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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
July 23rd, 2013 @12:56 pm  

Dear Jane,

He did ask you out. It wasn’t the most obvious or gentlemanly way – asking you to go to his room for sex – but it was asking you out nonetheless.

If you like him and want to go on a one-on-one date with him, ask him out. Women are allowed to request time in a man’s company. It’s the 21st Century.


Suzanne White Montiel

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July 21st, 2013 @2:20 pm  


“If he likes me, why doesn’t he ask me out?” The answer is simple.

When he suggested you guys hang out in his room, you declined. He was testing the waters. When you said no, he may have figured you aren’t interested in him that way (sexually). And if you aren’t interested in him the same way HE is, why would he ask you out? This is pretty easy to understand. Common sense.

Now, I know what you’re thinking. “Just because he wants to have sex with me doesn’t mean he LIKES me. I don’t just want to have SEX with a guy. I want something serious. I don’t want him to use me, etc.”

And while I understand ALL of that, you have to give the guy SOME indication that you like him too. He jokingly asked you to be his girl, you didn’t accept (even jokingly). He asked for some private time with you, you said no (again). He says he likes you a lot, but you don’t say it back. Why would he put himself out there even more and risk rejection by asking you out? I wouldn’t.

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July 21st, 2013 @9:10 am  

Hi Jane.

Sounds like he likes you since he said it… but like many guys, he is also probably thinking about sex too. He asked you to hang out in his room so maybe you can use that. Say “hey, you asked me to hang out in your room the other day…I’d like to hang out with you maybe like at the movies or dinner or something”…kind of thing. It’s ok if you want to get the ball rolling with that. Go at your own pace and be communicative like you are doing. He seems to be understanding so trust your instinct.

Good luck,

Robbie Lee, author, mentor, realist

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July 19th, 2013 @5:52 pm  

He probably does but keep your options open to other guys since this guy does not seem ready to commit to a relationship.

John Wilder sex and relationship blog

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