I smell a rat… a girl one. Usually when someone accuses their serious, non-cheating, straight partner of being bi and cheating they are projecting; a smoke-and-mirrors distraction to cover up their own behavior. In other words, methinks your girlfriend is cheating on you—with perhaps another woman, my dear.
If I am wrong and she is having a torrential bout of insecurity (it does happen), I think you may want to sit down with your girlfriend and ask her what evidence she has of the said indiscretions. If the answer is, “None,” then you ought set some clear personal boundaries. Given that relationships thrive on trust, she needs to cease forensic investigations of your phone and texts. And if your relationship is as serious as you say, and she still cannot trust you having given your word, having pledged your love—you are better off dealing with this issue now than married with children!!

Blessings!
~Maryanne
http://maryannelive.com

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Sounds like she’s either NATURALLY suspicious, or somebody’s in her ear, telling her these things about you. In any case, it’s not good for you or your relationship.

How did you find this out? You said she never confronted you?

It’s difficult to discuss, or fix an issue if the other person has never brought it to your attention. So you may not be able to discuss it with her. But this can’t continue.

JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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Nothing and nobody can ever take your love away and you are forever better for having loved someone.

With that said, this woman does not deserve your love. Even if she does, you relationship is anything but healthy. Any way you slice it, the loving thing to do is end the relationship. Sure, you could waste a lot of time and effort trying to figure out if you’re doing anything to arouse suspicion or what childhood trauma your girlfriend is trying to work through. Thing is, that would take a lot of time and it also makes the fundamental error of assuming that saving the relationship = good and ending the relationship = bad. Nothing could be further from the truth. There is no such thing as intrinsic good or bad in life. But there is love, and sometimes you have to love someone enough to set them free from a situation that is obviously causing them distress. That has the extra bonus of freeing you up to seek someone who will return your love and trust.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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