Remember when the two of you could not get enough of each other?  You called or sent text messages all day long and you could not wait to get home at night?

What happened? You still love your significant other but the thrill is gone.  Men and women experience this in relationships but their approach to “fixing” the problem may be quite different.

During your courtship days, both of your brains were flooding your system with feel good chemicals.  Hey, that is just science so accept it.  Somewhere along the way the two of you established a relationship that you were both happy with.

Now though, it does seem a little boring.  The same old routine and all the hassles that each of you deal with at work.  No wonder you are feeling dissatisfied and wondering what to do.

The good news is that this is totally fixable, the news  you may not like as much is that you actually have some work to do to accomplish it.  The fact is that successful couples have been where you are and they can help you bring the sizzle back.

The list can go on and on but the theme is the same; you have disconnected from your partner and the relationship.

Getting the sizzle back is a choice.  Remembering why you fell in love in the first place is where you start.

If it helps to make a list of all the reasons you used to be hot and heavy over your partner do so.  Even if the things on the list do not make your heart beat faster right now, they used to and they can again.

The point is that you have to take responsibility and you also have to give it time.  If the two of you have been disconnected for awhile it will take some time for you to reconnect.

By thinking about the other’s needs and wants instead of being a big baby about your own, you can show them they mean the world to you.  You can lead the way to falling in love all over again.

If you are sure you really do love your partner but just miss the romance that you had when you first started dating then do something about it.  Start being the person you were then and see what happens. This is true of many cultures such as in East Indian dating. Maya, who met her husband through an Indian dating personals service, advises that “loving your partner the way they want to be loved opens the door for you to be loved the way you want to be loved in your relationship.”

Contributed by Ashok S, an expert on dating Indian Women

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