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nicole_eliise_coleman Said,
January 26th, 2010 @6:18 pm  

Paul,

Its time to move on. She is cheating on you! Online, over the phone in person it all amounts to the same thing. She is emotionally involved with another man. Her having phone sex with him is completely disrespectful to you. Imagine if he lived in the same city as you and how she would act. I think its time to confront her and find somebody worthy of you. If she is sneaking behind your back now, that doesn’t make much of a healthy relationship. Talk to her see what has happened to lead her down this path. It just may be as simple as her needing someone to talk to. If you can salvage this great! But I think you need someone who is on the same page of monogamy with you.

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
January 23rd, 2010 @1:00 am  

Dear Paul,

You simply cannot make anyone do anything; you can only change your own behavior.

If your girlfriend’s “online affair” bothers you then you should probably let her know. That means you’ll have to confess that you’ve invaded her privacy. That also means – if you both want your relationship to continue – you’ll have to talk about what is acceptable and what is now acceptable if you are to continue.

For example, she may believe that so long as she is not having physical contact with her Aussie that she’s not “cheating.” Clearly you feel that she is cheating. These are things that need to be discussed if your relationship is to continue.

Whether this relationship has come to an end you need to address your need to check your partner’s private accounts – whether she is logged in on your computer or not. Do you want to be the kind of partner who is distrustful and sneaky? In my opinion you are too old not to have some faith in your choice of partner.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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January 22nd, 2010 @7:13 pm  

You need to confront her with what you know and cut it off. Don’t do this to yourself. You did not say if she is living with you but it sounds like she is. You need to immediately kick her out of your flat. She is poison and you can’t win this one. Cut your losses and find a girl that wants just you. I know that it is hard, but don’t demean yourself any further.

marriagecoach1@yahyoo.com
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January 22nd, 2010 @6:47 pm  

Leave her. The only reason she hasn’t left you yet is because the fun she gets from this guy is not yet enough to make the pain in the ass of moving on worthwhile. But her heart is most definitely elsewhere. Lose the idea that relationship = good and ending relationship = bad and you will see that nobody is worth this much drama.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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