Crista Asked:
“I am currently separated from my husband. He is from Ohio and he moved to Illinois to be with me. He has a 10 year old son that visits us during the summer. He also goes back often to Ohio to be with his son or his family will visit and bring his son with them. We have been married one year so I have spent 2 summers with his son. I have a nine year old daughter and a six year old daughter. His son is emotionally abusive to my girls, lies constantly, and is unable to accept any responsibility for his actions. He is also sexually inappropriate with his comments and with my oldest daughter. I talked to four child experts that all said he displays disturbing behavior and potential personalily pathologies. My husband won’t hear of it. He says his son is wonderful with everyone but me. His dad is working and never around except for part of Friday and Saturdays. The rest of the time his son is with me and my girls. My husband displays some of the same characteristics as his son. Unable to accept responsibility (always makes enemies at jobs but its always the other persons fault, even the supervisors), he is irresponsible (Didn’t do his ’08 and ’09 taxes. Won’t give me a straight answer why not and then lied saying he thought they were taken care of. I’ve been asking him to do them for a year and a half). He has made enemies with my friends who don’t like or trust him. My mom says there is something about him she has never trusted. I still love him so much but my girl’s safety is more important. Writing this my situation sounds like I have only one answer…divorce. I just can’t seem to bring myself to file. I’m so confused. I forgot to mention he gambles. He took money from our account and lied about it. He doesn’t think he has a problem and hasn’t gambled in 6 months that I know of.”
- Crista (37, O’Fallon, Illinois)
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Crista,
What is it that you love about this man? You say you can’t bring yourself to file for divorce, but WHY? All I heard were NEGATIVE things about your husband. So what exactly are you STAYING for? What is the BENEFIT?
Staying with him…Does it benefit YOU? Does it benefit your CHILDREN?
If the answer is NO, I don’t see why you’d stay.
You say your children’s safety is more important than your love for him, but your actions say otherwise. If you truly wanna put your children first, you must do so. Thinking about it isn’t enough.
Also, does your husband defend his son’s behavior because he doesn’t SEE it, or because he AGREES with it / is the same way?
JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com
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