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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
July 23rd, 2013 @1:04 pm  

Dear Katarina,

I didn’t bother to read all of what you wrote because I promise you no relationship problem is worth that many words.

You are 23. Whatever his age, he has an ex-wife and children. That is way too much complication for someone your age.

You live in a huge, wonderful city that is currently experiencing beach-going weather. I know for a fact that Chicago’s beaches are teeming with people around your age who 1) live in the city, not the crappy burbs; 2) have neither ex-wives nor children; and 3) are fun to be around. Get thee outside and meet a guy or guys who are better matched to your young, carefree lifestyle.


Suzanne White Montiel

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July 21st, 2013 @2:46 pm  


“I ended all contact with him and erased every way I can get in touch with him.”

If that ^^ is true, how can you then ask us…

“Should I even try and reach out to him?”

If the first part is true, that means you have NO WAY to reach out to him. Correct?

But let’s to get to the important part. You told him you needed your space. For a GUY, that means the girl is slipping away. I actually UNDERSTAND why he slept with his ex wife. He felt like he was losing you anyway, so he wasn’t betraying you by sleeping with her. But once you kept on calling & texting, and he TALKED to you, he felt like SHIT having done that to you. The guilt ate him up, and now he doesn’t feel worthy of being with you. You can’t change that.

All you can do is say “Eddie. I love you, OK? Yes I was hurt, but I’m OVER it now. One mistake should not be enough to end our relationship. Unless it means more to me than it does to you. I’m willing to get past this. If you’re not, then don’t come back to me in six months trying to work it out. I want you now. Do you want me, or no? Stop with the games. Do you want to work this out or not?”

At that point, it’s up to HIM. He either wants to keep things goin, or he wants to self-destruct. You did your part.

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July 21st, 2013 @9:06 am  

Hi. You need to walk away. He is upset with himself because he is breaking up with you and feels like a schmuck. That is why he is not happy; because he knows what he did was not cool.

Save yourself anymore grief and heartache and move on. I know it is hard because you love the schmuck, but it is what it is.

Good luck,

Robbie Lee, author, mentor, realist

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July 19th, 2013 @5:49 pm  

This is this guy’s way of dumping you. He is bad news and not emotionally mature and not a good match for you. Let him go and find someone more mature.

John Wilder sex and relationship blog

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