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March 3rd, 2013 @7:44 am  

Chelsea, I’m gonna answer both of your questions so you can move on…

Did your ex ever love you? Yes.
Does he love this new girl? Who cares?

It’s time to stop worrying about your ex’s relationship and find one of your OWN.
Direct. Honest. Real.

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February 21st, 2013 @11:19 am  

You really screwed up. He was remorseful and instead of forgiving him you drove him away with your lousy attitude and behavior. I would have dumped you as well. Long distance relationships are tough but you need to grow up and become more mature. You should have forgiven him because he was obviously remorseful but you had to beat him verbally and emotionally.

STOP THAT! Learn from your mistakes.

John Wilder sex and relationship blog

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
February 18th, 2013 @10:47 pm  

Dear Chelsea,

Yes, he loved you, or at least he thought he did. Your late teens/early 20s are for this sort of relationship, for finding out what you will and will not put up with, for determining your deal breakers.

You have the right instinct to keep your ex out of your life. There’s no need to open up old wounds or to bother asking him how he “really” felt, because chances are he doesn’t know much more than you. Everyone around your age is figuring out romantic/sexual relationships and no one truly knows anything.

It’s time for you to move on. Soon you’ll not think about him nearly as much. Eventually you may remember him fondly as the guy who was your first love but who wasn’t truly right for you for long term.

You are going to have many more relationships – if you’re lucky. Time to pursue them.


Suzanne White Montiel

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