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Cinique' Said,
November 20th, 2010 @1:01 pm  


Umm, duh! Sometimes you never know the value of what you have until it is gone. I believe that once you have feelings for someone they never really go away, they just become weaker or stronger over time. Whatever your case it is evident that he has some sort of affection for you. I hope I have helped and answered your question. If you want to discuss it more, contact me by email. God bless.

Cinique Scott

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November 16th, 2010 @3:21 pm  

Hi Sheila

I agree with the experts on one thing…you don’t give us enough information to give you advice. There are reasons why certain people keeping popping up in our lives. If they are changing and are a positive influence on your life, then this is a good thing. But if he is trying to drag you down into drama and what could have been, then think twice before letting him back into your life…

good luck

Gina Landeau
Hello Ms Heartbreak, I’ve been expecting you!

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November 13th, 2010 @9:44 am  

Hi Sheila,

Seems if you are asking that question perhaps you still have feelings for him? You did not provide a lot of information and you only asked “why is he still coming back?” Why? You should ask him. Did he just end another relationship and is going back to you for comfort or is he always in a relationship and doesn’t like to be alone?

How does this all fit into each of your lives? Is this something you want to entertain if both of you are single and available? So bottom line Sheila, what do you want?


Robbie Lee, author, mentor, realist

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
November 12th, 2010 @7:46 pm  

Dear Sheila,

Only your ex knows why he has resurfaced in your life. Perhaps you should try asking him, and not in writing because chances are he won’t know what the heck you’re trying to ask.


Suzanne White Montiel

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Jessica Kelly Said,
November 12th, 2010 @7:00 pm  

Dear Sheila,

Before I explain to you why I believe so strongly that you need to end this, I want to say that this guy is taking advantage of your good heart and stealing internally from you. I hope after you read this you will avoid him like the plague.

Here are the reasons why he sticks around and why he shouldn’t be able to ten more seconds:

-Because he can, and because he knows how good you are.

It doesn’t take a man ten years to figure out if he wants to commit to a certain person. He either doesn’t or does. Period. The reason he keeps stringing you along is because he knows you’re a catch. He probably knows your pretty, smart, fun and would have no problem finding another guy who would treat you better than he is possible of doing. Your ex doesn’t want to commit to you, and doesn’t want any other guy to either. He is trapping you, and trying to seep into your life like a slow poison so he will always be in the back of your mind. He wants to be able to pick you up and play with you whenever he wants to. The reason he keeps contact, and says so many nice (confusing) things to you is to plant a seed of hope within you that one day he will, “change.” Not going to happen.

-He has got to go.

You can’t meet the guy who will fall in love with you in ten days, if your mind is filled with ten years guy. Ten years is too long for him to be lingering around your life. He is like a bad cold that for whatever reason, you just can’t shake off.

-This Guy Is Selfish.

If your ex-boyfriend truly cared about your feelings and you as a person he would leave you alone. He knows he doesn’t want to commit, he knows you care for him; he knows this confuses you and he knows this hurts you. Instead of taking the high road and allowing his you to find happiness he decides to selfishly play your emotions like a puppeteer.


If you want to say good bye, write one email. Then send one voice mail telling him you care about him but this isn’t good for you, good luck, etc. Then change your number. I don’t care how many contacts are in your phone for work, friends etc. Your life and moving on is more important. Ten years of your time is long enough for this guy.

You paid your dues.

Times up.


Won’t See You Later.

-I hope this helps Sheila. You know you’re better than this. I hope you let me know how things are going.

If you were talking to the Sheila who started dating this guy ten years ago what would you tell her?

-Jessica Kelly

Ask Jessica Kelly-Relationship Advice Expert: On-line Coaching Network.

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November 12th, 2010 @6:58 pm  

I agree with Jason. We are not mind readers, you really need to give more information.

Reading between the lines, I don’t think that he still has feelings for you, but I think that he uses you when he is between girlfriends. Wake up and smell the coffee and realize that you are being used.

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder blog

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November 12th, 2010 @3:06 pm  


Some guys simply can’t let go. Especially guys who didn’t appreciate you the FIRST time around. However, since I don’t know your entire situation or HISTORY with him, I can’t go into detail with my answer.

The REAL question is, why do you CARE why he’s coming back? Do you have feelings for HIM?

Give me some detail, sweetie. Then perhaps I can help you a little better.

Email me:

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