Dear Dave,

Sure, your wife could be cheating. You could be too. She may not be, as well.

Try the crazy concept of talking to your wife. If she’s not in love with you and not interested in sex with you, would it be best for the relationship to end? Maybe the two of you want to stay together but open up your relationship. The two of you need to talk and figure out what each of you wants out of your marriage.

Talk to each other.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

Cheating. What a stupid concept forced down our throats by religious people whose own sexual depredations are almost beyond the imaginable. Humans are not monogamous by nature. We are serially monogamous at best. ALL species where one gender is larger than the other share this trait and it is only wishful thinking to believe any differently. People have the choice to A) be “faithful” to their partners, or B) be faithful to millions of years of genetic programming. It is delusional to think that Option A has a snowball’s chance in hell of being the winning outcome.

Is she having sex with other people? Who knows? And more importantly, who cares? What matters here is she does not have the same feelings for you. A truly loving relationship can handle anything up to and including sex with other people. In fact, a truly healthy relationship can and must have allowances for sex with others to prevent the inevitable A vs. B choice outlined above. This is simple, incontrovertible biological fact.

Therefore, the sex is not important. But the love is. And since the love is not there any more, then the romantic part of the marriage is dead and gone. Now you must decide if the flurry of legal benefits that come with the piece of paper are worth hanging on to or not.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com