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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
March 20th, 2010 @1:18 pm  

Dear Dave,

Sure, your wife could be cheating. You could be too. She may not be, as well.

Try the crazy concept of talking to your wife. If she’s not in love with you and not interested in sex with you, would it be best for the relationship to end? Maybe the two of you want to stay together but open up your relationship. The two of you need to talk and figure out what each of you wants out of your marriage.

Talk to each other.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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March 20th, 2010 @6:59 am  

Yes. She is. If she ISN’T, she wants to, and will, quite soon.

So, you either have to accept that, tell her it’s OKAY, and be HONEST with you about it, and REMAIN by her side, or, decide that it’s not what you want, and end the relationship. Those are your options. Choose wisely, and think hard before you do.

Need help?
JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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March 19th, 2010 @9:42 pm  

Cheating. What a stupid concept forced down our throats by religious people whose own sexual depredations are almost beyond the imaginable. Humans are not monogamous by nature. We are serially monogamous at best. ALL species where one gender is larger than the other share this trait and it is only wishful thinking to believe any differently. People have the choice to A) be “faithful” to their partners, or B) be faithful to millions of years of genetic programming. It is delusional to think that Option A has a snowball’s chance in hell of being the winning outcome.

Is she having sex with other people? Who knows? And more importantly, who cares? What matters here is she does not have the same feelings for you. A truly loving relationship can handle anything up to and including sex with other people. In fact, a truly healthy relationship can and must have allowances for sex with others to prevent the inevitable A vs. B choice outlined above. This is simple, incontrovertible biological fact.

Therefore, the sex is not important. But the love is. And since the love is not there any more, then the romantic part of the marriage is dead and gone. Now you must decide if the flurry of legal benefits that come with the piece of paper are worth hanging on to or not.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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March 19th, 2010 @7:54 pm  

Depression can cause lack of interest in sex, but anti depressants elevate the mood. I would suggest that you look up the side effects of her anti deprressant on the web. I doubt that depressed sex drive is one of them.

If she is not physically cheating, she is on the verge of cheating. I would suggest that you take her to a marriage coach and not a marriage counselor because marriage counselors do to little too late and their failure rate is 75% where as coaches have a 75% success rate. You can also get coaches to help you on the phone or the IM. You need to get to the bottom of the problem now before it is too late.

marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

marrriagecoach1.wordpress.com blog

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