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mygif
March 11th, 2011 @4:18 pm  

Jane:

The first thing to examine here is…why aren’t you ready?

Did you just get out of a bad relationship?
Is it because you just want to “have fun”?
Do you feel like you’re too young to settle down?
Do you not KNOW him well enough?
Are you unsure that you’d be able to be FAITHFUL to him?

What exactly is your reason?

After you figure THAT out, you need to TALK to him. Tell him how you feel, and suggest an ALTERNATIVE. For example…

“Are you open to us just dating/seeing each other right now? I’m not ready for a full-fledged commitment yet, but I do like you, so I could see us dating (or having sex) and seeing what develops. Are you up for that?”

That way, you’re not turning him DOWN, but you’re still telling him it won’t be a full on RELATIONSHIP yet. If he’s down, he’ll do it. If he’s not, he won’t. But either way, you will have been honest with him.

Good luck.

JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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mygif
March 11th, 2011 @2:27 pm  

Jane
You need to be honest with the guy and not worry about his feelings. If you are not ready to be in a relationship with him, you are only doing the right thing by telling him this. Just because you like him is not enough reason to be in a relationship, especially if you want to date other guys and at your age, I think that is what you should do.

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder

marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

marriagecoach1.wordpress.com blog

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