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August 3rd, 2013 @1:14 pm  

Becky
Don’t be envious of him for one night stands. It is meaningless sex for sex sake with no redeeming features and dangerouus.

Now let us talk about your problem. Have you had him checked for low testosterone. This is a frequent and common occurrence for men with low
desire. Have you had him checked for diabetes. This is another common occurence causing men to lose their desire and their ability to perform.

Do you suspect that he might be cheating on you with other women. Does he routinely use porn as a masturbation aid. I really need more info to be able to help you.

John Wilder
marriagecoach1.com sex and relationship blog

marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

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mygif
August 3rd, 2013 @1:13 pm  

Becky
Don’t be envious of him for one night stands. It is meaningless sex for sex sake with no redeeming features and dangerouus.

Now let us talk about your problem. Have you had him checked for low testosterone. This is a frequent and common occurrence for men with low
desire. Have you had him checked for diabetes. This is another common occurence causing men to lose their desire and their ability to perform.

Do you suspect that he might be cheating on you with other women. Does he rountinely use porn as a maturbation aid. I really need more info to be able to help you.

John Wilder
marriagecoach1.com sex and relationship blog

marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

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mygif
August 3rd, 2013 @7:48 am  

hi becky. i am sure your situation is difficult for you. it would depend on how communicative the two of you are as far as how he will take it. perhaps you can seek out the assistance of a mediator, like a therapist, and discuss it there. there is no easy way to deal with that other than telling him you need more sex and want to try new things with him. maybe you can do sexual role playing and you both dress up as the other persons fantasy figure..etc. don’t wait too long; nine years is a long time to not be content with sex.

best,

Robbie Lee, author, mentor, realist
http://www.robbie411.com

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mygif
Suzanne White Montiel Said,
August 3rd, 2013 @12:48 am  

Dear Becky,

It is normal for a sex life to diminish when a couple has young children. Also, it is normal for frequency of sex to wax and wane throughout a relationship.

While I’m sure you know your husband, you don’t know that you “can’t find a way to tell him how [you] feel without him taking it personally.” When you talk to him – and you definitely should – assure him that you don’t feel he is lacking, you are simply curious about sex with people other than him.

It does seem “fair” that both you and your husband have the same number of sex partners, but fairness isn’t what relationships are about. That being said, I suggest talking about opening up your relationship. Women ALWAYS have better luck finding willing sexual partners, so even if the two of you decide that both of you can date other people, chances are you will have more opportunity than him to experience sex with other partners.

I suggest reading Opening Up [http://www.amazon.com/Opening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships/dp/157344295X]

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
sewmontiel@yahoo.com

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