Sounds like you are way to focused in on this girl instead of being focused on your own life! Why would you be willing to lose everything just to be with someone who can’t or won’t make up their mind? you have got to get back on track, get in school, work things out with your parents, etc… life is way too short for all this drama that you are allowing to unfold. Be present in the moment and not stuck on the past! You might think that throwing everything away just to be with this girl is the right thing to do? But you are throwing up alot of red flags already being jealous and such…you got to stop. whatever she is going to do is not going to change just because you confront her…love and life should never be this hard.Though it may seem like the end of the world, it is not and believe it or not there will be other women in your life who will not be as draining to your life as this girl seems to be? Get your life back on track and worry about love further on down the line…

good luck

Gina Landeau

Hello Ms Heartbreak, I’ve been expecting you!

You are obsessed, and frankly, it’s not all that healthy.

OF COURSE your priority should be to go to school and become an adult. You are not ready for a mature relationship, as demonstrated by your crazy fixation on her and her activities.

You need to meet other people, go out, have fun, DO NOT talk about her any more. Ever. Do not contact her, as you obviously cannot handle being “just friends.”

It doesn’t matter if she ever lied to you, nor if she ever lied to you. MOVE ON.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

When you were trying to make plans with her, and she was always blowing you off, did she “need you” THEN? No. She blew you off for her ex.

She claimed she had no time for you, using her parents or work as an excuse. Yet somehow, she still managed to have time for her EX. How does THAT work? Sure they may work together, but if you’re at work, you WORK. You don’t spend the whole time having deep conversations, which is what they must’ve done, in order to discuss him MOVING with her, and getting back TOGETHER after. Right?

So even though she says she never LIED to you, I can count THREE of them:

Lie #1 (I already exposed it)

Lie #2 was when she promised you she’d never go back with her ex. Hmmm, then why was she DISCUSSING that exact POSSIBILITY with HIM? She lied again.

Lie #3, going back to my first statement, about how she “can’t live without” you. If that’s true, why did it take her a WEEK to finally CONTACT you? She knew she was wrong, so she could’ve tried to apologize (a LOT) way before a WEEK. She could’ve tried a lot harder. Then FINALLY, a week goes by, and she suddenly can’t live without you? Hell, she ALMOST lived without you for damn near a MONTH since she was BARELY SEEING you, claiming she was too BUSY for you. Well, why is she suddenly NOT “too busy”?

Maybe you should ask her those questions, and see what she says. Then again, being a liar, I’m not sure you can trust her answers. Good luck, tho.

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You really really need to man up here. You have responsibilities. Your number one responsibility is to go to school so that you can get a decent job to be able to support any woman and children. You have to be man that people can count on when the going gets tough not crumble like a little girl and fall apart. Your parents are trying to get through to you.

No matter how tough things get, you have to take care of your responsibilites.
Now man up and act like a man instead of a silly little school girl. Women are attracted to strong self confident men which you are neither. They want a guy that the can count on when the going gets tough. Straighten yourself out first and then maybe you will get your girlfriend back. There are other girls who will appreciate you if you become a man. Right now, you have no business being with any girl because you are an emotional mess. You need to get yourself in order before you can be trusted to be in a relationship with a girl.

The best thing that you could do right now is to enlist in the military and they will make a man out of you and make you grow up. Then you can have money for school that your parents don’t have to pay for. You can also go to schoool while you are in the military. Right now you are not a man but a 19 year old girl and not a very mature girl at that.

marriagecoach1@yahoo.com

Forget about her, the real question here is why YOU are putting up with so much drama. And the answer is simple: You have next to no experience being an independent adult who knows who he is, what’s important to him, where he is, where he’s going, etc. In other words, you don’t know yourself. You can’t because you’ve spent almost your entire life living by other people’s rules. Now here you are loaded with testosterone and torn between your biological imperative to have a lot of sex and a set of artificial morals that say it’s bad to have sex without a commitment. These morals have been instilled into us by a bunch of people whose own track record of evil pales beyond any comparison. I’m speaking, of course, of the church. No amount of dogma and resulting morality can ever hope to compete against millions of years of evolution, period. Anyone who tells you differently is either deluded and/or trying to delude you.

So, what to do?

Live your life! You will be amazed at how fast your youth vanishes. So go out, travel, explore, learn, do, and be. Discover who you are and what matters to you in this all-too-short life. then, when you are no younger than 30, consider getting into a serious relationship. There is no magic guarantee that you’ll be truly mature at 30 or any age, but you almost certainly won’t have the necessary wisdom any time before that. When the time comes, then and only then will you be able to enter into a truly serious committed relationship that is based on two mature adults coming together for who they are, not for who they want the other person to be or who they are trying to escape from. Mature love says, “I need you because I love you” while immature love says, “I love you because I need you.”

In the meantime, have as much (safe) sex as you want and have all the relationships you want. Just don’t, under any circumstances, tolerate any drama like this ever again.

Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com