Guy

Are you kidding me? What purpose would it serve to tell your gf that you slept with her best gf? But you think it’s ok since you both agreed to sleep around so “You” could clear your mind? Either show the girl some respect or get out of her life so she can find someone who can love her…It’s amazing to me that people don’t see what is in front of them till they lose it and think that the girl will always take them back unconditionally…You’ve crossed a line and though you think it gives you a better insight into your relationship? You only created more drama…

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Gina Landeau

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Dear Guy,

Telling her will only serve to hurt her and alleviate any guilt you may have. If that’s what you want to do, then go for it.

But rather than tell her you had sex with someone other than her WHEN YOU WERE BROKEN UP, why not work on your relationship? Or try being single, which is pretty fun, as you found out.

Use barrier methods of birth control, as they also protect against many sexually transmissible infections.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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While I advocate honesty at all costs, in THIS case, I may make an exception.

If she doesn’t ask, don’t tell.

Doing things that you KNOW will cause problems is just stupid. I applaud you for WANTING to be honest, as that’s an admirable trait. But in THIS case, she HASN’T asked you, she DOESN’T suspect, and she PROBABLY wouldn’t want to KNOW. So, keep things as they are. After all, didn’t she say you could do whatever you needed to, to clear your head?

If she finds out about it some other way, you can always use that excuse to get out of it.

If she gets mad, or asks you if you did it, just stay calm & say “Yeah?” (like it’s no big deal and you don’t see why it’s so wrong.) When she tells you she’s upset by this, say “I’m sorry sweetie. We were on a break and I felt comfortable having sex with someone I ACTUALLY had a PAST with, instead of just banging some RANDOM GIRL. I’m sorry. Had I known, I would’ve never done it. It was just something I needed to do to help clear my head, and it actually made me feel CLOSER to you in the process. But had you ASKED, I DEFINITELY would have TOLD you. I wasn’t HIDING it from you or anything. We’re ALWAYS honest.”

Just make sure her “ex bestfriend” doesn’t turn into her FUTURE best friend and spill this secret to her out of GUILT. That could suck.

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