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Suzanne White Montiel Said,
August 4th, 2010 @12:55 am  

Dear Vera,

I suggest you and this man go your separate ways. He seems to like having a string of ladies but you want monogamy; these things are not compatible.

Try dating men closer to your age, as they are more likely to have similar expectations from their relationships.


Suzanne White Montiel

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August 2nd, 2010 @8:24 pm  


In all honesty, you already have all the proof you need that this guy is up to no good, and not being truthful about it. Therefore, what are you sticking around for?

Are you hoping that he’ll tell you something you will believe, so you will trust him again? Are you hoping that all these girls will just magically disappear from his life? Are you hoping he can put your mind at ease and make you think you’re WRONG about this stuff? If so, you need to STOP hoping RIGHT NOW. Because it WILL NOT HAPPEN.

You already know what’s going on. So why stay? What exactly are you asking us? The proof is there. So, FORGET HIS WORDS, and use your common sense. LEAVE this man. That is what you need to do.

And if you need anymore advice, EMAIL me:

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July 31st, 2010 @7:46 pm  

Dear Vera,

I’m certain that you want more in a relationship than what you are getting from this man and I’m afraid there’s nothing but heartache ahead if you continue. It’s time to be strong and let it go so that you can find the kind of relationship you want. You are just on the threshold of exciting and wonderful things. Don’t waste another minute with this guy.

Shela Dean
Relationship Coach, Speaker & Bestselling Author

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July 31st, 2010 @5:42 am  

Hi Vera

It is not easy when you realize that other person is not as fully invested in the relationship as you are? Best to let this player go for that is exactly what he is? I understand your pain as you were making plans for a future with him but he was not. A player enjoys the game of having all the attention from the ladies but rarely will reciporcate unless there is something in it for them like sex… It will be difficult to let go…but let go you must. You are just begginning to experience life on a grander level and certainly deserve more what he can give. You will find what fate has is store for you but you must let go of the past in order to move forward.
There is a saying that goes ‘ Once you know something, you cannot unknow it’. You know this guy is a player, you have seen the proof. Don’t let him con his way back into your life just to use you. Use your energy to move forward and let him continue his game…life is too short to play games and you certainly deserve a better man this this!

good luck
Gina Landeau
Hello Ms Heartbreak, I’ve been expecting you!

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July 30th, 2010 @12:26 pm  

Vera, you need to go out and live with a woman room mate and make a life for yourself independent of this man. He is definitely a player and just using you for sex. You need to find a man who wants to be with you for a relationship and marriage and children, not just a man who wants to use you for sex when he can’t get it from other women.

Blessings on you and yours
John Wilder

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