When in a relationship, sometimes (god forbid), the fire begins to die. The flames turn to small embers and steamy nights turn into TV show marathons. I can’t tell you how many times my coupled friends come to me for advice about how to spice up their relationships. I say, it’s all in the sex.

Now, I don’t even mean the actual act itself. What I mean is sexing up your lifestyle by adding a sexual spark to everything you do.

For example, when making dinner with your partner, try these simple and easy tricks to add a little somethin’ somethin’ to that flameless relationship:

• Allow your inner Ricky Martin to come alive by putting on some sexy Latin music. Darling, it’s all in the hips and not in the candle wax*(refer to Living the Vida Loca music video).
• Make dinner in your skivvies or better yet, in the nude.
• Discover the art of eating with your fingers by feeding one another with your leftover dinner scraps.
• Candlelight at your dinner table is a must and shall never be forgotten.
• A glass of wine a day, keeps the doctor away. Okay, so this may be stretching the truth slightly, but in all seriousness, wine automatically creates a romantic setting.
• While eating that special meal, don’t forget your favorite primary school activity, footsy. Slowly caress your lover’s ankle, working your way up to their knee and back down. Repeat if needed or desired.
• Let them eat cake. – Always remember dessert if all else fails. Dessert is sweet and always sexy, in my opinion. If your dessert has some type of frosting, take it into the bedroom and use it on your bodies instead, which will of course, eventually end up in your mouths. Spread and enjoy!

Now honey, dinner isn’t the only place one’s inner tiger can come out and play. Text messaging is another form of expression and may I add seduction.

So you had another busy day at the office and an even busier evening filled with work. You have absolutely no time for making dinner or even love at the moment. Well, why not keep those flames high and roaring with a little text play? Remind your lover how much something turns you on via text. Ask him/or her what they are currently fantasizing about and ask if maybe you can reenact it later on in the week or perhaps weekend?

Remember, we all have busy schedules and too many things to remember, but don’t forget that having a healthy relationship, is having a passionate one. Sex everyday or even every week can be impossible, but remembering to remind your lover that they are sexy and fabulous is priceless.

About the Author: Lauren Fernandez is a young serial dater in the city. She loves chocolate, cuddling and long walks on the beach. Lauren is that shoulder to cry on and that friend who will slap you out of a horrible relationship. Take a trip with her through her successes and failures within the San Francisco dating scene, as she blindly finds her way to love and helps you along the way.

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