Break ups are hard but after time passes, you can find out that they are rewarding. I often find myself disgusted with things I enjoyed with my ex, like certain movies, televisions shows andetc. The reason why, is that I was becoming what he wanted me to be and still didn’t get the ring. So now I am in an exclusive relationship with MYSELF! What I mean by this is I take ever step that I would do in a relationship but for myself only.
Step 1: Look the part- When I get up in the morning I want to make sure I look good. As I step outside my goal is to make heads turn. I love to see men get wide eye and do the Charlie Chaplin with their eye brows as they see me walk by. I don’t respond to the attention physically because I know it takes more to get my time. Ever notice people who are in good relationships are quick to tell others that try to pursue them, that is what not responding to others attention being single is doing for me. Being confident gets you attention that you deserve!
Step 2: Be a part- I show myself affection with gifts, positive affirmations, and other enjoyments. I am proud of the things I achieved on my own and what an ego boost it is for me, more so because people including my ex didn’t think so possible. The greatest pleasure of achievement is having people who doubted you trying to come back in your life when you are successful. The choice is yours if you want to let them back in, as for me I put them on a waiting list. Know that you are your own best friend because there is no competition, jealous, and backstabbing.
Step 3: Enjoy the Part- Relish in the fact that you have some one on one time which can be great R and R that stands for rest and relaxation. The best part of a relationship is enjoying each other and that comfortable silence which lets you know that you don’t have to be reassured you have a connection with the person you are with. So when you go home get a bottle of red wine, a DVD, and your favorite food dish and enjoy how lucky you are to be with you!
When you take the time to build the most important relationship which is with yourself, everything will fall into place. I got lost being the person life wanted me to be but sought after what I wanted to be and settled for nothing else less that tries to come into my life now. Two years later I got that karmarific email from an ex which made my face light up and thought, “God what did I ever see you and how I progressed and changed so much, I didn’t even recognized myself!”
In closing that is how you should enjoy your single life with no regrets and looking back.
Written by: Christina Jeter
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Christina,
Good to see you write this because my wife’s single friends complain of not being in a relationship and not married and afraid of getting too old and not able to have kids. Let alone, they’re not old just think the world is coming to an end since they’re single. I’m forwarding on your article to them. I’ve been married ten years and have two young daughters and wouldn’t change it for the world, but I don’t force relationships onto single people and would die to have a few days I can live your evening with a few modifications. Go home get a bottle of rum, a DVD, and order up some cheap pizza and spicy wings. Lastly, I loved your Step 1, it reminded me of my morning except I don’t have the time to make myself look good and that’s rather tough anyway with a beer belly and hairline receding like the ocean before a tsunami hits. Plus it’s tough when I’m trying to be as quiet as possible to not wake the kids and wife. So when I go to work I do see women get wide eyed, but typically it’s followed by a scream and a sprint away in fear. Great article!
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