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Cinique' Said,
April 16th, 2011 @6:48 am  

Robin,

I’ll start off with a quote, “The only way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him.” – Henry Stimson – Honestly, there is nothing you can do to make someone else trust you. Trust is given, not earned. Trust is a critical ingredient in a healthy relationship. Without trust there is nothing. Unfortunately for you, there is not much you can do to help in this area; it’s all up to him. If it bothers you, then you have two options; you can leave or you can stay. It doesn’t sound like you want to leave, so I think your real question is how long you should wait for him to gain trust in you? You really shouldn’t have to wait for him to trust you, because we shouldn’t punish people for the mistakes of others. But if you want things to work, you’ll have to stick it through. He must be convinced of your love for him and unfortunately you must long suffer this issue with his lack of trust. It may be hard and frustrating at times, but your love must be like a continuous flow of water over his rocky heart; it may not look like it’s doing anything at first, but over time water can wear down rock. It only takes time, some longer than others, but intense focus, dedication, time and a little patience is what you need. I hope this helped. If you want to discuss this issue more, contact me by email. God bless.

Cinique Scott – Wordsmith
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April 13th, 2011 @7:19 am  

Robin,

If the boyfriend is paranoid, he’s going to BE paranoid, no matter WHAT you do (short of locking yourself in a closet and giving HIM THE KEY)

The fact of the matter is, it’s YOUR happiness on the line here. Are YOU happy? My guess is NO. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be asking for advice.

So, it’s time to tell him:

“Look, Manny (or whatever his name is) I’ve never done ANYTHING at all to make you distrust me. That is your OWN ISSUE. Now, I’ve tried to deal with it up to this point. But something’s gotta give. Either you stop with all the accusations, or I’m outta here. If I haven’t earned your trust by now, it’s obvious that I never will.”

Then, let HIM take the ball. If nothing changes at THAT MOMENT, it’s time to end it — unless he’s crazy. If he is, take precautions first. lol

JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
April 8th, 2011 @5:32 pm  

Dear Robin,

As a mature adult you must know already that you can’t make anyone do anything.

What you can do is calmly and rationally explain to the boyfriend that things have to change or you will leave him. Then, if things don’t change, you have to actually leave him.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel

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