Cindy Asked:
“Need advise please regarding my ex bf actions.
Hello everyone,
I need somebody’s advise , in summary I entered a relationship with someone who was engaged and broke up with his fiancee 6 months before we got together, I thought it will be great , but it was full of problems some caused by his ex fiancee, others because of his actions sometimes , so we kept breaking up,I am the one who usually breaks up as he always did something that let me down strongly that I feel we can’t continue together, we did that twice, each time he returns back with promises to change, then I gave him a last 3rd chance and trusted his words that he will fix many things and that we will have a new start, and we got engaged , but after engagement only 1 month and after a stupid argument HE broke up suddenly with me without even facing me, he called my family and informed them of his decision !! , I was shocked because he was begging me to return to him and thhow he felt his mistakes and wants to fix them, so how come suddenly he does this HARSH ending with no logic reason?, I even thought may be he was insisting to return back to me just to get back his lost ego by me breaking up , then after his gained his self esteem he dumped me ? Sometimes also I felt that may be I was a rebound relationship to get over his ex fiancee and that’s why it ended so badly as most of rebounds ? knowing that our relation lasted for 1 year and 2 months .. But does rebounds involve many break ups and returns and finally engagement?
anyway, the problem now is that I tried to get over the story and the pain of the shock , and had no contact with him at all, and he also disappeared from my life completely for 4 months now
but suddenly now he is trying to show off again, but this time not as a good person like the previous break ups to gain me back, this time he is showing off as a complete jerk
he created a new fb account , added hundereds of girls, mainly those he cutt off with when we were together , and also to my surprise adding many people from my workplace who are no so close to him!
he is showing off as a completely different foolish person, posting foolish status updates , overly funny photos of him, even his language with people is like a jerk and a womanizer..
I started even to notice that some girls here at my work who are very close to him are like avoiding me ..
So why is he acting jerk? is he trying to annoy me and make people talk behind my back ? why he wants to show off to people like a player and a cool person in an overly manner? and why keeping contact with people at my workplace?
I need your advise, and thanks for allowing me to share this with you.”
- Cindy (30, New York)
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Cindy,
The only way you would know of his brand new Facebook page is if you were looking at it. Either you added/accepted him to your friends list, or you’re just looking at it on your own (assuming his page is not private, since most are).
The question is, WHY?
You said the guy broke up with you. You said he’s acting like a jerk. You said he’s trying to show off. You said he’s behaving foolishly. Yet you’re still keeping up with his every move on Facebook? Who he’s adding, what he’s posting, etc. Again I ask you, WHY?
Block him and move on. In fact, do whatever you were doing in the 4 months BEFORE you saw his new FB page. Whether he adds 500 girls or 5 girls, it is NONE of your concern. If you stop feeding into what he’s doing, he’ll stop doing it…assuming it’s for your benefit in the first place. Either way, it doesn’t matter. Just focus on YOU.
JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com
Direct. Honest. Real.
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