Mar 19

2010

Ask Our Relationship Experts: I’m obsessed with my boyfriend.

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advice.lovedetour.com Ask Our Relationship Experts: Im obsessed with my boyfriend. askourexperts2 imageAshely Asked:

“i have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. we love eachother a lot but i have gotten to the point where i am obsessive about him, i worry and think about him constantly, if he doesnt pick up the phone i panic, if i dont see or talk to him i get extremely sad and hurt. i never used to be like this so i think something is wrong. i even make up ideas in my head that he is going to break up with me or he doesnt love me anymore. is there a way to stop being this way? what is wrong with me? is there a way to deal with this and stop being so obsessive?”

Ashely (19, Las Vegas, NM)


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dbl07 Said,
September 24th, 2011 @9:24 pm  

I feel the exact same way with my girlfriend. I am completely out of control with this and I hate it. I want so badly to change because she is so good. I can feel myself being distanced by her. Or is that just me being paranoid :?

HELP

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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
March 20th, 2010 @12:47 pm  

Dear Ashley,

You need some hobbies. There’s nothing wrong with you, but clearly you have too much time on your hands if you’re obsessing about your boyfriend.

Just like any habit, obsessing may be hard to break. Every time you think about your boyfriend – when he isn’t right there with you or on the phone with you – do something else. Try going for a jog or to the gym. Or join some sort of social group so you have to do something other than think about your boyfriend.

You are a complete person both with and without him so go live your life.

Sincerely,

Suzanne White Montiel
SF Sex and Relationships Examiner
http://www.examiner.com/x-14163-SF-Sex-and-Relationships-Examiner

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Jason Love Said,
March 20th, 2010 @6:35 am  

Unless there’s a reason to worry, don’t. You’ve already admitted that you never USED to be this way, which means you don’t have to be NOW.

It’s likely that you’re more paranoid now because of how well the relationship is going, and like ANY pessimist, or any “worrier”, you’re worried that it won’t last, or that something will go wrong.

This is normal for some people, but it’s really unhealthy. Find other things in your life that you enjoy. Hobbies, friends, activities, etc. Get a life outside of him.

It’s natural for some women to make their boyfriend the center of their universe. But it’s NEVER good to make him your ENTIRE universe. So, relax, enjoy how things are going, and don’t mess them up by stressing yourself to death over all these irrational, unfounded fears you have, that are probably going to ruin your relationship in the end, if you don’t stop.

If you need some MORE help, EMAIL me at:
JayTheAdviceMan@aol.com

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March 19th, 2010 @9:29 pm  

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John Wilder Said,
March 19th, 2010 @8:03 pm  

First of all, you are young and immature. Maturity is about having self confidence. Women are notorious worriers and practice “negative self talk.”

Believe me if you don’t get a handle on this, it will be a self fulfilling prophecy. No one wants to be around an insecure, clingy, nervous woman. Have confidence and work on being the very best girlfriend that you can be.

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John Wilder

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