I want to dedicate this article to all the lovely ladies and emphasize a point to the men reading this article as all of them should.
I was recently on a popular website intending to leave a comment for one of my dear childhood friends, who happens to be a male. I paused as of his latest posts caught my attention which raises the topic of this article. A girl left my friend a couple of comments. I guess she had been calling and texting him, but wasn’t receiving an answer. She did what any red blooded American woman would do, and definitely should not…she asked him, “What did I do?”
My question is why do women always take full responsibility and assume that they did something wrong? So he doesn’t answer your calls, texts, or online messages when you want him to, but that doesn’t mean that you did anything wrong. It is easy for me to write about this, because a while back I was a victim of asking myself those same questions: “What did I do?”
“Did I say something wrong?”
“Did I step into bad lighting?”
Among others
I made a promise to myself that I would quit assuming that I did anything wrong and quit raising my own suspicions out of uncertainty or insecurity.
Arriving back to the situation with the girl and my friend: it turned out that my friend’s phone hadn’t been working properly, so he was unable to answer her phone calls. Which leads to my point, it wasn’t her fault at all! So, ladies, please stop jumping to conclusions that a man didn’t call you back or won’t ask you out again because of some mystery deal breaker that no one will ever know about because 9 times out of 10 you didn’t do, or say, anything wrong! The thing you will do wrong is react to something that was really nothing to begin with.
I know it may be easier to blame yourself if you go on a date with a guy and he never calls you again. That’s not your fault that he just wasn’t interested. You can’t win them all and he obviously wouldn’t have made you happy anyway. I guarantee 100% that there are men out there who will call you back and will have a genuine interest in you. So, instead of drowning your thoughts with answerless questions move on. Believe me, it is much easier to say, “Alright he didn’t call me, his loss” then to beat yourself up about something that you had no control over. Every failed attempt brings you closer to an even greater and sweeter success. When you do find the right guy finally, you will appreciate him even more and he will appreciate you for that.
About the Author: Boys, men, young, middle-age, old, no matter what, they tend to all be the same…a MAN. Or are they? In a world where sex without a relationship is easier to get than sex in a relationship, tag along on Porsche; a 25 year old writer looking for love, and admits to stopping in the wrong places along the way.
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Hey sweetie! once again a great post. Women so often sabotage themselves by making assumptions before anything is actually wrong. Unfortunately I think a lot of women jump to these assumptions due to self sabotage. They believe they are not deserving of the current good situation so why not just DESTROY it. I just finished a whole series on the rules of texting. Hope you get a chance to stop by and comment!
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