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mygif
April 20th, 2010 @9:07 am  

Hi Beth

Unfornunately it is up to you to have a conversation with your gf! She is stuck for whatever reason and may never make that final move to be with you? Long distance relationships are tough, realistically you ‘ll never know what her life is like apart from you? She is choosing her reality and has kept you waiting long enough…the choice is now yours to accept what is or move on to find someone who can and will committ to you and your dream of the happily ever after. When we love our women so much our vision can become clouded? But you can’t rescue her! She has to rescue herself!

Good Luck

Gina Landeau
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mygif
Suzanne White Montiel Said,
March 20th, 2010 @12:32 pm  

Dear Beth,

I think it’s time for an ultimatum. Either the two of you need to be together, in the same town and home, or you need to end the relationship. You have to set a deadline by which you two are living together or you are apart for good.

Because the relationship isn’t much of one considering you feel like you’ve sacrificed for her and the two of you still aren’t together. Whatever her reasons for not moving in with you yet don’t matter if she really and truly wants to be with you.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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mygif
March 20th, 2010 @6:45 am  

I agree with Anthony. All these excuses are just another way to justify not doing what is necessary. (Especially on HER end.)

If she keeps saying she’s going to move closer to you, but something ALWAYS comes up, then it’s MORE than just COINCIDENCE. Something else is going on.

You said the phone calls are getting less frequent, her ex is in the picture, she always has a reason why she can’t move toward you, etc. Things are NOT looking up for you, Beth. It’s about time for you to either have a SERIOUS TALK with her, and ASK her when she’s TRULY coming home, or put your foot down and tell her you aren’t waiting forever. Tell her to GIVE you a date, and stick to it. The next time she flakes on you, it’s over.

She might say “I can’t help it if things keep coming up”, but that’s when YOU say, “Well how come *I* can’t ever be the thing that ‘comes up’ and you make ME the priority for a change?”

Wait for her answer. (She probably won’t HAVE one.) And if she DOESN’T have one, she has no more EXCUSES. So, if you don’t become a priority after THAT, it’s time to look at ending the relationship. Either THAT, or you move to where SHE’S at, and try to make it work. Although with the way she’s been acting lately, I think she’d actually try to talk you OUT of moving there if you suggested it. I really believe that.

Email me after taking my advice and tell me if I was right:
JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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mygif
March 19th, 2010 @9:25 pm  

Beth,

If you are in a serious relationship with this woman, then you too are family and must be a priority. The fact that you aren’t such a priority since she is clearly unable and/or unwilling to move to you speaks for itself… as does your inability and/or unwillingness to move closer to her. The bottom line is that inability is only an excuse because where there is a will, there is a way. Both of you have decided that the relationship just isn’t that high of a real priority beyond comforting lip service. The sooner you two fess up about this, the happier you will be.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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