied it being true, saying he only said “what I wanted to hear, and he never cheated at all.” He still sticks to this even tho it’s been all this time. I have to mention that herpes is involved, and he says he got it from me, since I sometimes have cold sores. I hadn’t had a cold sore in almost 2 years at that time. What I want to know is, should I believe him? He’s very defensive over small stuff, and gets very angry, when I ask. Also, I might add, he is 44, and was single for 12 years before me(save a 6 mos relationship) and I am 30 and not too bad in the looks dept. He says he’s lucky to get someone young and prety like me so why would he cheat? He even keeps asking to take a lie detector test! I wonder if he is acting strange because he isn’t used to being in a rel. and really doesn’t know much about them, or if he got stuck on sex sites because he was single for so long, and can’t stop himself now. I’ve asked both questions, but it just makes him mad either way. It has to be one or the other. Either he’s clueless or he’s cheating. What do I do?”

- Rose (30, Ontario)

Idaman Asked:

“i am having relationship for one year now with guy and were having problems with sex and also understanding each other, he seems never like to change his way and his ego and dont want to tell what he’s like in relationship. for i am really stressed. he is also always angry and always used the same reason to blame. i think we close to ending…but i still try to hold. he told me, if i dont like him, i can leave, seems like he doesn’t care anymore with this relationship….but he did mention he loves me and difficult for him to be normal and he is also thinking about our good future together, like having nice life and nice house together…..i am so confuse…what can i do?”

- Idaman (Male, 36)

Connor Asked:

“I met an amazing Woman back in February of 2010. We hit it off immediately and of course progressed our relationship at warp speed. That being said, it seemingly wasn’t a factor that things were going so fast, as we both were the same age at 33 and knew exactly what we were looking for. We also both brought our own adversity to the new relationship, she came with not being fully healed from an abusive ex, I came with the stresses of having just moved to a new province and changing careers. However, we both recognized our areas for growth and took steps individually and together to strengthen our authentic selves while strengthening our bond. Behaviours got in the way, emotions where mixed and eventually she decided we weren’t a good match for the long term. All the while, we spoke of “forever” together and were ready to move in with each other. The relationship ended back in June, and we took about 6 weeks of little or no contact to sit with our true feelings about our connection. It’s now almost mid August and we have seen each other off and on in the last 2 weeks, been intimate at those times, and speak on the phone daily again. I am told I am loved, and, in fact, I believe she is “still in love” with me, however she is determined to resist our connection based on her feelings of taking time to herself, finding herself, soul searching….so I can’t argue the one I love’s feelings, but how do I ignore the fact that she is still willing to have passionate nights with me, texts, calls, emails all with loving content, but all the while will not enable herself to even make the slightest non-verbal commitment to our connection. Is the writing on the wall here? There is so much more to our story, but the nuts and bolts are, we tell each other we love each other, she claims she’s single, we spend time together and talk daily, but she is convinced she is now on a different path…Is this a clear example of having faith in what’s meant to be will be, or do I step up and walk away? She knows how I feel, about wanting to be together and also knows she is unintentionally trying to hurt me. Bottom line, were in love and she keeps finding a way to be sure and confident, and secure, that this time, it’s for the right reasons and past behaviours don’t enter the picture, which I respect, however, the longer she keeps focusing on the past and the lack, I am worried I will have to walk-away, I want to manifest a living in the now, care-free relationship, and the road-block of our past is getting in the way? Any ideas here?”

- Connor (33)

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Michelle Asked:

“My ex and I broke up in April citing reasons not feeling the same way as me amongst other things as the cause. We’ve gradually gotten back on speaking terms recently.

It’s the anniversary of his mother’s death this month and being that I still care about him and his family, I sent him a little message stating that I hoped all was well and that my thoughts were with them all. From then on and for the past week, the emails have been full of reminiscing, remembering and flirting. Although this wasn’t what I intended to happen, I find myself wanting more again. The truth is I’ve no idea what he’s thinking.

We’re so completely right for each other it’s painful. I wouldn’t be this concerned if it was just a passing thing, but we had and still have a genuine spark and connection and it just works.

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Alexa Asked:

“Hey, well this guy that is messing around with me and stuff. And we kissed. But I heard that hes messing around with other girls too. My cousin told me how he met up with her bestfriend, and how they had sex in the park :O. Apparently he doesn’t want anything serious, he thinks I’m cute and cool, but he stopped IMing me with his goodmorning IMs everyday, now I get nothing. Please help!”

- Alexa (15, NY)

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