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June 2nd, 2013 @9:16 am  

Some people are intensely private and can’t or don’t want to reveal what is going in their head. I understand your frustration. I suggest not asking him anything but if he talks listen intently until he is done before asking him any questions

John Wilder

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May 28th, 2013 @2:13 pm  

Hi Shikha

You can not force someone to be other than who they are. If it is not his natural inclination to share his problems with a girlfriend, then so be it. Either accept this about him or find someone who is willing to share their feelings, if this is what you need out of a relationship.

Good luck

Robbie Lee, author, mentor, realist
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May 28th, 2013 @12:38 pm  

Shikha,

You have two options:

A) “Even tho you don’t wanna talk about what’s bugging you right now, I just want you to know that I’m here to talk if and when you change your mind. I know I’ve been nagging you to tell me, but I don’t wanna make things worse. Just please come to me if you need to talk. I want you to. But until then, I won’t bug you about it.”

B) “You hated when I used to keep to myself. You MADE me open up. But when I try & do it to YOU, you refuse. How is that fair? You won’t express how you feel but when I was like that, you didn’t accept it. Do you think that’s right?”

There. Option “A” is to respect his wishes and leave him alone, but be there for him if he changes his mind. Option “B” is to call him out for being a hypocrite. You pick whichever option you think is best.

JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com
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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
May 27th, 2013 @1:44 pm  

Dear Shikha,

You are not his mother, but you sure are acting like it. Stop it. Stop coddling him. Stop accommodating him. I

f he doesn’t want to talk to you, fine. If he doesn’t tell you what’s wrong then it’s not your problem, you can go on with your life dealing with your own problems.

I don’t think either one of you is mature enough to be in an adult relationship.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
sewmontiel@yahoo.com

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