You are single and have decided to take the plunge and post an online profile or personal ad. In order to get the best representation of you, I highly recommend getting organized and making lists.

What is it that makes you happy? What makes you laugh? What ignites the glow in you? Your surface life is like the skin of an onion. It’s thin, and once you meet someone you like and are comfortable with, hopefully, it starts to peel away. So, let’s peel the onion ahead of time to attract people to the truest form of you. Most people like walks on the beach. So, let’s take it to the next level. What about walking on the beach do you like? Is it the sound of the waves? …Sand between your toes? …Being away from the city? …The opportunity that an infinite body of water represents? Does the distance from the city allow you to clear your head? You get my point! Then most people like movies. Do you prefer the big screen or enjoying the DVD in the comfort of your own home? Do you prefer comedy? Drama? Foreign films? The more you list, the more onion peeling you can do.

Think about the compliments your friends have told you multiple times in your life. Think about the character traits you adore in your friends. Again, make lists! Once you have lists upon lists, go through and pick out the ones that really “get” you.

Now, the doozy…think about your past relationships. What about your x-partners initially attracted you, what kept you in the relationship, and what eventually was the real reason for the end. Once you have it all down on paper, you can see, what really matters.

This exercise is extremely therapeutic. It also helps you to organize our priorities, and heal some of the wounds. This “work” allows you the space to come across as centered and actually feel clearer about your intentions to manifest what you truly desire.

Now that you are clear, you can let it flow into sentences. Once you have it all written out, read it out loud. Does it paint a picture of your truest self and desires? If not, then take a break and come back to it tomorrow. Once it’s a good representation of you and your desires…. share it with a friend or two. Get their feedback. Don’t take what they say personally. Simply, hear them out. You have every right to not follow any of their suggestions. Simply, listen.

Now that you’ve worked this out, place it on the Internet site of your choice and see what happens…. My next article will continue with the online dating journey… responding to ads and getting from email to in person dates!

Cheers to your romance!

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