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June 12th, 2010 @6:23 pm  

He could be very shy. In my book Make Up Don’t Break Up I encourage women to make the first move. Just because he may act distant it does not mean he is NOT into you.

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June 5th, 2010 @9:17 am  

Hi Lily

Be brave and ask him…maybe he is just shy…life is too short to not take a proactive stand when it comes to love..if you are interested then go for it and if not it’s his lost for not approaching…

Good luck

Gina Landeau
Hello Ms Heartbreak, I’ve been expecting you!

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June 5th, 2010 @1:59 am  

Hi, Lily –

No one can know why he’s looking at you except him. Maybe he’s wondering why someone as cool as you is interested in him. Maybe he thinks you’re cute. There are dozens of maybe’s and it’s pointless to speculate. What you know for sure is that he’s said he’s not interested in pursuing a relationship with you. Accept that at face value and move on.

Shela Dean
Relationship Coach, Speaker & Author

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
June 4th, 2010 @8:05 pm  

Dear Lilly,

The only person who knows why he is looking at you is him, and he’s probably not completely sure. There are an infinite number of reasons teenage boys – and girls – do what they do. Teenagers are a mystery.

Rather than worrying why he’s looking at you, why not concentrate on people who HAVE expressed interest in you?


Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner

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June 4th, 2010 @6:30 pm  

He probably thinks that you are cute. But for whatever he is just not that into you. You just have to accept this and move on. There are other guys who will be interested in you. Let this one go and move on.

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder

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June 4th, 2010 @5:51 pm  

I agree with Anthony here.

If he’s too much of a wuss to actually tell you what’s going on, or even KEEP the STARE going when you NOTICE it, why worry about it? You could ASK him, but I’m sure whatever bullshit reason he gives you won’t be good enough.

My advice would be to IGNORE him. Completely pay him NO attention unless it is ABSOLUTELY necessary (like some school assignment or something) But be VERY social with your other friends. He’ll notice. Trust me.

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June 4th, 2010 @10:47 am  

There could be any number of reasons from lust to liking you but being horribly insecure. It’s impossible to tell without going up to him and asking him directly what’s going on… but even then, I wouldn’t count on getting a true answer. So, you can either keep wondering and allow whatever drama he has going on to affect you, or simply shrug it off, ignore it, and deal with it if (and when) he finally gets up the courage to come talk to you.

Anthony Hernandez

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