Hey Dave:

There is very little possibilty of getting an STD from unprotected anal intercourse. There are some caveats however.

First you should use a good lubricant. Secondly, you should allow your partner to be on top. She should SLOWLY lower herself down on you and once you are fully inside her, she shoudl STOP and wait for about 60 seconds to 11/2 minutes before moving. By taking this stop it allows her anus to relax around your penis to provide for pain free intercourse. If you try and skip this step, it will be painful for her all of the way through.

You would do well to lick her anus and insert your tongue up her anus before attempting intercourse. I know that it sounds gross but believe me once you get past the idea and she does to, she will find the feeling extremely arousing.

Another exciting thing is for her to mount you facing away from you. She then can use a vibrator against her clitoris while riding you and actually have repeated orgasms while having anal sex with you. You get the added turn on of watching your penis sliding in and out of her. You can further arouse her by squeezing her butt cheeks while riding you and even slapping her hard on her butt cheeks repeatedly.

One final caveat, you should absolutely NOT enter her vagina after having your penis up her anus unless and until you wash it thoroughly with soap to prevent infection.

Enjoy, because women have been known to orgasm spontaneously through anal intercourse because the angle of the penis can sometimes hit her G spot. You should attempt different positions and always make it about what is comfortable for her.

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I completely agree w/ Suzanne…you can’t transmit what you don’t have! But Dave, please, please make sure that each of you have actually SEEN the negative reports!

I’d advise to always use a condom just in case one of you has sex outside of the relationship and then continues to have sex w/ each other again. Being 27 years old, its very likely that this will not be the last person you are sexual with.

Communicate, have fun, and be in joy with each other.

Kim Hess Divorce Guru
http://www.kimhess.com

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Dear Dave,

If neither of you have any sexually transmissible infections and have been monogamous since you were last tested then there are no risks of STIs – you can’t transmit what you don’t have and you can’t contract what she doesn’t have.

The risks involved in unprotected anal sex for novices have more to do with not listening to your bodies. Anal sex should not hurt either one of you. This is true for which ever of you is the receptive partner.

There are plenty of commercial sexual lubricants available, and at least one of them should absolutely be used, since natural rectal lubricant (and there is such thing!) is not nearly as plentiful as vaginal lubricant. Lube is necessary to prevent injury, which can easily happen with delicate anal tissue.

Also, anal sex, much more than vaginal sex, requires you communicate with each other throughout the entire process. Take it slow and check in often to make sure you are both having a good time. Anal sex can be extremely intense for both partners and it’s a good idea to make sure you both are feeling good.

If either of you doesn’t like it or if things don’t go perfectly the first time that doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong; it may not be for you or you may need to try different positions, more lube, more foreplay (fingers are smaller than penises or most sex toys and can warm things up nicely), more communication, etc.

Finally, check out the Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women by Tristan Taormino, currently in its second edition. It has absolutely everything you need to know about anal sex.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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