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November 6th, 2009 @11:22 am  

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May 5th, 2009 @9:31 pm  

Thanks to all of you for your comments!

Kim, I’m glad you enjoyed it!
Jane, If a man doesn’t offer a meal date. I suggest saying “Thank you so much for suggesting “x”. You sound like a wonderful person and I’d love to meet you. However, for a first meeting I don’t feel comfortable with “x”. I appreciate courtship and believe that breaking bread is more conducive to establishing repore. I hope you can understand my feelings.” Most men will agree. Several men prefer lunch or dinner dates but have been conditioned to not ask for too much time up front. This gives them permission to spend quality time with you initially. One person said to me recently “A first meeting when internet dating isn’t a first date”. I laughed and said “you only have ONE chance at a first impression, first date.” He agreed.

Hello Brandon, I appreciate your desire to do something different and more creative than a meal date. However, on a first date, a woman needs to feel safe and comfortable. A public restaurant, sitting and sharing conversation, and lovely food, gives her that comort and also leaves room for building intimacy and interest by having non distracted “sharing”. People think that “activity” dates are creative. They are. However, action doesn’t establish intimacy/chemistry. It establishes compatibility. These are great for later down the road. FIRST dates are your ONLY chance at a FIRST impression. For this reason, why miss the opportunity to have a one on one sharing (food) experience?

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April 29th, 2009 @5:26 pm  

You certainly raise a good argument. I especially agree how a coffee date can give off the negative vibe, because you’re already planning your bail out.

But why does it have to be dinner? I’m a guy, and in order to leave a lasting impression on a date, I think you have to do what other guys won’t do. Don’t settle in on dinner. Think of creative (and even less expensive) ways to spend the day with a new person.

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Jane Said,
June 19th, 2008 @8:43 pm  

Love what was said, lovely article.

What does one do if the gentleman is not offering a date with a meal.

Thanks so much,
Jane

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Kim C. Said,
June 18th, 2008 @7:54 am  

Great article, and right on target. I’m so glad to see this important topic addressed, and I could not agree more with the points you make. I’ve had the exact same experience with coffee dates vs. dinner or lunch dates. My (now) husband was one of those guys who took a risk on making a reservation at a fine restaurant for our very first date. That made such a lasting favorable impression on me, and set an auspicious tone for the beginning of a wonderful courtship, leading to marriage. Thanks for an excellent article, and keep up the good work!

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