“I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for the last two years and the way down hasn’t been smooth. He just wont tell me his problems. Whenever he is sad i can sense it by just hearing his voice or seeing his eyes but he still wont tell me in spite of all my pampering and love. He has clearly said that he has never been outspoken about his problems, not even with his parents. He wants me to understand his problems without having him to say anything, just like the way his mother does.
Since childhood he has been the quiet, shy guy and i am the first person he has ever got attached with. That is why my one wrong deed no matter how small it is hurts him a lot! But he still wont say that. I have tried loving him, talking to him calmly, pampering him and yes sometimes i even nag but there are hardly any positive response to any of my effort. I try my best not to get angry at him because i know my harsh tone makes him feel as if m nt happy with him. But he even wont stop me when i nag because he doesnt want me to suffer like he does of not being able to express. Recently he is suffering from a crisis in professional life as well and i am trying my best to be his support. Sometimes i feel as if he is not convinced that i love him with all my heart.
What should i do please tell me? I dont want to break up with him. He is my life. i want him to get out of his habit. Its not that he does not love me. He really has changed a lot about himself for us to stay together but i just cant make out how to make him speak. Initially i used to have this habit of not being able to express my feelings. He made me come out of this habit to be able to talk to him freely without any hesitation. But i have yet not been successful to make him feel the same. What should i do?
– Shikha (22, New Delhi)
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