Dear Greg,

She is horrified by your appalling use of exclamation points at your advanced age.

She may have other reasons for not wanting to communicate with you, but as she’s chosen not to let you know, you’ll probably never know what they are.

I know it hurts, but you have to move on.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
sewmontiel@yahoo.com

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Greg,

Part of me wants to be BRUTALLY HONEST with you while the other part of me wants to be NICE as I tell you the truth. Unfortunately, I still have to keep it 100% truthful with you, which will suck right now, but you’ll thank me later. I’m gonna copy a few of your questions/statements right now and answer them:

#1: “I took her mom and son with her on vacations and treated them like family !”

The truth? You got USED for a free vacation. Sorry Greg.

#2: “Her ex started giving her pressure because of me spending time with her son.”

The truth? It wasn’t just about her son. You said earlier that he is JEALOUS. And how weird is it that RIGHT AFTER that, she starts backing off? Coincidence? I think not.

#3: “when she said good bye her son asked ! IS GREG YOUR BOYFRIEND ? She smiled and with a tear in her eye said good bye but wouldn’t kiss me but shook my hand but held on as to not let go !”

The truth? She didn’t answer when her son asked if you were together. She wouldn’t kiss you either. The fact that she held your hand longer than normal was only because she KNEW it’d be the last time she saw you, and you WERE important to her once upon a TIME. So, she felt bad. She was emotional. She cared. But she knew it was over. EVERYTHING was over after that. And do you think the ex had anything to do w/that? The short answer: Yup.

Why do you think she sent your gifts back? Because it’s over.
Why do you think she’s ignoring your calls/texts? Because it’s over.
Why do you think it’s over? Because of her ex, and your financial situation.

Women will never TELL you why they’re ignoring you. They’ll just DO it. In a way, they’re cowards. They won’t “woman up” so to speak and tell you “Sorry Greg. I was just using you for your money.” Or “Sorry Greg. My ex & I got back together and he doesn’t want me talking to you.” You will NOT HEAR THAT from her. Instead she will ignore you, even if it hurts her to do so, thinking that “it’s for the best”, or that you’ll eventually give up & stop trying.

And since you stopped contacting her, she probably feels she’s in the clear. It’s possible that in a few years, if she leaves this ex of hers for good, and she bumps into you, you MIGHT get the full story. Or if she needs money again, she’ll contact you (which would be F’d up on HER part) but as of RIGHT NOW, she wants no part of speaking to you.

So, the best thing to do (as tough as it is) is to leave it alone, vent to your friends, ask for advice, find ways to move on, maybe even email her ONE FINAL TIME with everything you need to say, and once you send it, be DONE with her. Also, title the email “Your Money.” (Don’t ask why. Just do it if you want her to open it.) Once she opens it, it won’t matter what it says. She’ll read it. So get EVERYTHING OUT! Try to make it short if you can (even two paragraphs is fine) as the longer it is, she might NOT read it.

Good luck. Email me if you need:
JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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