Comments on: Ask Our Relationship Experts: Should I pursue her further or get on with my life? http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-should-i-pursue-her-further-or-get-on-with-my-life.html Expert advice to get your relationships back on track Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:32:47 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Suzanne White Montiel http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-should-i-pursue-her-further-or-get-on-with-my-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-1164 Suzanne White Montiel Sat, 20 Feb 2010 04:29:18 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=4845#comment-1164 Dear Donald, It seems as though you asked her out and she politely declined. Because you two do work "together" it's probably prudent to leave it at that. If you didn't do work for her, or you met in some other context I'd suggest you ask her out and make it clear that you are interested in her romantically. However, because the two of you do have a professional relationship things can get all kinds of messy if she's not interested in you, if you go out but things go awry, or if your work relationship suffers in some way. If, after you no longer work in the same building, you are still interested, THAT is the time to step up to the plate and ask her out. For now it's probably best to continue to be friendly, but to not do anything that has the potential to make anything uncomfortable. Sincerely, Suzanne White Montiel SF Sex and Relationships Examiner http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner Dear Donald,

It seems as though you asked her out and she politely declined. Because you two do work “together” it’s probably prudent to leave it at that.

If you didn’t do work for her, or you met in some other context I’d suggest you ask her out and make it clear that you are interested in her romantically. However, because the two of you do have a professional relationship things can get all kinds of messy if she’s not interested in you, if you go out but things go awry, or if your work relationship suffers in some way.

If, after you no longer work in the same building, you are still interested, THAT is the time to step up to the plate and ask her out. For now it’s probably best to continue to be friendly, but to not do anything that has the potential to make anything uncomfortable.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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]]> By: Jason Love http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-should-i-pursue-her-further-or-get-on-with-my-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-1158 Jason Love Sat, 20 Feb 2010 03:02:44 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=4845#comment-1158 What does she mean by "the 'what if' could be a problem"? She agreed to have dinner, but then DIDN'T? I'm confused. What you should've done, after she said that (and she didn't explain herself TWICE) was just say "Ok, so we're on. What time should I pick you up?" LOL, If nothing else, it would have generated some laughter out of her, and she may have gone into detail about WHY you two cannot have dinner. That, or she would have just ACCEPTED, because she liked your CONFIDENCE. (Too late now though.) What you can do now, is the next time you guys talk, casually say "Oh, don't forget. You still owe me a dinner. Don't be the type of girl who runs away from a good time (or good MEAL.)" Show come confidence, along with some humor, and see how she reacts. Don't ASK her, because that gives her a chance to say "No." If she truly wants to say NO to you, she'll do so. But you don't need to give her an OPEN INVITATION to say no, by ASKING her. Just do it the way I told you, and see what she says. Then let me know how it goes. Need more advice? Become a regular client: JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com What does she mean by “the ‘what if’ could be a problem”? She agreed to have dinner, but then DIDN’T? I’m confused.

What you should’ve done, after she said that (and she didn’t explain herself TWICE) was just say “Ok, so we’re on. What time should I pick you up?” LOL, If nothing else, it would have generated some laughter out of her, and she may have gone into detail about WHY you two cannot have dinner. That, or she would have just ACCEPTED, because she liked your CONFIDENCE. (Too late now though.)

What you can do now, is the next time you guys talk, casually say “Oh, don’t forget. You still owe me a dinner. Don’t be the type of girl who runs away from a good time (or good MEAL.)”

Show come confidence, along with some humor, and see how she reacts. Don’t ASK her, because that gives her a chance to say “No.”

If she truly wants to say NO to you, she’ll do so. But you don’t need to give her an OPEN INVITATION to say no, by ASKING her. Just do it the way I told you, and see what she says. Then let me know how it goes.

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]]> By: John Wilder http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-should-i-pursue-her-further-or-get-on-with-my-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-1155 John Wilder Sat, 20 Feb 2010 02:24:30 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=4845#comment-1155 You need to assure her that if she is interested in a daddy for her child that you are okay with that if it comes to it if you really are. She is being a good mother. Lots of guys are hot after her, but she needs to find a guy who will be a dad to her child. This is reasonable on her part. If you tell her that you will stand a shot. If she still rejects your overtures, then move on. marriagecoach1@yahoo.com marriagecoach1.wordpress.com You need to assure her that if she is interested in a daddy for her child that you are okay with that if it comes to it if you really are. She is being a good mother. Lots of guys are hot after her, but she needs to find a guy who will be a dad to her child. This is reasonable on her part. If you tell her that you will stand a shot. If she still rejects your overtures, then move on.

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]]> By: Anthony Hernandez http://advice.lovedetour.com/Admin/ask-our-relationship-experts-should-i-pursue-her-further-or-get-on-with-my-life.html/comment-page-1#comment-1151 Anthony Hernandez Sat, 20 Feb 2010 01:18:53 +0000 http://advice.lovedetour.com/?p=4845#comment-1151 If you're this unclear about the situation, how she feels, etc. then walking away is the best thing you can do. If she's interested, she'll chase you. If not, you're free to move on. Anthony Hernandez www.theenlightenedsavage.com If you’re this unclear about the situation, how she feels, etc. then walking away is the best thing you can do. If she’s interested, she’ll chase you. If not, you’re free to move on.

Anthony Hernandez
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