Expert advice to get your relationships back on track
2009
Angel Asked:“She told me she wanted a relationship, so that she can grow old with. I asked her for her number but she told me she will call to give it to me but she never called. Is this person emotinally stable?”
- Angel (47)
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Hey Angel:
My aren’t you full of yourself. The woman did not give you her number and you think that she is mentally unstable. Do you honestly think that all women who are not attracted to you must be mentally unstable.
I say it is time to dial back the arrogance and take a hard look at yourself. It says far more about you than it does her. She was trying to give you a clue and a nice and easy brush off. Women have a harder time being direct and are more indirect. They don’t want to hurt your feelings so you are forced to read between the lines, it is just that you did not get the very clear clues here.
Hi Angel
Though what she said maybe true, that she wants to find someone fall in love and grow old with that person. It does not mean that the comment was directed at you? If she did not give you her number then there is not much more you can do…but wait and let her make the first move? If there is going to be any? Alot of women have set ideas about what kind of partner they want in their lives. I’ve known women who have a list of must have’s for their romantic interests and believe me…it is difficult trying to figure out what they want? It’s best to let things be…save yourself the drama and keep looking for your own Ms Right!
good luck
Gina Landeau
Hello Ms Heartbreak, I’ve been expecting you!
Dear Angel,
Basing the judgment of emotional stability on not getting a phone number is a stretch at best.
There are any number of reasons she didn’t give you her number, and emotional instability is only a remote one. Some of the more plausible reasons she didn’t give you her number are that she didn’t want to give you her number, that because she is only looking for long-term prospects she didn’t think you qualified, that she simply forgot to call you, etc.
Chances are she said she wanted a long-term commitment in an effort to make you disinterested in her. Obviously, that backfired so she said she’d call you. Every hear the phrase, “Don’t call us, we’ll call you?” That seems to be what she’s done.
No need to get worked up after what seems like only one conversation. Move on.
Sincerely,
Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner
She said she wanted a relationship. That doesn’t mean she wants one with you. And if you have to ask this question before even beginning said potential relationship, then you are much better off remaining single.
Anthony Hernandez
http://www.theenlightenedsavage.com
Shela Dean
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Angel,
Sweetie, just because she tells you she wants a relationship to grow old with doesn’t mean she wants a relationship with you.
Just because a woman doesn’t call you, doesn’t mean she’s emotionally unstable.
She’s giving you the brush off.
Kim Hess Divorce Guru
http://www.KimHess.com