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Porsche Simpson Said,
April 21st, 2010 @4:50 pm  

Hey Jon,
something isn’t right between your boyfriend and his ex. There is no reason why he should be hiding things from you; where is the respect? Obviously his ex isn’t concerned about your feelings and your boyfriend isn’t trying to fix this problem so you need reevaluate your relationship. REALLY let your boyfriend know that his communication with his ex is upsetting you very much. Is he acting strange like something is going on or you just don’t like the fact that they’re speaking?
I’m friends with my ex so if he hasn’t actually cheated maybe, just maybe they are only friends.
I recommend sitting him down and really telling him how you feel.
Good Luck

Porsche Simpson
Single Girl in San Diego
http://www.singlegirlinsandiego.com

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April 20th, 2010 @8:43 am  

Hi Jon

This is a most difficult issue…I’ve always said ex’s are ex’s for a reason. But sometimes there are lingering feelings and unanswered questions, when that happens the past has a way of dragging us back in to answer what was never concluded before. Unfortunately you need to communicate with your bf in no uncertain terms about how you feel. Be prepared because the past can have such a hold on us that we unknowingly risk a good relationship to the memories of the past! In our minds we run all the perfect moments of the relationship and tend to dismiss the real issues of why the breakup happen in the first place!
You don’t have an easy path, but know that you are not alone..

Good luck

Gina Landeau
Hello Ms Heartbreak, I’ve been expecting you!

HelloMsHeartbreak@yahoo.com

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
April 18th, 2010 @11:51 am  

Dear Jon,

It’s probably time for an ultimatum. If your boyfriend’s communication with his ex is so stressful for your relationship then something needs to change.

But first ask yourself if you are ready to break up over this issue. If you are, then let your boyfriend know.

If you are not ready to end your relationship over your boyfriend being in contact with his ex, then you should probably just tell your boyfriend, again, that the contact with his ex displeases you. Perhaps that it displeases you will be enough that your boyfriend will end the communication, but since that hasn’t worked so far ….

Best of luck.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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April 17th, 2010 @11:24 pm  

I understand your pain. I, myself, have had to deal with the ex that just “won’t go away.” It’s not fun. But here is what I have to say: You confront your partner….great! But, how do you do it? Are you doing it in an accusatory fashion? No wonder he is becoming defensive! But if it is the contrary and you are doing in a manner of a “fact-finding mission,” (non-accusatory tone) then I assume that you are have a conversation about the problem and raising concerns. With the way you are painting this picture to me, it sounds like this ex and him normally aren’t on speaking terms and are not friendly. If they happened to be friendly all the time towards each other, it would not be so bad for them to meet up and spend time together; JUST AS LONG AS YOU ARE THERE WITH THEM. By your partner doing that, it shows the ex, I have no hard feelings because I am able to hang out with you. But, yet, I have no romantic emotion towards you either because I believe that this time should be spend with my significant other as well. But if that is not the case either: If you are being nice and telling him what is important to you, then it SHOULD BE important to him as well! He should be putting you and your needs first. It’s called sacrifice. But if it is not, and he continues to contact his ex out of spite or for one reason or another, then he is not acting out of love. You deserve to be with someone who will love and respect you…he would not be your man. Some other signs of a man possibly cheating are when he stops touching you or becomes disconnected sexually. If this happens on top of the fact that he is defensive and trying to cover up the emails, then I do believe that you have cause to wonder if he is cheating. You can find out all the information you need by doing this in a calm manner and keeping a cool head. Make the logical decision and put yourself first in this situation. Don’t “beat a dead horse” when it comes to this either. If he isn’t willing to communicate with you, reason with you, or make any moves to cut off from him ex, then I would say it is in your best interest to leave him. Be strong.

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-dhitt Said,
April 17th, 2010 @8:28 pm  

Relationshps ‘seem’ to be about many things but in truth they are about one thing… ATTRACTION.

Your fella feels *attraction* for his previous fella (did I get that part right?) that much you have probably surmised for yourself but noting it and changing it are worlds apart, also something you already found out…

Let’s get this straight, all those other words: trust, mutual, respect… blah, blah, blah

They will not help you here. But if you give up… those words will help you feel better about giving up.

If you’d like to control the amount of attraction you create… then take a look…

Tips for Flirting

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April 16th, 2010 @8:27 pm  

If your partner does not respect you enough to cut ties with this loser then it’s pretty obvious that the relationship is over.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com

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April 16th, 2010 @6:44 pm  

Uhh, LEAVE! lol Why stay with him if the relationship isn’t making you happy? I know you probably LOVE him and all, but if things aren’t MUTUAL, why stay?

A good relationship is based on honesty, trust, and good communication. YOUR relationship has NONE of those three. So, it doesn’t have a high chance of standing. The foundation is compromised.

The way I see it, the next time you bring up his ex, and he tries to avoid it, tell him “We have to have communication between us, or this union won’t work.” If he still tries to avoid it, then tell him he can either be with his ex COMPLETELY, or he can cut him OFF completely. But if he DOESN’T cut him off, YOU’RE LEAVING.

JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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April 16th, 2010 @6:09 pm  

Your partner is not showing you respect. He continues to communicate with your ex. It is ultimatum time. However I suspect that even if he promises not to talk to him anymore you will find him sneaking around your back. I say it is time for a new boyfriend

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April 16th, 2010 @3:44 pm  

Hi Jon.

Sorry you are having trouble dealing with an “ex-factor”. Honestly, you can’t control your partner from communicating with other people, ex or not. Hoping that nothing is going on and being upset will get you no where fast. Ask your partner directly if something is going on and if he says “no”, then believe him until you have direct proof that he is having an affair. If he is having an affair, chances are something is going on in your relationship that he doesn’t want to deal with so he is straying. Talk to him and perhaps counseling is an option to get your relationship on track. If he is happy within your relationship there would be no reason he would have an affair with someone else and jeopardize what the two of you have. The key is to communicate openly.

Take care,

Robbie Lee
http://www.robbie411.com

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