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April 20th, 2010 @8:51 am  

Hi Bryan

I am sorry that your mom is going through such diifficulties. You are trying to help your mom and feel like your dad is still responsible? Their relationship ended for a reason and there could be things there that you have no idea about. It would be a great gesture if your dad would help? But in reality it’s been 30yrs and he has moved on, legally he has no responsibility? Morally, it’s his decision. You could try talking to your dad about this, if you feel so strongly?

If the realtionship ended because of his cheating ways? I don’t see him stepping up and trying to make things right, it’s the past and it’s over Ask yourself this question Jon, “How does your mom feel about this issue? Does she even want contact or finacial help from your dad?”

Be strong and be there for your mom!

Good Luck
Gina Landeau

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
April 18th, 2010 @11:16 am  

Dear Bryan,

Legally, your father has absolutely no responsibility to take care of your mother. The terms of their divorce was decided long ago. Chances are, any alimony or any other support he was required to pay ended long ago.

Perhaps helping her financially now would be the morally right thing to do, but that is for your father to decide for himself.

You could ask your father for an advance on your inheritance (this is common and often done to avoid taxes later) and use that money to help your mother. You need to decide for yourself if that is the morally right thing for you to do.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
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mygif
April 16th, 2010 @8:34 pm  

Every adult, no matter what the circumstances are, is absolutely 100% responsible for everything in their lives, period. Your mother’s struggles are all her responsibility, period. A lot of people want to blame others or be victims because they can’t stand the thought of actually owning their own lives. But if you are not responsible for the situation, then by definition you don’t have the power to change it. On the other hand, by accepting full responsibility for the situation, you accept your power to change.

Clearly, your mother does not want to change.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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mygif
April 16th, 2010 @7:10 pm  

Nah. You’re over 18. So they don’t even need to COMMUNICATE anymore, let ALONE have a FINANCIAL arrangement.

However, if YOU’RE close to your dad, perhaps you can ask him to help you out financially. Don’t even MENTION your mom unless he asks where YOUR money has gone. If you guys are close, or if you’re just telling him a sob story, he might be nice enough to help you OUT. If he doesn’t, then cut off all ties with him.

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April 16th, 2010 @6:12 pm  

Hey Bryan:

I have to concur with Robbie Lee. There is no legal requirement that your dad should contribute to your mom. I would suggest that you approach him and ask for help for her because it is a real drain on your budget. Ask him to do it for you and not for her. Perhaps that would soften his hardened heart.

Blessings on you and yours

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April 16th, 2010 @3:37 pm  

Hi Bryan.

Sorry to hear your mom is having a tough time right now. No, really it is not your dad’s responsibility to help your mom. It has been over 30 years since their relationship ended and if they haven’t maintained good relations, there is no reason to hold him accountable. If he was a nice guy perhaps he would help if you asked him, but since he cheated on your mom, it’s likely he isn’t that nice of a guy.

Good for you for your continuieng support of your mother.

Take care,

Robbie Lee
http:\\www.Robbie411.com

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