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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
September 2nd, 2013 @12:54 am  

Dear Lillie,

You need to cut yourself off from this guy. Yes, it will hurt, but surviving hurt is part of being an adult. You are an adult, be mature.


Suzanne White Montiel

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September 1st, 2013 @10:45 am  

You are being selfish as well as immoral. You are threatening his marriage and his children will be hurt beyond belief if he divorces their mom and goes with you. We have all too many children living in single parent families due to divorce and the negative statistics are overwhelmingly negative.

It is one of the commandments not to commit adultery. You need to ask God for forgiveness and ask his wife for forgiveness and cut this man out of your life permanently. Find someone who wants you just for you.

I am not going to make nice and be nice to you because you don’t deserve it. It is time to be a grown up instead of a teenage girl that you are acting like. Stop it now.

John Wilder sex and relationship blog

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August 31st, 2013 @12:58 pm  

Hi Lillie,

If you were ever truly in love, it’s not not going to just stop over night. Love isn’t a set of butterflies in the tummy, nor is it a mood. Love is a decision one makes over time. Real love doesn’t that doesn’t just happen. Inasmuch, neither will you just cease loving someone over a couple of days. However, there’s some good news. You can make the process more bearable. To begin, accept that no relationship last forever. People come and go. Some are in your life for a season, others for a reason, and some are sent your way just to teach you some lessons about you need versus what you want. You job is to embrace the season, learn your lessons, and when it’s finished, allow it to go.

Holding on to something that’s no more is not only detrimental to you emotionally and psychologically, it blocks you from embracing what’s taking place in your life right now. Often people confuse Mr. or Ms. Right Now with Mr. or Ms. Right. Remaining attached to the past prohibits you from having clarity in the present. Inasmuch, you are disallowing yourself to embrace what could be the perfect person for you. It’s next to impossible to move forward while willfully allowing the past to hold you hostage.

Lastly, there are effective steps to getting passed a dead, suffocating relationships. Here are a few things that you can do.

1. Look at all of the reasons why you decided to leave the relationship in the first place.

2. Write them out in a list.

3. Write down the cause and effect scenarios that repeatedly caused you to feel distressed and annoyed. i.e. He cheated on me, it broke my heart and keep me from doing well at work or school. We disagree about having kids, He wants kids I don’t. Our families don’t get along, my parents can’t stand his parents and we always fought because of it.

4. Accept the fact that when it’s the right person, it won’t be a force fit situation.

Remember, as long as you hold on to a dysfunctional go no-where relationship, you are hurting at least four people. You’re hurting yourself, the person your with, and the two people that God intended you to meet. When it’s the right person, there will be challenges, but there will NOT be needless strife and discord.

For more information visit and order the best seller, Break Up, Don’t Break Down. It will help you move past the hurt and pain of a failed relationship while positioning you find the love of your life.

by Dr. D Ivan Young

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