Are you questioning the future of your relationship?  Undecided about staying together or calling it quits?

Take a few minutes for this quiz; use the answers for some objective introspective into the situation.

1)     How long have you been dating this person?

a.       0-6 months

b.       6-12 months

c.       1-3 years

d.       over 3 years

2)     What was the first thing that attracted you to your current partner?

a.       physical appearance

b.       social status

c.       emotional connections

d.       makes you laugh  e. have fun together

3)     What things made you continue to like your current partner?

a.        Way he/she treats you

b.        he/she grew on you

c.        don’t want to be alone

d.        don’t know

4)     What do you have in common with this person?

a.        A lot

b.        Not much

c.        We have nothing in common

5)     What are your differences?

a.        A lot

b.        Not much

c.        We have no differences

6)     In your opinion, has your relationship progressed or remained stagnant?

a.        Progressed

b.        Remained pretty much the same

7)     Does the reason(s) you were first attracted to this person still attract you to him/her?

a.        Yes

b.        No

8)     If not… what has changed?

a.        Those things annoy me now.

b.        He/she doesn’t do those things anymore.

c.        I don’t know.

d.        I’ve changed; I don’t find that attractive anymore.

9)     Do you feel happier when you are with:

a.        this person

b.        your friends

c.        alone

d.        equally happy in all situations?

10)   Does your partner treat you with dignity and respect?

a.        Yes

b.        No

c.        Sometimes

11)   Do you treat your partner with dignity and respect?

a.        Yes

b.        No

c.        Sometimes

12)  How often do you and your partner argue?

a.        At least one time a week.

b.        Every day or almost.

c.        Barely ever.

d.       Few times a year.

13)   How long does it take for you to make up after an argument?

a.        Same day

b.        Few days later

c.        At least a week

d.        More than a week

14)   When you think about him/her do you feel happy and calm or worried and stressed?

a.        Happy and calm

b.        Worried and stressed

How do you score?

Questions & Points:

1 – all answers get one pt.

2 – a) 1 pt.;  b) 1 pt.; c) 2 pts.; d) 2 pts.; e) 2 pts.

3 – a) 3 pts. b) 1 pt. c) 0 pts. d) 0 pts.

4 – a) 3 pts. b) 1 pt. c) 2 pts. d) 0 pts.

5 – a) 1 pt. b) 2 pts. c) 1 pt.

6 – a) 3 pts. b) 1 pt.

7 – a) 3 pts. b) 1 pt.

8 – a) o pts. b) 1 pt. c) 1 pt. d) 2 pts.

9 – a) 2 pts. b) 1 pt. c) 1 pt. d) 3 pts.

10 – a) 3 pts. b) 0 pts. c) 0 pts.

11 – a) 3 pts b) 0 pts. c) 0 pts.

12 – a) 0 pts. b) 0 pts. c) 3 pts. d) 3 pts.

13 – a) 3 pts. b) 2 pts. c) 1 pt. d) 0 pts.

14 – a) 3 pts. b) 0 pts.

Add up those points and check out what it means:

25-38 points: Stay together!

Sounds like you’re building a strong foundation.  Relationships all go through ups and downs.  They need to be nurtured to grow and stay fruitful.  Check out questions 10 – 14 again.  As long as these check out then keep going with it.  Maybe it’s just time to spice things up in your relationship to prevent boredom!

16-24 points:  Look deeper for answers!

It might be time to get a hold of how you feel for this person.  Is there love here or are you just keeping busy so you’re not alone?  Be honest.  Figure out your true feelings and then sit down and have a talk with your partner.  An open heart to heart can help figure it out.  After all if you’re not being yourself and lying about your happiness with this person you really are alone after all.  Decide together if you should try to make it work or go in your own directions.

7-15 points:  Time to move on!

Looks like you’re not in a healthy relationship for you or your partner.  Breaking up can be hard but you’ll feel better.  You won’t find that relationship of your dreams while you’re still hanging on to a bad one.  Be strong and move on.

The future of a relationship is best determined by those who are involved with it.  You have the intimate knowledge of what is going right and wrong.  Pay special attention to how you answered questions 10-14.  Mutual respect is the foundation for all good relationships.  If you don’t have this it’s really a waste of time, no matter how good the rest of it is.  Only you can decide what’s right for you but there are lots of tools to help you on this journey.

Remember guys and gals this ‘quiz’ is only to get you thinking.  There are  no easy answers in love!  Follow your heart, be true to yourself and treat others just how you want them to treat you.  Expect only the best for yourself!  If you keep open to love, put it out there in all you do, it will flow back to you!

About the Author: Bella is a professional writer with more than six years of experience specializing in love, relationships and dating from the Philadelphia area .  Bella has learned about love from life, books and working for professional love and relationship coaches.  Despite her experience working in love and relationships she says that life has been the best teacher of all.  Bella believes in following your heart and spirit in all you do – especially with love!

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