Expert advice to get your relationships back on track
2010
Ryan Asked:“my girl friend is a skatter and its like at times she rather skate or skate with her ex(he tought her how to skate) then to be with me should i be worried.”
- Ryan (21, Lodi, CA)
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Dear Ryan,
Your girlfriend likes doing something she enjoys. Should you be worried? You should be worried if there was nothing she enjoyed doing.
It can be quite healthy for people in couples to have interests separate from each other. After all, you may be a couple, but you are also two individuals.
Should you be worried? That is for you to decide, but worrying does little constructive good. When she’s skating, you could focus on your own interests.
As for her skating with her ex, isn’t there a reason they’re exes? You have to either trust her or end things, since distrust and suspicion are not ingredients for a good relationship.
Sincerely,
Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examine
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Hey Ryan:
Have you told her how you feel about it. If you have and she still does it then yes I would not only be worried but I would break it off with her. If you have not had that conversation, do it immediately. It is totally inappropriate for her to go off skating with her ex and leave you at home.
Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder
marriagecoach1.wordpress.com
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@ Suzanne, I’m sure they’re exes for a reason, but when has that ever stopped two people from messing around or getting back together? It can still happen.
@ Ryan….
I just read an article yesterday, on how cheating is “situational.” Meaning, being around her ex a lot gives her more of a chance to cheat, whereas spending most of her time with YOU, WON’T.
Now, I don’t FULLY agree with that, since I think you should be held responsible for your own actions. However, a lot of people do end up cheating without ever intending to.
My advice would be to find an interest in something that she likes, or get HER interested in something YOU like, so that you guys can spend more fun time TOGETHER. That way, it won’t be all about her ex. She may still SKATE with him once in a while, but she’ll have such a connection with YOU (based on how close you guys are) that cheating likely won’t cross her mind as much.
Good luck.
JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com
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